Any Insight

Hi there

Despite being the one who filed for divorced, I still can't get over my ex husband 😢 We argued an awful lot and it was not a very nice break up. We hated each other when it ended and horrible things were said from both sides.

After a long period of no contact I got in touch with him last week to say hello and his responses have been very hostile and cold. I was wondering if there is anything in either of our charts that may help you lovely people throw some light on this for me.

Is he being cold because he genuinely no longer cares or is it a defence mechanism and he is keeping his walls up?

My chart

Sun Leo 11.23 Ascendant Pisces 18.16
Moon Aries 7.32 II Taurus 10.39
Mercury Virgo 8.15 III Gemini 6.48
Venus Cancer 1.14 IV Gemini 25.31
Mars Gemini 11.49 V Cancer 13.22
Jupiter Gemini 26.57 VI Leo 5.53
Saturn Leo 19.12 VII Virgo 18.16
Uranus Scorpio 7.50 VIII Scorpio 10.39
Neptune Sagittarius 13.30 R IX Sagittarius 6.48
Pluto Libra 11.56 Midheaven Sagittarius 25.31
Lilith Gemini 11.27 XI Capricorn 13.22
Asc node Libra 17.23 XII Aquarius 5.53


His chart

Sun Capricorn 15.51 Ascendant Taurus 7.35
Moon Taurus 29.31 II Gemini 8.49
Mercury Aquarius 1.16 III Gemini 27.06
Venus Aquarius 8.14 R IV Cancer 13.13
Mars Libra 9.15 V Leo 2.02
Jupiter Scorpio 6.51 VI Virgo 2.04
Saturn Libra 21.43 VII Scorpio 7.35
Uranus Sagittarius 2.59 VIII Sagittarius 8.49
Neptune Sagittarius 25.22 IX Sagittarius 27.06
Pluto Libra 26.47 Midheaven Capricorn 13.13
Lilith Sagittarius 11.33 XI Aquarius 2.02
Asc node Cancer 22.31 XII Pisces 2.04

Probably too much water under the bridge. Could be a little of both. —??

My first question would be why you just up and called him —out of the blue?? after, as you stated, your parting was a hate fueled breakup with a long period of no contact/silence between you?

My second question is are you really surprised at his hostility and were you expecting some other type of reaction and if so what?

More info is needed from you end about what you are after in this sudden need to reconnect would be most helpful.

Posted by Pidelight
My first question would be why you just up and called him —out of the blue?? after, as you stated, your parting was a hate fueled breakup with a long period of no contact/silence between you?

My second question is are you really surprised at his hostility and were you expecting some other type of reaction and if so what?

More info is needed from you end about what you are after in this sudden need to reconnect would be most helpful.

I actually contacted himon facebook as we no longer have each others numbers. He had blocked me on there since I ended it and suddenly he had unblocked me. I left it for a few weeks before contacting him but I thought that as he had unblocked me that perhaps the emotions had died down and maybe we could find a way to be friends. I was wrong.

Yes I am surprised at his hostility because I don't hold on to grudges and have forgiven him for the things he did to me, I expected the same courtesy but appreciate everyone is different.

I am lookign to be friends with him. Yes, I would try again with him if that's what he wanted but I genuinely just want to clear the air and try to at least be friends.

Just speaking for me, once I'm done, I'm done. The trust can never fully be repaired. I'll never be able to forget what has happened. I'm going through a nasty divorce myself and don't forsee my ex and I ever really being friends. Honestly, I don't want to. Very sad, but thats how the cookie crumbles. (Of course, there is a lot of bitterness still - and its been a year).