Any help would be awesome- Taurus Woman & Cap Man

Hello,

Very insightful reading & glad I found this forum. Not planning any crazy future thoughts/dreams with this person since I was in the process of getting to know him, but I just don't want my time wasted. So here is the situation, will try to keep it short (no promises). Any questions, please feel free to ask away. Thanks again for reading 🙂 Here we go:

Me & this cap man have been following each other on Twitter for 3 months now. We would briefly like each others tweets and respond, etc. We didn't really start "talking" till about a month and a half ago. We share the same passion for a certain hobby (gaming). The first night, he was playing a game with and a mutual friend for hours. After that, me & him played together and were having lots of fun. We were enjoy each others company for days/week. We texted everyday, if not every other day. I would initiate text or he would. Moving on to a month later. After him having to cancel once due to logical reasons, we finally met up at a bar. Unfortunately we both got a little intoxicated on an empty stomach and we ended up kissing a few times that night, it was nice. My fear was that the next day, things would be weird since I'm told that Cap men like classy girls and didn't want him to think that I wasn't because I am. But luckily things were right back to normal in the sense of us enjoying our time playing games.

We met up for the 2nd time last week (Tuesday). Now I can be a spontaneous person at times, but he texted me out of nowhere that day at 5pm and asked me "what am I doing?" I didn't respond because I wasn't looking at my phone at that time. He then sent me a text a few minutes later saying "Do you want to go out, I'll pick you up". I'm the type of person that enjoys planning things ahead of time, even if its the day before. But seriously? That same day giving me 40min-1hr to get ready? I said "sure". So, I assumed it was a date since he dressed really nicely, and took me to a really nice place to eat. He thanked me for being so willing to hang out last minute. I said "that was very spontaneous of you to do such a thing. What made you do it?" He said it was because he wanted to see me. Of course my little heart warmed up to that, I mean who's wouldnt?

Anyways, towards the end of a fun night of laughing and enjoying each others company, He takes me back home, I thank him for a wonderful time and he extends his arms to hug me. I leaned in to hug and I don't know what came over me, but I chose to kiss him after the hug. I normally wait for the guy to make the move, but I couldn't help it. And plus, he didn't stop me, he kissed and made out along so idk lol. I said text me later and he said "of course". And walked inside my house.

This past weekend, he had to go away on a business trip which he does at least 6-8 times a year for which I know this because I know his industry very well. This is for a job he is incredibly proud of and is very passionate about. I have the upmost respect for those kinds of people. Now I understand that work is #1 in a caps eyes and I can respect that as long as I'm not forgotten. I'm not needy nor clingy but I don't enjoy being forgotten or ignored for a long period of time. Moving on, He didn't text me that night after date or the next day when he was traveling to his destination. So I decided to send him a kind text saying "good luck today, I'll be rooting for you and have fun on your trip". He responded with a "thanks" and a heart. The weekend comes and he's still on his trip. He didn't text me at all. I know he was super busy since this is an all day/night event, but still, it takes 2 seconds to send a text. I know I'm not his gf, I know he's still getting to know me. However, from the getgo, he's been flirting with me, even way before we met up and etc. I would like to think I'm more than just some random girl. I get it, we're both single and we both are allowed to live our lives how we want, but idk, still would've liked a text. So I left him alone for a whole day and didn't send a text or anything. The next day, I sent him a text because I heard from a mutual friend attending same event that things didn't go well. So later in the day, I decided to send a nice text saying "regardless of whatever happened, I'm still proud of you".

Not a response at all. We still follow each other on social media which I guess is a good thing and I've been active on it and so has he but I don't want to approach and seem needy. He once warned me a while back saying that when he gets really down he tends to disappear & I said; "Well everyone is different on how they handle failure." As long you don't forget me and eventually come back. He laughed and said sure. Is this what is going on? Is this his time to "disappear" and he'll come back when he's ready? He seems a little social on social media, not as much as usual but still somewhat active. I haven't been social to him personally on social media since I am giving him his space, but he knows I'm social on there too, so he can see. I at first assumed he was distant because I kissed him but that would've made zero sense since he went along with it and also since he responded to my text that i sent 2 days after our "date". I'm fine with continuing to live my life and so forth on my own, but I'm not 100% about how much I can handle that "disappearing act" if that's what's really going on. I've never had a cap guy enter my life so this is all new to me. I've dated Aries men (wish i didn't), Aquarius men. Can anyone give me some words of wisdom? What to expect? What to watch out for? How to make this end well? He seemed like a really good guy. From what our mutual friend said, "he is a relationship person. Even though the last person crushed him, he is still a caring, good hearted relationship guy." He made me laugh so much all the time and the vibe was just really good.

Again sorry for long post. Thanks for reading 🙂

leave him alone, respond if he approaches, act like you are not bothered by it and hope for the best

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only do this for a week or so - then move on

life is too short to wait for someone who doesn't want you ...

Posted by tcta
leave him alone, respond if he approaches, act like you are not bothered by it and hope for the best

but

only do this for a week or so - then move on

life is too short to wait for someone who doesn't want you ...

I appreciate you taking the time to respond. It's hilarious because as soon as I hit "post topic", he sends me a text saying "hey" LOL. Life is crazy isn't it? Anyways, I'm not going to respond right away. I'll wait a little bit before responding since I'm not in a rush now lol.

Still would love responses on how to handle a cap and what to look forward to since I am new to this kind of person.

Posted by kdee53

Posted by tcta
leave him alone, respond if he approaches, act like you are not bothered by it and hope for the best

but

only do this for a week or so - then move on

life is too short to wait for someone who doesn't want you ...

I appreciate you taking the time to respond. It's hilarious because as soon as I hit "post topic", he sends me a text saying "hey" LOL. Life is crazy isn't it? Anyways, I'm not going to respond right away. I'll wait a little bit before responding since I'm not in a rush now lol.

Still would love responses on how to handle a cap and what to look forward to since I am new to this kind of person.

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Dated a cap for several years and girl u got this ? Just chill for a little bit and make sure how much he likes u by the time u guys do spend together (it seems like he likes u a lot). Cap men need direction in my experience. If ur sure he likes u (based on ur experience) then tell him u want a relationship. He'll comply even if he needs a minute to think abt it. It was literally that easy for me. They make great boyfriends too and I think it cld go far but I think they'll always need that kind of specific direction to make u happy. I'd suggest not taking what he does naturally too personal. Or being too demanding. Just be prepared to be gently guiding throughout the relationship.

Hey, much similar to.mine, even if you and I do have our differences. I don't sit back and wait patiently like you can. If I sense that he's going through a tough time, I'd want to be there immediately. My intention isn't to be.clingy or needy or to disturb him, but to just be by the side of the one I love.

But, yes, he'd disappear just like that when everything would seem to be going normal in my eyes. Phew! Texting frequency came down drastically right after the day he texted me "I love you " the first time. We used to chat day and night, every time we'd get free time and immediately after the romance phase, he became "busy".

Since then, there's been a lot of push and pull and frustration on both sides! If you can be patient, please wait. Good luck!

Posted by kdee53

Posted by tcta
leave him alone, respond if he approaches, act like you are not bothered by it and hope for the best

but

only do this for a week or so - then move on

life is too short to wait for someone who doesn't want you ...

I appreciate you taking the time to respond. It's hilarious because as soon as I hit "post topic", he sends me a text saying "hey" LOL. Life is crazy isn't it? Anyways, I'm not going to respond right away. I'll wait a little bit before responding since I'm not in a rush now lol.

Still would love responses on how to handle a cap and what to look forward to since I am new to this kind of person.

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you are Taurus right ? handle anyone the way you would anyone else ... you can't astrologically label something you don't understand firsthand - when and until you actually know them and their traits and habits and nuances, it's all the more fun to then read into their chart

yes, wait and then also ask him what was the deal with the no communications ... if you call him out on it without anger it may make him think next time to send you that text even if he is not in the right mood - can't treat people that way if you want them to care about you ...

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Posted by tcta
leave him alone, respond if he approaches, act like you are not bothered by it and hope for the best

but

only do this for a week or so - then move on

life is too short to wait for someone who doesn't want you ...

"life is to short" every taurus i saying this

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because it is true - we are not promised the next minute of our life - not even the next second ...

you realize this when someone you love passes

you realize this when you get older and can look back as well as look forward

Posted by tcta

Posted by kdee53

Posted by tcta
leave him alone, respond if he approaches, act like you are not bothered by it and hope for the best

but

only do this for a week or so - then move on

life is too short to wait for someone who doesn't want you ...

I appreciate you taking the time to respond. It's hilarious because as soon as I hit "post topic", he sends me a text saying "hey" LOL. Life is crazy isn't it? Anyways, I'm not going to respond right away. I'll wait a little bit before responding since I'm not in a rush now lol.

Still would love responses on how to handle a cap and what to look forward to since I am new to this kind of person.

you are Taurus right ? handle anyone the way you would anyone else ... you can't astrologically label something you don't understand firsthand - when and until you actually know them and their traits and habits and nuances, it's all the more fun to then read into their chart

yes, wait and then also ask him what was the deal with the no communications ... if you call him out on it without anger it may make him think next time to send you that text even if he is not in the right mood - can't treat people that way if you want them to care about you ...

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You're right. I wasn't even sure about bringing it up. But I might, of course not with any form of anger. I wasn't angry just a little annoyed. I still have a long way to go so appreciate the response.

And yes I am a 100% Taurus.

Posted by kdee53

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Posted by kdee53

Posted by tcta
leave him alone, respond if he approaches, act like you are not bothered by it and hope for the best

but

only do this for a week or so - then move on

life is too short to wait for someone who doesn't want you ...

I appreciate you taking the time to respond. It's hilarious because as soon as I hit "post topic", he sends me a text saying "hey" LOL. Life is crazy isn't it? Anyways, I'm not going to respond right away. I'll wait a little bit before responding since I'm not in a rush now lol.

Still would love responses on how to handle a cap and what to look forward to since I am new to this kind of person.

you are Taurus right ? handle anyone the way you would anyone else ... you can't astrologically label something you don't understand firsthand - when and until you actually know them and their traits and habits and nuances, it's all the more fun to then read into their chart

yes, wait and then also ask him what was the deal with the no communications ... if you call him out on it without anger it may make him think next time to send you that text even if he is not in the right mood - can't treat people that way if you want them to care about you ...

You're right. I wasn't even sure about bringing it up. But I might, of course not with any form of anger. I wasn't angry just a little annoyed. I still have a long way to go so appreciate the response.

And yes I am a 100% Taurus.

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cool - when the dust settles, look into both of your other placements also ... of course - you could always broach the subject like "I wasn't sure you were still interested when I didn't hear from you for __ days" ... good luck!