cappy help

Hello everyone....
I'm new here but I've been reading these threads for a long time....

I'm a bit confused. I've met a cappy three months ago and he seem to like me. I was in a relationship by that time so even though I liked him as well I didn't think about it again. We became FB friends and from time to time he would make contact or I would pass by his work (he works in a bar) and spend some friendly time there, couse he knew about my relationship. One night though he approach me and he kept doing that for a while. I was in a dead end with my boyfriend and I got tired of being in that relationship and I responded.

We'd been talking online, while I was trying to break up my boyfriend but he didn't know that, he thought I was still in the relationship. We were having a great time at our conversations, they were very stimulating and we'were teasing each other a lot.One night we met and we ended up kissing and making out. The next day he kind of disappear and he send an sms after midnight....We kept talking and one night we met again and we started making out again...and then he disappered again so I decided to send a text first (thinking that I shouldn't always wait for him to contact me). Even though he saw my fb msn he responded a few hours later but it was a bit different...and now he keeps acting weird, he takes a lot of time to answer, even though he has seen it, and he's distant.

I decided to show him that I wanted sth more so I told him to go out....the response he gave was ...terrible...He told me that he needed to think about it because when he goes out on a date he has a superior goal (like a superior motive)...when I asked him what that was, his answer was a specific one.... (and imagine that this conversation lasted almost two days, he'd seen my msn and he would answer to me at dawn). I thought that he liked me but I guess I was wrong. I'm thinking of not answering to him at all, and not asking him once more what he meant.

and as a cancer I have to say that I was thinking that maybe a got scared him away because I was too passionate while we were making out or maybe he thinks that I'm the cheating type....I don't know....any caps out there?

ok ok... there's the message....I wasn't so sure about sending it and then (as uasual with libra rising) changed my mind.....

"This is cute. She side stepped back into her shell, very crab-like indeed." Quietstorm you couldnt' have said it better...

Sirb I begin to think that yes you might be moodier than us.....

to continue the story we are going to meet but the conversation continues to be like that.....he even disappears while we're talking and even say bye or explain afterwards.....

The other day we were talking, I asked him sth I could read that he was typing and then suddenly leaves the conversation without saying anything. After a few hours he sent msg like nothing happened.....I get really confused...I think he's just playing....

I haven't told him that I broke up.He thinks we're still toghether.I've been with the other guy a long time and it's kind of difficult for me to end it in an instant....

The truth is that I was kind of infatuated with this cappy. It's been a while since I had felt like that and now I'm getting insecure (damn it!!!!) and I' m afraid I'm losing the game.

Now for his actions he seems happy when he sees me, but the whole communication thing i don't get it... One minute you're talking with sb and then disappears ana after hours he continues the conversation without explaining......

Posted by QUlETstorm

Posted by cancerdame
I haven't told him that I broke up.He thinks we're still toghether.I've been with the other guy a long time and it's kind of difficult for me to end it in an instant....

I admit I skimmed through your original post and totally missed the part about the boyfriend. Didn't realize you had a boyfriend..

Caps are serious about loyalty. If you were fooling with him while you were with someone else, he will probably never feel like he can trust you. Caps are already slow to trust, and you gave him more reason not to. I am not trying to be tough on you, just being truthful.

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Posted by cowpuncher

Posted by QUlETstorm
Lmao CP

This is cute. She side stepped back into her shell, very crab-like indeed.

yeah, it's kinda cute when they post something and then immediately hide it. lol 😉

Crab: We have had SCORPIOS venting about Cap men on this board, often. Whatever you've got, it just can't be THAT bad.

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You rang— Cuz I live to answer you my CP

I don't know what is with you capmen. The one I am seeing has been uber-attentive ever since I made that "I am a marker" thread. Don't know how long it will last. Probably when I act like I give a shit instead of pretending I don't, it will end, so IDK, but I hate being cool 😛 smh...

Cap men like to do/act the opposite of what the women that like them want them to... thats what it is—

Oh wait... you have a bf? You should have broke up with the bf (or at least told the cap you did) before making out.

Well that's what 'm planning to do, which is not far from the truth. My relationship was over a long time ago, cause I see my bf like a very good friend. I admit that the process of breaking up takes me a while, cause I don't want to hurt my bf feeling, I really love him but there's no passion...natha.!

But the cappy hasn't even asked. So I'm planning to tell him that it'd been over before we got more intimate....but I can't stand the distance thing....it's so frustrating....It confuses me.He wants me or not?

I didn't told him that I wanted sth more...I just told him that i'd like to go out together. We haven't gone out yet, so I don't know what he meant. Also, I haven't told him anything about my relationship, because I understand that it would press him a lot. besides, he's not the actually reason for the break up, so he shouldn't think he was. But I don't want him to think that I play games.

Anyway, it's too much for me right now...it's painful enough to break up with sb you've been for ages with, I can't stand the whole cold-hot thing. And from what I've read here cappies tend to do this (not all of them...but most of them, so it would be rather exchausting. Emotion plays a big part on my behalf.

Posted by Caplove
Oh okay! I'm sorry, I misunderstood that. Well, I def. feel your frustration and I'm really sorry for it. I understand it's hard. But you're right, it's a lot to handle. Don't worry about him then, just take it day by day and focus on you and your boyfriend and getting over that hurdle.

Thank you so much!!!I think is the best thing to do!!

I missed you!!! And I lo

Posted by AreTwoFour

Posted by cowpuncher

Posted by QUlETstorm
Lmao CP

This is cute. She side stepped back into her shell, very crab-like indeed.

yeah, it's kinda cute when they post something and then immediately hide it. lol 😉

Crab: We have had SCORPIOS venting about Cap men on this board, often. Whatever you've got, it just can't be THAT bad.

You rang— Cuz I live to answer you my CP

I don't know what is with you capmen. The one I am seeing has been uber-attentive ever since I made that "I am a marker" thread. Don't know how long it will last. Probably when I act like I give a shit instead of pretending I don't, it will end, so IDK, but I hate being cool 😛 smh...

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I spoke too soon. Cappy has not contacted in 3 days. To you cool caps, thats like a minute or two. Not to me. Its a crisis.

So in three days.. I did not want space. He spaces out contact enough that I don't really have a need for space my sag moon usually wants. I am insecure. If he loved me 3 days ago, that is not enough for now. I have forgotten about that. Today is a new day, cuz I don't take it for granted. After 3 days I need a renewal. Major things can happen in 72hrs, so I am being cool... no I am drunk so I will probably make another "I'm a marker thread" because like I said, I am drunk, needy, insecure, horny, etc., so I want somebody to love me when I'm like this as well as when I'm chill and have my shit together. I dont think this cap does.. Its Saturday ffs! The day of Saturn, the day I have time, I would say go fuck yourself capman, but do capmen ever do that? they are like musicians, they have an an entourage (that is horny)so fuck off cap guys, and I want want my capguy to want to fuck me but I guess not, so fuck off capguy, cuz I'm having sour grapes tonight abd will hide this in the morning