Cap ladies

Do people expect u 2 b strong all the time and then look at u like WTF or who are u when u act vunerable or a little weak. Maybe its not the cap in me. I dont want to be strong ALL of the time.

Posted by SassyClassy
Do people expect u 2 b strong all the time and then look at u like WTF or who are u when u act vunerable or a little weak. Maybe its not the cap in me. I dont want to be strong ALL of the time.

Oh yeah, totally!

I often protest that I get sick of always being the strong one. Simply because when I need someone to be strong for me, hardly anyone can deal like I can.

However, I have resided in my position ... however, when I just don't want to be the rock everyone has to lean on, I disappear. Its nothing personal, its just one of those things.

Posted by DewDrops
tbh,

I think we are at fault. We put up this facade and then we build expectations.

Yeah, that pitt-bull image that we throw out there to people lol.


I have to admit, we have a pretty kick-ass facade. We can totally keep people away if we want them away.

I feel the same way. When I need someone to depend on theres nobody. But I am ALWAYS the rock, the keep it together, lean on me rock. Im freakin tired of it. So now I am ignoring everybody.

Posted by DewDrops
I dont think keeping people away is necessarily a strong image. IMHO.

No its not. I only said that because my cappy buddy likes to keep people away alot. I tell her that its cool to have family but you have to have friends too 🙂

omg... yep. i can always be relied on and the one to lean on, but its like people dont know what to do when it's my turn to fall apart even for just a moment. and i never get the feeling that they dont think i really need help... i get the feeling that they just dont care. hopefully im wrong, but i begin to resent a lot of people after i go through those phases ... it's been a while, but still i dont wanna be resentful.

so nowadays i just learn to suck it up and deal on my own... either it's easier or i've learned to not even try to rely on others. a little bit of both perhaps. i'm becoming pretty emotionally independent the last couple yrs. trying not to cross that fine line into being emotionally cold. im still pretty empathetic... pisces moon.