Cap female to open up?

How to get out of the stereotypes that can be placed on Capricorns. I'm not cold or stuck up. I'm just guarded and actually very spiritual. I'm a Pisces Moon so it gets hard at times. then, I always get you have secret crushes, but like never a who? I'm in my twenties so this is the time to not only grind but live. I just want to be successful. Luckily a new found Gemini male friend is teaching me that my overthinking is wrong. However, what did some of the caps do here to open up?

I am a Cap female and the worst relationship I've ever had was with a male Gemini. I wouldn't be looking to him to show you how to open up. I think male Geminis are open to everyone, hence: they get around.

I would suggest remaining somewhat guarded with your life, because Cap females get better with age. Your confidence, your personality, your looks will all improve with age in Capricorn females.

I'll tell you something else: Men usually want what they can't have, so give them very little and they'll be all over you. Don't waste your time with everyone trying to be over social.

The truth is: Everyone isn't worth your time or effort. Stay true to who you are and ignore the stereotypes about Cap females.

My worst relationship ever was also with a Gemini male. Hahah.. and it is true Geminis are just open.

I tried the whole being overly social and open thing. And after a while, it was just draining.

I came up with this thing where I have the purely-surface friendly me that everyone likes and then the real me which is the side very little people can get to. And if they wanna get to that side of me, they will have to be patient as Capricorns don't open so easy.

You can be open and friendly and inviting without having to spew all your personal loves and vulnerabilities. Let people work for that.

From my observation,

This is what I witnessed from some of the Caps that visit the Taurus boards.

Remember, this is just an observation, and I'm sure not a true reflection for all Caps.

Those walls need to seriously come down.

The guarded walls are also accompanied with overthinking, pessimism, and and a sense of entitlement.

This can be quite the turn off and frustrating for someone who is trying to get close to you.

No one is insinuating that you lay out your emotions and the booty on the 1st day, but at least show some interest....

This is the advice that I gave the Cap

Posted by TaurusBull1977
@Capricunicorn,

An individual doesn't have to be 'cheap and easy' to be cordial.

My gut instinct tells me the Bull already knows she's not that type, which is why his approach to her was genuine.

Saying "Hello" isn't going to kill her or imply that she's some cheap wantin slut." LOL.

If the OP is as traditional as she claims, she really needs to understand the art of courtship.

Let him call you....answer the phone when he does.

Let him ask you out.....say 'yes' when he does.

Let him take you out for ice cream.....get to know him when he does.

She can wait to kiss him, hug him on the 3rd, 4th date, who cares.

This wasn't directed at Capriunicorn, but another Cap named Mineral.

I was simply replying to something she said regarding the OP.

Game-Chasing is a waste of time.

Posted by caplady28
My worst relationship ever was also with a Gemini male. Hahah.. and it is true Geminis are just open.

I tried the whole being overly social and open thing. And after a while, it was just draining.

I came up with this thing where I have the purely-surface friendly me that everyone likes and then the real me which is the side very little people can get to. And if they wanna get to that side of me, they will have to be patient as Capricorns don't open so easy.

You can be open and friendly and inviting without having to spew all your personal loves and vulnerabilities. Let people work for that.

Agreed!