Are Capricorns known to be possessive

Posted by stillwat3r

Posted by saggyrl
I've always heard that Capricorn men like to take their time before getting into relationships, but the thing I have noticed with the two Capricorn men I have dated (years apart), that while taking their time, they tend to be a little possessive.

he would get upset when he would call and I didn't pick up but was on social media or with someone.

that shit pisses me off! but i'm trying to channel my anger to acceptance. If you rather browse your social media than talk to me then...bye bye.

may be you're not all that in to him though?

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Actually, he was the one who started that, but of course it was no big deal when he did it. I was at a party when he was calling. I was going to call him back once I left, but once he saw that I liked a few pics on IG he blew a fuse.

Posted by stillwat3r

Posted by saggyrl
I've always heard that Capricorn men like to take their time before getting into relationships, but the thing I have noticed with the two Capricorn men I have dated (years apart), that while taking their time, they tend to be a little possessive.

he would get upset when he would call and I didn't pick up but was on social media or with someone.

that shit pisses me off! but i'm trying to channel my anger to acceptance. If you rather browse your social media than talk to me then...bye bye.

may be you're not all that in to him though?

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Irritates me too.

Then again, I'm a scorpio venus, I need to know I'm the center of your world.

Caps make time for the people we care about. We will drop other things to talk to you, spend time with you...we will make you a priority if we are into you. That said, we expect the same thing from you. And, if we make you a priority, and you don't make us one, we have no qualms about drifting away and find someone who treats us the same way we treat them. Oh, we'll give you a chance...we'll bring it up, express our thoughts on it...it's up to you whether you continue to make us second.

I don't mean that arrogant. We understand about obligations, work, family, friends in a bind...but social media? Come on!!!! You can log back on when you're through talking to us.

And the answering via text, when he calls? A dropped call and you only text back? Rude. Plain ole rude. Just pick up the phone and talk to us. If you have an explanation why you can't call back (like noise, no service, at work, etc.) and it's valid, that's fine, but don't blow us off for no good reason.

Possessive? Hmmmm....not really. We just expect to be treated well. Especially if we treat you well.

Posted by truecap
Then again, I'm a scorpio venus, I need to know I'm the center of your world.

There have been times before when I have contacted him and he didn't respond right away, but was on social media. People don't like when you pull a you them on them.

He's a scorp in venus as well. And that's where the problem lays. I don't feel like I'm the center of his world, so I'm not going to make him mine.

Unless you want to spend the next however long "coaching" his relationship skills, it's not getting better.

yeah

I agree with Still though you're not that into him really are you? He's probably picking up on that and trying to compensate, not going about it the right way though.

Thank you all! TwirlingStrawberry I agree!

Posted by RichCap
I agree with Still though you're not that into him really are you? He's probably picking up on that and trying to compensate, not going about it the right way though.

@richcap I am really into him, but I'm being protective of my feelings. I asked him if he wanted a relationship with me and he told me "eventually, of course", but sometimes I feel like he's unsure, just by the stuff he posts on social media (he's a big flirt) and how he prioritizes me in his life...we talk everyday, we see each other maybe once or twice a week, but I don't feel like a priority, which causes me to fall back a little.

I had a similar thing with a Sag once, liked her, wanted to take it slow. What I saw was a normal natural way to build a connection she saw as a loss of interest. She chased me quite hard actually, ultimately though, whenever we would move forwards she would do something to fuck it up, till I got bored of the cycle.

Not saying this will happen but I think you might have to alter your perception of time, because us Caps can't often live in the day to day, we need to put it all together to feel it, and that takes time. Good communication helps of course.

Posted by RichCap
I had a similar thing with a Sag once, liked her, wanted to take it slow. What I saw was a normal natural way to build a connection she saw as a loss of interest. She chased me quite hard actually, ultimately though, whenever we would move forwards she would do something to fuck it up, till I got bored of the cycle.

Not saying this will happen but I think you might have to alter your perception of time, because us Caps can't often live in the day to day, we need to put it all together to feel it, and that takes time. Good communication helps of course.

Yeah....I'm not much of a chaser, but I'm willing to be patient as long we've both on the same page of what we ultimately want.

I know a Virgo Sun Cap Moon friend/co-worker who got kind of jealous when I said I was bonding with some other girls. She said "I don't share well", and when I said I might quit she said "NO..." and grabbed my arm. 🙂 The Cap that I'm seeing is quite protective and territorial (Aries Mars, Pisces Venus, Scorp Rising), for example, he and I were at an amusement park watching a music show. We were sitting down and about 5 guys were talking near us standing up. One was really close to me. My Cap eyes him up and down and said to me "he's close to hitting you with his elbow, he's not even watching", and "if he hits you I'm going to kick his ass". Mind you, they were RIGHT beside us.

Ahh...yes...double standards! I see that in both of them.

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Posted by Ixion120
As for your current cap love affair well...playing aloof is not necessarily the way to go with any cap dude I have met...with caps you are either in or out...if you want him then do go with the flow but don't label it just yet...(another common earth sign thing. If you date that's fine just keep it out of his purview...if he makes wild accusations that can't possibly be based in truth (I will level with you I don't really see many cap men doing this) then it is his personal problem...and I would in this instance address it fairly head on..

🙂 Thank you! I'm going to go with the flow.

He reached out and apologized. He said that he thought he heard someone's voice (my tv) when the call dropped and since I didn't call back and didn't want to go out anymore, he thought I was with someone else. I reassured him that that wasn't the case and told that he should just ask, rather than assuming and going off all the time. I told him if the story was flipped, he would tell me that I'm trippin.

He also brought up how I told him I want to go out more and that lately when he tries to do just that, I have an excuse. I told him I have noticed that and appreciate it, but told him that he does things kind of last minute, so I usually have other plans. Maybe he'll take notice and plan earlier...I don't know.

If nothing else, I'm glad we both were able to cool down and talk

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Caps are a lot more sensitive than we let on. Remember that.

Also, he might be mirroring you. So if you're treating him this way, then he will treat you that way right back. Yeah, yeah, you might be mirroring him too. But, someone has to step up and forward otherwise the cycle will repeat and stay in that mode. Then, you won't be moving forward. However, I do agree it should be the man, but sometimes we have to take a risk.

One more thing...what's wrong with last minute? Aren't Sags supposed to be spontaneous?

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Posted by truecap
Caps make time for the people we care about. We will drop other things to talk to you, spend time with you...we will make you a priority if we are into you.

Here is what I'm having a tough time understanding....what is your idea of spending time with someone? Mine seems to think being in the same room is quality time and I don't.

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I was just going to say that. Quality time IS spending time in the same room, doing your own thing, being quiet and comfortable together. THAT is the BEST type of quality time.

Posted by GemShimmies
Yes, they do. I am married to one, granted we don't have a long relationship. I am not sure how much of it is him being a cap, or if its cuz he's the oldest child, or because he's spoiled....not sure...but yes, he's possessive and does not seem to think he has double standards. For example, I'm a tad glued to my cell phone. I was single for a while, it never really dawned on me....so he'd asked me to put the phone away. Fine, done. But now that we are married, he is glued to his AND mine (its about a game, long story.) Now, we work opposite shifts and I get done at 11pm, he's done at 3pm. He will often go to happy hour or a cook out, whatever, with the boys. Am I jealous? Yes, but I don't mind him going. However, there were times I told him I wanted to stay and work the night shift for overtime and he has been known to reply "If you'd rather spend the night at work than at home with your husband in bed, then fine." Once I said I wanted to go to have a drink while I went to do the laundry. He said, "You want to go to a bar alone—??!!!!" I told him no, I didn't, but he didn't want to go so.....see ya! He's also possessive with the TV. Anyways, long story short.....yeah LOL

Geesh!!!! You're at work and you're jealous because he spends his free time with his friends?? It's not like he's leaving you at home and ignoring you. How else is he supposed to spend 8 hours while you're away? Sitting at home by himself, bored? Boredom is what gets people in trouble. Rather he be with friends than chasing some sweet thing.

Possessive with the TV? Hon, that's a MAN thing. ALL men are possessive with the TV. Welcome to marriage. DVR your shows and watch them while he's at work. That's what the rest of the married women do.

Oh, and yes, most men have double standards. It's the way of the world since the beginning of time.

You sound very nagging....I'm sorry to say.

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Caps make time for the people we care about. We will drop other things to talk to you, spend time with you...we will make you a priority if we are into you.

Here is what I'm having a tough time understanding....what is your idea of spending time with someone? Mine seems to think being in the same room is quality time and I don't.

I was just going to say that. Quality time IS spending time in the same room, doing your own thing, being quiet and comfortable together. THAT is the BEST type of quality time.

lol existing together, I've heard my past cappy lady friends express some version of this to me a few times.

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Aren't virgos the same way?

Posted by truecap


Caps are a lot more sensitive than we let on. Remember that.

Also, he might be mirroring you. So if you're treating him this way, then he will treat you that way right back. Yeah, yeah, you might be mirroring him too. But, someone has to step up and forward otherwise the cycle will repeat and stay in that mode. Then, you won't be moving forward. However, I do agree it should be the man, but sometimes we have to take a risk.

One more thing...what's wrong with last minute? Aren't Sags supposed to be spontaneous?

I love spontaneity, but I've always been taught that when a guy makes last minute plans, you are his last priority. I don't doubt for one second that he likes me, I just don't want to be the "last call" girl...those aren't the ones they respect right?

Posted by GemShimmies


See to me that is not quality time. Quality time is doing a joint task or doing something, anything, close. If i am sitting at the desk playing on the computer and hes on the couch playing xbox, that is just existing. I guess thats where gems and caps disagree. We have discussed this at length and he better understands my feelings on this now.....also sorry for the bad grammar my apostrophe key doesnt work lol

My cap is the same way...I'll be watching tv and he'll be glued to his electronics. It used to drive me crazy initially, but I've learned to accept it. Turns out, the less I nag him about it, the more he focuses on me.

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See to me that is not quality time. Quality time is doing a joint task or doing something, anything, close. If i am sitting at the desk playing on the computer and hes on the couch playing xbox, that is just existing. I guess thats where gems and caps disagree. We have discussed this at length and he better understands my feelings on this now.....also sorry for the bad grammar my apostrophe key doesnt work lol

My cap is the same way...I'll be watching tv and he'll be glued to his electronics. It used to drive me crazy initially, but I've learned to accept it. Turns out, the less I nag him about it, the more he focuses on me.

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Exactly. Otherwise, he's doing it to keep from being nagged at instead of because he wants to and resentment builds up.

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Posted by truecap


Caps are a lot more sensitive than we let on. Remember that.

Also, he might be mirroring you. So if you're treating him this way, then he will treat you that way right back. Yeah, yeah, you might be mirroring him too. But, someone has to step up and forward otherwise the cycle will repeat and stay in that mode. Then, you won't be moving forward. However, I do agree it should be the man, but sometimes we have to take a risk.

One more thing...what's wrong with last minute? Aren't Sags supposed to be spontaneous?

I love spontaneity, but I've always been taught that when a guy makes last minute plans, you are his last priority. I don't doubt for one second that he likes me, I just don't want to be the "last call" girl...those aren't the ones they respect right?

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Ahh, true that!

It's hard to find that fine line. I suppose it depends on what he wants to do. Sex? Nah. Hanging out? Nah. Going to an event? Yeah. Dinner with the family? Yeah.

I think once a relationship is established, then it's not as big of a deal.

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Posted by saggyrl

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See to me that is not quality time. Quality time is doing a joint task or doing something, anything, close. If i am sitting at the desk playing on the computer and hes on the couch playing xbox, that is just existing. I guess thats where gems and caps disagree. We have discussed this at length and he better understands my feelings on this now.....also sorry for the bad grammar my apostrophe key doesnt work lol

My cap is the same way...I'll be watching tv and he'll be glued to his electronics. It used to drive me crazy initially, but I've learned to accept it. Turns out, the less I nag him about it, the more he focuses on me.

I dont nag him anymore. Ive realized that my days off arent his and he wants to relax on his down time. I did, however, ask for one us night a week. I feel thats the key to keeping a marriage good...that despite being busy with whatever that at least once a week or every other week you make time to be close regardless of what youre doing.

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Weekly date night is not too much to ask.

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See to me that is not quality time. Quality time is doing a joint task or doing something, anything, close. If i am sitting at the desk playing on the computer and hes on the couch playing xbox, that is just existing. I guess thats where gems and caps disagree. We have discussed this at length and he better understands my feelings on this now.....also sorry for the bad grammar my apostrophe key doesnt work lol

My cap is the same way...I'll be watching tv and he'll be glued to his electronics. It used to drive me crazy initially, but I've learned to accept it. Turns out, the less I nag him about it, the more he focuses on me.

I had to retype this because I worded my last one poorly...sorry, Im at work I keep getting interrupted. I do not fight about this any longer. It did used to annoy me that he chose to spend my evenings off glued to the xbox instead of "glued to me." However, I did some soul searching and realized that my days off are his work days and it was not fair to expect him to not relax at all. So after many an argument I told him I just want like ONE day a week of "'''''us" time.....sorry this apostrophe key is just jacked up...... I did have to explain to him that despite the fact that we are home together, that I do not consider this quality time. I do not want to end up like my parents, where I pretty much always remember my dad in his room watching tv and my mom in the living room watching tv.

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Maybe that was their "alone" time. They may have been happy with that arrangement.

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See to me that is not quality time. Quality time is doing a joint task or doing something, anything, close. If i am sitting at the desk playing on the computer and hes on the couch playing xbox, that is just existing. I guess thats where gems and caps disagree. We have discussed this at length and he better understands my feelings on this now.....also sorry for the bad grammar my apostrophe key doesnt work lol

My cap is the same way...I'll be watching tv and he'll be glued to his electronics. It used to drive me crazy initially, but I've learned to accept it. Turns out, the less I nag him about it, the more he focuses on me.

I had to retype this because I worded my last one poorly...sorry, Im at work I keep getting interrupted. I do not fight about this any longer. It did used to annoy me that he chose to spend my evenings off glued to the xbox instead of "glued to me." However, I did some soul searching and realized that my days off are his work days and it was not fair to expect him to not relax at all. So after many an argument I told him I just want like ONE day a week of "'''''us" time.....sorry this apostrophe key is just jacked up...... I did have to explain to him that despite the fact that we are home together, that I do not consider this quality time. I do not want to end up like my parents, where I pretty much always remember my dad in his room watching tv and my mom in the living room watching tv.

Maybe that was their "alone" time. They may have been happy with that arrangement.

I think that capricorns have a hard time giving into other peoples wants....its their way or no way, and i have learned that if i want something different and confront him i usually can expect defensiveness.....but usually he will calm down and agree with me in some way .

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Try a different approach. Make it in his best interest.

Ixion120, RichCap, Stillwat3r and TrueCap I guess you were all kinda right. Strangely after our convo...it's like my Cap is a completely different person. We spent the entire weekend together, out and about with family and friends. He wasn't tied up in his electronics like usual, rather he was super affectionate, even in front of his family. He's already making plans for this week.

Anyway, thanks everyone for your feedback 🙂

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I think that capricorns have a hard time giving into other peoples wants....its their way or no way, and i have learned that if i want something different and confront him i usually can expect defensiveness.....but usually he will calm down and agree with me in some way .

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That's the problem, you CONFRONTED him. Perhaps if you changed your tactics, you might get better results. Gems like to confront, confrontation puts caps on the defensive and will bring out their stubborn side. We will do things just out of spite because you tried to push us into doing something.

Posted by saggyrl
Ixion120, RichCap, Stillwat3r and TrueCap I guess you were all kinda right. Strangely after our convo...it's like my Cap is a completely different person. We spent the entire weekend together, out and about with family and friends. He wasn't tied up in his electronics like usual, rather he was super affectionate, even in front of his family. He's already making plans for this week.

Anyway, thanks everyone for your feedback 🙂

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