Winning back a cancer ex

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Yapfully
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I met this cancer man about 10 months ago while he was on holiday here. We met, clicked, we liked each other. He seemed like a player type to me then. I felt so guilty of what happened I broke up with my boyfriend at the time who I had been with for 10 years. For this guy? A part of the reason yes. We don't live in the same city and we don't see each other that much. We text and we stuff. He is sweet. We became official or so he says. He doesn't talk about his feelings all that much so I get quite insecure about what I really meant to him. We've seen each other a few time in the past months. I was introduced to his family (but i think out of duress because I was friends with his sister). Anywho he doesn't talk about any serious or plan anything involving me even if I do believe that he really did care. I broke up with him a month ago because I really couldn't stand how insecure I felt and blamed it on him. I was miserable after because his response was basically just "ok". I think I made a mistake and that maybe I was being too dramatic or too needy because I was so used to my previous relationship? I told him I was sorry and that it was my fault for pushing too much that now the ball is in his court if he wants to talk. We are talking again and he gives me Kisses and calls me love and baby but we are not together. He says he can't answer that yet. I asked him if he sometimes wishes that we could be in the same city. He said he used to. So.. I'm confused about how he feels about me now and what I should do to win him back. Should I just keep texting him telling him about my day and life and share with him (even though he really doesn't talk much about his) or give him silence and wait for him to talk to me (which could be dayssss). What should I do?
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gia
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from my own experience with my cancerian ex, their feelings are like a color palette. When sure about a relationship they know green is green and yellow is yellow. When something emotionally shaking like a breakup happens, that color palette gets messed up.Moreover smudged. Yellow doesn't appear like yellow anymore but more like ochre color,you know? It looks yellow but not quite. So their feelings get messed up. They aren't sure about what they are feeling. Hence we have posts like "he's giving me hot and cold signs". Now this doesn't apply to a player type guy but if he was emotionally invested in you then yes. They themselves don't know what are they feeling and what they want. Hence,those endearing affectionate name calling but not ready for a relationship again just yet.
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Rihanna22
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10 YearsCancer

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"When sure about a relationship they know green is green and yellow is yellow. When something emotionally shaking like a breakup happens, that color palette gets messed up.Moreover smudged. Yellow doesn't appear like yellow anymore but more like ochre color,you know? It looks yellow but not quite. So their feelings get messed up. They aren't sure about what they are feeling. Hence we have posts like "he's giving me hot and cold signs". "


Omggggg....that is so true! I have never thought about it like that but this is exactly how I am.
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Posted by gia
from my own experience with my cancerian ex, their feelings are like a color palette. When sure about a relationship they know green is green and yellow is yellow. When something emotionally shaking like a breakup happens, that color palette gets messed up.Moreover smudged. Yellow doesn't appear like yellow anymore but more like ochre color,you know? It looks yellow but not quite. So their feelings get messed up. They aren't sure about what they are feeling. Hence we have posts like "he's giving me hot and cold signs". Now this doesn't apply to a player type guy but if he was emotionally invested in you then yes. They themselves don't know what are they feeling and what they want. Hence,those endearing affectionate name calling but not ready for a relationship again just yet.
Wow nice analogy!!! me being a bit of cancer in my chart, I do feel like that too...