As a male cancer, all these questions about male cancer disappearing act...

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by crabbycrab76 on Thursday, September 17, 2015 and has 48 replies.

Understanding Male Cancer Feelings and Emotional Shifts

Male Cancerians often experience emotional ups and downs that can lead to feelings of wanting to withdraw. These shifts are linked to their sensitive nature and intuitive personality. Recognizing and embracing these emotions can help manage mood swings and improve self-understanding. If you feel overwhelmed, talking to someone or exploring astrology can offer valuable insights.

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...is making me feel like I want to disappear to my damn shell and never come out! HaHa!!

I haven't had this feeling in a long time. In recent past, many, many cancers have given valiant effort in trying to explain our feelings and behaviours to others. But is seems like for every question that is answered, ten more questions take it's place! 😐 Man other signs can nickpick shit to death! Sheesh!

Any other fellow cancers feeling this way?

I get other signs wanting to understand. I'm just in a very crabby ass mood this morning!

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Oh, and feeling crabby, could it be something else? Maybe something astro is affecting you?

Cancer man is shelled up tight too. My poor darling.

😢

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...is making me feel like I want to disappear to my damn shell and never come out! HaHa!!

I haven't had this feeling in a long time. In recent past, many, many cancers have given valiant effort in trying to explain our feelings and behaviours to others. But is seems like for every question that is answered, ten more questions take it's place! 😐 Man other signs can nickpick shit to death! Sheesh!

Any other fellow cancers feeling this way?

I get other signs wanting to understand. I'm just in a very crabby ass mood this morning!

So now you know how we feel every time a new Pisces regusters with their debut thread "Am I the only Pisces that _____ fill in the blank" 😄

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Ummmmm....yeah!
I guess all signs have to deal with something, huh?

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Posted by Arrius
Damnit, we need to be able to edit posts.

You're probably trying to explain something non-tangible to a sign other than a Water sign. It's not worth your time or energy, and you will likely fail.

And a Water sign trying to comprehensively explain his or her feelings or emotions to other elements is usually pointless. The endless questions and nitpicking are a giveaway to their non-comprehension. You might as well go and talk to a cat.

And why do you owe an accounting for your behavior to anyone but God, your SIGO (maybe) or the courts (if you are apprehended)? And that's for your own actions let alone some other Crab/Scorp/Fish who has decamped.

You may want to ask the questioner, "Hmm. Why do YOU think he left?"

Maybe it's just guilt on my end cause I did put my gf through the same, so I just wanna try to help. It doesn't matter now, I've given all the insight I have at this point and have nothing more to add that can help them understand.

I just wish they could go with the flow a little more for their own sake cause I know as a cancer that has done this myself, their cancer is not likely to change anytime soon and he's probably just getting started. 😢

But you're right, we're trying to explain fluid emotions that are not so black and white as some of them seem to need things to be. We can't help our nature. Seems they can't help theirs either. So what gives?. Idk. I just know I'm tapped out at this point and I do feel bad for them and their cancer cause I know he's probably trying his best and is just as confused with their reaction has they are to his disappearance.

If only they would just let go and go with the flow then their relationship with cancer can work out so much better for them. I got better over time. If they hang in with their cancer, he will probably get better with time too, but that's just doesn't seem to be enough. Maybe it's the down side of being their sign - they need answers NOW damnit. Lol

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Posted by crabbycrab76
...is making me feel like I want to disappear to my damn shell and never come out! HaHa!!

I haven't had this feeling in a long time. In recent past, many, many cancers have given valiant effort in trying to explain our feelings and behaviours to others. But is seems like for every question that is answered, ten more questions take it's place! 😐 Man other signs can nickpick shit to death! Sheesh!

Any other fellow cancers feeling this way?

I get other signs wanting to understand. I'm just in a very crabby ass mood this morning!

Got tired of answering, so I don't.
Sometimes I might, but most of those posts as statements posed in the form of a question.
Those I won't answer to, except for the occasional making fun.

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Posted by WildHHeartGemini
@crabbycrab76 and all the other crabs: Sorry if any of my posts stressed you out 😢 From the bottom of my heart I apologize. Much love!

Eh, it's the accumulation of all the threads - all complaining about the same thing - not just one particular thread, so don't feel bad.

I'm just dxp overloaded and all boards have *something* they are constantly getting questions about. Don't sweat it. But it's sweet for you to apologized.

Btw, I got your pm. Will need to defunct for awhile before responding. You don't want me answering while I'm still in a crabby mood - who knows what the hell I'll blurt out then. 😉. I'm not ignoring it tho. 🙂

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Posted by MiZLeo
Awe crabbycrab not all of us are baffled by your crazy ways. 🙂

Aww thanks! Cause one starts to feel like - doesn't anybody get us? 😉 .

So now you have to visit the crab board more often and weigh in on their questions when we crabs go mia! 😛

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Posted by Pisces15
Reason why I've started threads is because the behaviour of a Cancerian confuses me. I've never gotten close to a Cancerian man before so that's why I asked here.

Sorry to have gotten you into a 'crabby mood' . .

I understand.

I'm responsible for my own crabby ass mood. I could have easily disconnected from dxp for awhile, but I didn't and now so I suffered the consequences. Don't pay me no mind, it's just a pity party - it'll pass.

It's sweet of you to apologize, but no apology was needed. You were just using dxp as design. I'm the dumb-ass here. :p

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Posted by thinktoomuch
Cancer forum is not the only forum to get these questions - all the time!!!! It´s just us women who for some unknown reason feel the need t understand some guys every move and thought....

But I must admit, some of the questions here are veryy...... What to call it... Over the top. The "I sent my man pics, he responded, I did it again next morning, he didn´t respond, what´s going on" is a bit too dramatic even for me.

But remember: dxp is not a place, where you filter yourelf. People come here and ask questions, that they wouldn´t ask their friends, because they know, that their friends would probably tell them to stfu! 😄 (myself included once upon a time...)

Yep. Too funny - cause I thought of a similiar scenario

"... cancer and I got together, he assured me everything was ok, then I sneezed, and we kissed goodbye. I haven't heard from him since. Do you think it was because I sneezed? He seemed so happy before he left. It's been 3 min and 5 seconds since I heard from him. Should I wait another 2 min or start blowing up his phone now?".

I tell you - this fits the same template. Lol! The devil is in the details 😛

Ofcourse I'm being facetious, and the posts are better than that! But that's scenario got me out of my crabby ass mood!

Ah-choo! Oh, excuse me please. 🙂

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Posted by thinktoomuch
OMG, you´re totally flipping the script on me!! Whatever can it mean, when YOU sneeze!??!?!?! Should I sneeze too?!?! Should I send you a text about it?!?! I think, I´m just donna ignore it and wait for you to contact me.
I´ll make a topic about it untill then to keep me occupied.

😄

Shit! LMAO!! Too damn funny!

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Moral of the Story: Stop treating people like shit.

Just because you feel something you don't like it it doesn't give you the right to hide in your shell aka be a coward. Especially when you're involved with another person. That's fucked up. Respect the fact that it takes a lot of courage to open ones heart. Especially in a relationship.Be open even when you're not sure. Don't play games. Don't ignore people. Don't hurt people because of your own insecurities/inabilities.

Hiding in your shell of cowardice protects you but hurts other people so at the end of the day you have to look at the bigger picture. While talking about issues might be really uncomfortable it can address and solve the actual problem. Hiding in a shell does nothing but hurt people and keep the problem where it is: unsolved.

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Posted by KaptainKhaos
Moral of the Story: Stop treating people like shit.

Just because you feel something you don't like it it doesn't give you the right to hide in your shell aka be a coward. Especially when you're involved with another person. That's fucked up. Respect the fact that it takes a lot of courage to open ones heart. Especially in a relationship.Be open even when you're not sure. Don't play games. Don't ignore people. Don't hurt people because of your own insecurities/inabilities.

Hiding in your shell of cowardice protects you but hurts other people so at the end of the day you have to look at the bigger picture. While talking about issues might be really uncomfortable it can address and solve the actual problem. Hiding in a shell does nothing but hurt people and keep the problem where it is: unsolved.

hmmmm..you sound bitter. 😢

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Posted by KaptainKhaos
Moral of the Story: Stop treating people like shit.

Just because you feel something you don't like it it doesn't give you the right to hide in your shell aka be a coward. Especially when you're involved with another person. That's fucked up. Respect the fact that it takes a lot of courage to open ones heart. Especially in a relationship.Be open even when you're not sure. Don't play games. Don't ignore people. Don't hurt people because of your own insecurities/inabilities.

Hiding in your shell of cowardice protects you but hurts other people so at the end of the day you have to look at the bigger picture. While talking about issues might be really uncomfortable it can address and solve the actual problem. Hiding in a shell does nothing but hurt people and keep the problem where it is: unsolved.

+1

Camp II Cancers always get what they have coming to them.

Some call it "Karma."

Others call it "Order in the Universe."

No matter what it is called, it definitely comes around for the Camp II types.

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Karma, huh? Well, she must be looking really favorably on me lately. 😛

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On a serious note, my man hasn't texted me in 3 hours.

Serious red flags!

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3hrs is a serious red flag— C'mon now.
I may not hear back from my gf for the whole working day if she's busy in meetings and whatnot. I don't say to myself - oh, that's a red flag. I just know she's busy.

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Posted by kissmygrits
How many times do we have to go over this shit?

IKR! I give up. I get that it comes off as inconsiderate and all. But it does seems to me people take it very VERY personally - like their cancer is purposely trying to hurt them. Unless he is some sadist piece of shit, I would hope he's not trying to purposely hurt them. 😢

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Posted by kissmygrits
I disappear because I'm pissed off. I tell the person I'm pissed and to fuck off until ive cooled down. I'm a July 9 killer. 😛

Why don't people see that as a loving gesture. It's our way of saying, .."..Hey, I don't want to blow up on your ass, so I'm just gonna disappear for awhile so we will still be good when this shit is all over..." 😛

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Posted by kissmygrits
I disappear because I'm pissed off. I tell the person I'm pissed and to fuck off until ive cooled down. I'm a July 9 killer. 😛

Why don't people see that as a loving gesture. It's our way of saying, .."..Hey, I don't want to blow up on your ass, so I'm just gonna disappear for awhile so we will still be good when this shit is all over..." 😛

This sounds great to me too - but rarely do they say this first. Otherwise there´d be no problem.

MY cancer man haven´t contacted me for like... Ever!!! ... Oh wait... I don´t have one... Nevermind 😄

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LOL!
You never know, one of us cancers may be able to get our claws into you yet where you'll be screaming for him to *just leave you the hell alone*! 😛
Btw, you seemed to be moving on really well. It's nice to see you less stressed and happier. 🙂

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Posted by thinktoomuch
I was just writing in another topic, that maybe create some sort of guideline for people/girls/women with "dissapearing" cancer men: what are THEY supposed to do? Instead of constantly analyzing the cancer.

I have a cancer-sort-of-friend-used-to-date-and-was-in-love-with, and soon I´ve know him for 4 years. I still think he´s weird as hell! 😄 😄 That´s just the way he is. Full of surprises and with his own made up rules about everything, that will never make sense to anybody else. Whatcanyoudo?! Just let him be him. If I need to bitch about it continuesly, then I should just leave it be. I am a grown woman afterall.

Me like!
Yeah, we can be weird. I *think* I make sense here, but I swear my girl be giving me the *what fucking planet do you live on* look!
HaHa!!
But that's better than boring, right?

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Posted by crabbycrab76

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Moral of the Story: Stop treating people like shit.

Just because you feel something you don't like it it doesn't give you the right to hide in your shell aka be a coward. Especially when you're involved with another person. That's fucked up. Respect the fact that it takes a lot of courage to open ones heart. Especially in a relationship.Be open even when you're not sure. Don't play games. Don't ignore people. Don't hurt people because of your own insecurities/inabilities.

Hiding in your shell of cowardice protects you but hurts other people so at the end of the day you have to look at the bigger picture. While talking about issues might be really uncomfortable it can address and solve the actual problem. Hiding in a shell does nothing but hurt people and keep the problem where it is: unsolved.

hmmmm..you sound bitter. 😢

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Not over no Cancer I'm not. 😆

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Posted by KaptainKhaos
Moral of the Story: Stop treating people like shit.

Just because you feel something you don't like it it doesn't give you the right to hide in your shell aka be a coward. Especially when you're involved with another person. That's fucked up. Respect the fact that it takes a lot of courage to open ones heart. Especially in a relationship.Be open even when you're not sure. Don't play games. Don't ignore people. Don't hurt people because of your own insecurities/inabilities.

Hiding in your shell of cowardice protects you but hurts other people so at the end of the day you have to look at the bigger picture. While talking about issues might be really uncomfortable it can address and solve the actual problem. Hiding in a shell does nothing but hurt people and keep the problem where it is: unsolved.

hmmmm..you sound bitter. 😢

Not over no Cancer I'm not. 😆

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Maybe not, but over something tho.

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Posted by KaptainKhaos
Moral of the Story: Stop treating people like shit.

Just because you feel something you don't like it it doesn't give you the right to hide in your shell aka be a coward. Especially when you're involved with another person. That's fucked up. Respect the fact that it takes a lot of courage to open ones heart. Especially in a relationship.Be open even when you're not sure. Don't play games. Don't ignore people. Don't hurt people because of your own insecurities/inabilities.

Hiding in your shell of cowardice protects you but hurts other people so at the end of the day you have to look at the bigger picture. While talking about issues might be really uncomfortable it can address and solve the actual problem. Hiding in a shell does nothing but hurt people and keep the problem where it is: unsolved.

hmmmm..you sound bitter. 😢

Not over no Cancer I'm not. 😆

Maybe not, but over something tho.

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I hate people that treat people like shit. Period. Pisces, Scorpio, Virgo, Gemini, whatever. I hate people that only keep people in their lives until they're bored then suddenly cut them off because "meeeehhhh I don't know. Bye". Atleast allow the person you've hurt to get closure.

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Posted by KaptainKhaos
Moral of the Story: Stop treating people like shit.

Just because you feel something you don't like it it doesn't give you the right to hide in your shell aka be a coward. Especially when you're involved with another person. That's fucked up. Respect the fact that it takes a lot of courage to open ones heart. Especially in a relationship.Be open even when you're not sure. Don't play games. Don't ignore people. Don't hurt people because of your own insecurities/inabilities.

Hiding in your shell of cowardice protects you but hurts other people so at the end of the day you have to look at the bigger picture. While talking about issues might be really uncomfortable it can address and solve the actual problem. Hiding in a shell does nothing but hurt people and keep the problem where it is: unsolved.

hmmmm..you sound bitter. 😢

Not over no Cancer I'm not. 😆

Maybe not, but over something tho.

I hate people that treat people like shit. Period. Pisces, Scorpio, Virgo, Gemini, whatever. I hate people that only keep people in their lives until they're bored then suddenly cut them off because "meeeehhhh I don't know. Bye". Atleast allow the person you've hurt to get closure.

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I get what you're saying, but since when does a person owe anyone anything including closure? Just saying. Seems we live in a world of *somebody owes me (fill in the blank)*.

Personally, I wouldn't want my happiness to depend on what someone will or will not give me cause you're bound to not get it at some point in your life.

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Moral of the Story: Stop treating people like shit.

Just because you feel something you don't like it it doesn't give you the right to hide in your shell aka be a coward. Especially when you're involved with another person. That's fucked up. Respect the fact that it takes a lot of courage to open ones heart. Especially in a relationship.Be open even when you're not sure. Don't play games. Don't ignore people. Don't hurt people because of your own insecurities/inabilities.

Hiding in your shell of cowardice protects you but hurts other people so at the end of the day you have to look at the bigger picture. While talking about issues might be really uncomfortable it can address and solve the actual problem. Hiding in a shell does nothing but hurt people and keep the problem where it is: unsolved.

hmmmm..you sound bitter. 😢

Not over no Cancer I'm not. 😆

Maybe not, but over something tho.

I hate people that treat people like shit. Period. Pisces, Scorpio, Virgo, Gemini, whatever. I hate people that only keep people in their lives until they're bored then suddenly cut them off because "meeeehhhh I don't know. Bye". Atleast allow the person you've hurt to get closure.

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In my observation of people, we ALL treat people like shit in one area or another. Being sensitive in one area of shitty treatment doesn't mean we're not insensitive in another area. Demanding shit from people in my view is a form of treating people like shit because it's all about you - fuck what the other person may need or want. It's just another form of treating a person like shit. Anytime you put your feeling over another can be considered treating someone like shit.