goldielocs1990
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Cap Man Scorp Woman I got mad and Ended it and he moved out
All that cheating.....Why do you want him back? Obviously he has no concern with your feelings. And 3 times? That tells a man that his behavior is acceptable cause you keep taking him back, all he has to do is say he's sorry.
You are rewarding bad behavior, it's not gonna make him change. It just makes him think that you're ok with it. A cheater will always cheat, if he/she can get away with it. Why is he not wanting to have sex with you, but he's fine with having sex with his ex? And you two have the relationship.
If you guys are arguing about talking to other people, then this is the right move. Now both of you can talk to other people and there should no arguments. I think you should let go. It's not a healthy relationship when emotional and sexual needs aren't fulfilled. That's the main recipe for cheating- and you guys already know this cause this is the situation your in. Hopefully your not trying to hold on to him, just so he won't get back with his ex. She actually had it pretty good. Not dealing with his cheating ass but still getting the benefits of the sexual chemistry she had with him. You took over her headache. Start dating,, I know it's hard but just put one foot in front of the other and try and clear your head.
You are rewarding bad behavior, it's not gonna make him change. It just makes him think that you're ok with it. A cheater will always cheat, if he/she can get away with it. Why is he not wanting to have sex with you, but he's fine with having sex with his ex? And you two have the relationship.
If you guys are arguing about talking to other people, then this is the right move. Now both of you can talk to other people and there should no arguments. I think you should let go. It's not a healthy relationship when emotional and sexual needs aren't fulfilled. That's the main recipe for cheating- and you guys already know this cause this is the situation your in. Hopefully your not trying to hold on to him, just so he won't get back with his ex. She actually had it pretty good. Not dealing with his cheating ass but still getting the benefits of the sexual chemistry she had with him. You took over her headache. Start dating,, I know it's hard but just put one foot in front of the other and try and clear your head.
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All that cheating.....Why do you want him back? Obviously he has no concern with your feelings. And 3 times? That tells a man that his behavior is acceptable cause you keep taking him back, all he has to do is say he's sorry.
You are rewarding bad behavior, it's not gonna make him change. It just makes him think that you're ok with it. A cheater will always cheat, if he/she can get away with it. Why is he not wanting to have sex with you, but he's fine with having sex with his ex? And you two have the relationship.
If you guys are arguing about talking to other people, then this is the right move. Now both of you can talk to other people and there should no arguments. I think you should let go. It's not a healthy relationship when emotional and sexual needs aren't fulfilled. That's the main recipe for cheating- and you guys already know this cause this is the situation your in. Hopefully your not trying to hold on to him, just so he won't get back with his ex. She actually had it pretty good. Not dealing with his cheating ass but still getting the benefits of the sexual chemistry she had with him. You took over her headache. Start dating,, I know it's hard but just put one foot in front of the other and try and clear your head.
I guess I am just attached to him like even though I said to leave I didn't think he would. It's stupid. I know it's best to let it go but it's really hard. Today he texted me and basically said he wants to stay together but he can't live with me because of what I said. I told him if he can't live with me he can't be with me because I don't go backwards!
Posted by goldielocs1990You're emotionally attached. You're believing exactly what he says, even when his actions don't match up with the words. If you guys can't live together right now, what's the point of being together? You would have to live together eventually.Posted by saggurl88
All that cheating.....Why do you want him back? Obviously he has no concern with your feelings. And 3 times? That tells a man that his behavior is acceptable cause you keep taking him back, all he has to do is say he's sorry.
You are rewarding bad behavior, it's not gonna make him change. It just makes him think that you're ok with it. A cheater will always cheat, if he/she can get away with it. Why is he not wanting to have sex with you, but he's fine with having sex with his ex? And you two have the relationship.
If you guys are arguing about talking to other people, then this is the right move. Now both of you can talk to other people and there should no arguments. I think you should let go. It's not a healthy relationship when emotional and sexual needs aren't fulfilled. That's the main recipe for cheating- and you guys already know this cause this is the situation your in. Hopefully your not trying to hold on to him, just so he won't get back with his ex. She actually had it pretty good. Not dealing with his cheating ass but still getting the benefits of the sexual chemistry she had with him. You took over her headache. Start dating,, I know it's hard but just put one foot in front of the other and try and clear your head.
I guess I am just attached to him like even though I said to leave I didn't think he would. It's stupid. I know it's best to let it go but it's really hard. Today he texted me and basically said he wants to stay together but he can't live with me because of what I said. I told him if he can't live with me he can't be with me because I don't go backwards!click to expand
Be happy you two don't have kids together. You telling him to leave because of his actions was the right move.
Try and detach for a second and think of the past. When he told you this type of stuff before, did he change? The answer is probably no. He might have changed for a little bit and put in some effort to fool you, but eventually people end up going back to their old ways. Love is hard, but you will heal- I promise.
Posted by saggurl88Omg you give like the best advice EVER! Like SEROUSLY!!! Thank you!!!! I am emotionally attached I know because I am constantly checking my phone to see if he texted me, when he does I respond even if it's arguing until her gets tired of the back n forth then I keep going, and I always give him the benefit of the doubt even if it sounds like a lie. I am happy we don't have kids and we don't have any real attachments besides a few bills. If I try to detach and think about the past, there were many issues with communication, not wanting to sleep with me, not showing affection and when I would complain he would do better for a week or two then fall right back into those old ways. It's very hard to even think about letting him go and I get emotional and wanna cry at the thought of it even with all the bad things but I know I have to let go. And if it's meant to be he will realize his faults and come correct even though I highly doubt he will or if he does it will only be temporary.Posted by goldielocs1990You're emotionally attached. You're believing exactly what he says, even when his actions don't match up with the words. If you guys can't live together right now, what's the point of being together? You would have to live together eventually.Posted by saggurl88
All that cheating.....Why do you want him back? Obviously he has no concern with your feelings. And 3 times? That tells a man that his behavior is acceptable cause you keep taking him back, all he has to do is say he's sorry.
You are rewarding bad behavior, it's not gonna make him change. It just makes him think that you're ok with it. A cheater will always cheat, if he/she can get away with it. Why is he not wanting to have sex with you, but he's fine with having sex with his ex? And you two have the relationship.
If you guys are arguing about talking to other people, then this is the right move. Now both of you can talk to other people and there should no arguments. I think you should let go. It's not a healthy relationship when emotional and sexual needs aren't fulfilled. That's the main recipe for cheating- and you guys already know this cause this is the situation your in. Hopefully your not trying to hold on to him, just so he won't get back with his ex. She actually had it pretty good. Not dealing with his cheating ass but still getting the benefits of the sexual chemistry she had with him. You took over her headache. Start dating,, I know it's hard but just put one foot in front of the other and try and clear your head.
I guess I am just attached to him like even though I said to leave I didn't think he would. It's stupid. I know it's best to let it go but it's really hard. Today he texted me and basically said he wants to stay together but he can't live with me because of what I said. I told him if he can't live with me he can't be with me because I don't go backwards!
Be happy you two don't have kids together. You telling him to leave because of his actions was the right move.
Try and detach for a second and think of the past. When he told you this type of stuff before, did he change? The answer is probably no. He might have changed for a little bit and put in some effort to fool you, but eventually people end up going back to their old ways. Love is hard, but you will heal- I promise.
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Posted by Gob_ShiteI wouldn't necessarily call it a scam thats not true. When you love someone you put up with a lot of things. You are right though once I started talking to other men, I was just as bad as he was. I may move on I may not!Posted by goldielocs1990
We were just getting back on god terms after I found out on my birthday (October 24) that he was still cheating on me with his ex girlfriend of 10 years.Posted by goldielocs1990
As time went on, I started getting lonely and bored so I began to talk to another man. This man knew I had a boyfriend but for me it was just attention nothing ever happened.
So, your answer to his indiscretions was emotional infidelity. After doing that, you can no longer take the moral high ground, as you brought yourself down to his level. Boredom, loneliness, a subconscious form of revenge... the reason is mute.Posted by goldielocs1990
Well he stayed and he said if I ever asked him to move out again he was leaving.Posted by goldielocs1990
I begged him last night and told him I only said for him to go to his dad's house out of anger and I didn't mean it. As a Scorpio I get overly emotional sometimes and I say things to hurt him and then I regret it later but I just don't see how he so easily left and carried me about the whole thing when I have forgiven him for much worse things.
Errrrmmm... You were warned. If you're going to emotionally lash out at others, be prepared to deal with the consequences.
Based on him being unfaithful with his ex, you shouldn't have moved in with him. Moving in with a SO, without there being a firm foundation of trust, is always destined to fail.
The relationship was a sham. My advice is to move on and learn from your mistakes.
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Posted by Gob_ShiteThere was only one man I just said other men because it was not him. Bad choice of language, sorry!Posted by goldielocs1990
You are right though once I started talking to other men, I was just as bad as he was.
Now, you're using the plural form. Sounds like you're not telling us the full story...
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