Cap Emotions

My 15 year old son told me last night that I was unemotional. He said, "I've never seen you cry". I told him yes he has. He said "no, I haven't. The only emotion you show openly is anger and irritation". I asked what about love, he said, "okay, you show that too." I explained to him that I feel deeply and I have a hard time showing emotions because I'm not comfortable showing it in front of people. He understood, but it really bothered me. I'm sure others have had similar conversations?

Daughter of a Cap man here,

No, I never thought my father lacked emotions. He is a very loving father---in a quiet, practical way, not gushy or sentimental; but I had never doubted his emotional depth and strength, and his command over his emotions.

His apparent emotional detachment never bothered me much,because I always thought that's how great men behave ( I still think so,BTW), secondly he also controls his negative emotions, like anger, urge to control/dominate,etc., equally well. So I thought he is always firm, fair and maintain most of the time an even and unruffled demeanor.

Proud of him.

My colleagues tell me that all the time too but I just ignore them and give them a blank look to annoy them even more 🙂

They would walk away then gossip to other people about how arrogant I was etc etc. I'm not arrogant, I just think such matters are way down the priority list and maybe they could use some of their constructive energy on their work instead.

Sad thing is shallow people are oblivious to their own faults and judge others before truly understanding them.

Once I got so mad with the rumors I told one of them what an ignorant idiot she was being for characterizing someone based off their first impression without even trying to make an effort to understand them and that she really was the arrogant one for having the nerve to believe in her own ignorance.

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They would walk away then gossip to other people about how arrogant I was etc etc. I'm not arrogant,

I understand this thing, my father has always been accused of being arrogant and sadly sometimes by those for whom he went out of his way to facilitate in some way.

If a man keeps himself to himself and does lay himself to amuse others that does not mean he is arrogant; it means he is a dignified person.

He is a generous person with good sense of humour and yet people consider him arrogant !

But sometime it hurts me that he is generally a bit misunderstood, though he does not care much about it--I do, a lot.

Yes! im not so emotional in front of others.

Most times i hold my feelings in 100% . One thing i cant help though is the presence of my frustration inside me for whatever it may be. once something goes bad for me, it seethes out of me. and now the person next to me is geting a clue of my real mood. =O

My coworkers find me reserved. Some family members find me serious and quiet. my sis especially says its something i turn on and off.... My friends know me inside and out though. Of course after getting to that comfortable place with them. =)
And i always cry alone.

It really bothered me that my own son said that. We were watching a movie and he doesn't understand why I don't cry in sad movies like Titanic, etc.

I'm not a Cap, but I can understand this.

My mother once tried asking me if I ever cried. She said that her and my dad (I doubt the dad part, but whatever) were concerned about that. I do cry sometimes, but very rarely. There was a time, I believe, between 14 and 16yrs old, that I never cried at all. I've stopped counting now, but it's still a rare thing for me. My friends in school would say that I was heartless and would call me a robot. They would always say "Yeah, I know you don't care...", when I did, but I just didn't show it. The crying thing was something different, since people usually cry when they're alone, but to me, I never saw the reason to cry. It was just a form of self-pity and weakness (and plus, my life really isn't that bad? I'm not starving in Africa or something), and I had gotten tired of seeing those things in me.

It's funny, because I think my mother just wanted me to cry so bad. I would be laughing in my room and she'd always come in and ask "Are you crying?". I guess my laugh sounds like I'm crying, but after a while, she should've been able to tell. After that, I always had to try really hard not to laugh in my room, especially when she was in bed. "Oh, she's crying herself to sleep", I bet she'd think. Aha, so terrible.

Well, even if it hurts or is frustrating to not be understood, you should all be happy that you're not the over emotional type who freak out over simple things and who cry in public.

Why does crying equal showing emotions?

It seems thats what many people think when they accuse others of not showing them.

Im sures hes seen you happy, excited, sad or a bit down etc etc. Those are all emotional expressions.