CAPPY'S BREAKINGPOINT( I've Had It !!!)

Okay, this is what I need to know in order to have closer to this silly situation I'm been going through for the past month. Currently, I am at my breaking point with this cancer I know. Since cancer are indirect and sensitive, how should I go by letting him know that the way he is acting and has acted in the past has really dampened our relationship (I use that word loosely). I not trying to be an insensitive person his non-communicative, and distant attitude has started to both annoy and hurt me deeply. He believes that as long as he doesn't treat me like the other females in his life (just saying whatever to get laid) that I should feel privilage ... well I don't!

Yes, I know cancers don't like to be confronted but I CANNOT allow him to think that everything is okay anymore ... I just can't! And why should I? From the beginning I've been "good" to him and he admits it. His mother adores the influence that I have over him, and she wants me to stay in his life, his father wants the same thing (THIS IS BEFORE MARCH CAME, AFTER THAT FIRST WEEK HE WENT WAYWARD) For him to just disregard my emotions in favor of those he is sexually involved with is tearing me apart along with the "girlfriend type" of emotional damands he puts on me without giving me that title. I need to let him know that he IS REALLY MESSING UP AND HAS MESSED UP. What do I say to this cancer man that he has something good, but he is destroying what's let of a very unstable relationship? Tell me, how do I talk to this make, how do I make my point known? I NEED TO KNOW WHAT HE WANTS FROM ME! I don't give a hoot if he runs afterwards because that means he has alot of growing up to do if he cannot that the TRUTH (MY TRUTH). Jeez I feel like sobbing, please give me so feed back ......

Cappie, I feel bad for you, it seems to me that he is a marker/jerk that doesn't know what is good for him.

You are asking for opinions and here is I think, I'm sorry if I suggested otherwise previously, but I do believe it is time to confront him and tell him exactly what you just wrote here, and if you can send him an email so he cannot claim ignorance or misunderstanding then that is what I would do, and give him an short deadline to get back to you to discuss this or "Next!"

You seem like too nice of a person to be wasting your time with a looser. I know it's easier for me to say, but don't waste your tears sweetie, he's not worth it if he doesn't see the gem in you and is willing to fight for it. The whole thing about having sex with someone else just rings "Looser" in the relationship category.

Good Luck!

Like Stardance said... I agree. If you're not comfortable doing it face-to-face, then give a letter. I wouldn't do the email route, as it's impersonal and he can claim didn't receive, didn't read/open, etc. If you want to email me at bebewrig@yahoo.com, I'll show you my letter I gave the Cap. to put things to rest in a nice way.

Thank you all for the feedback, you the best !!!!!!! 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂 I can't stand getting emotional so I logged off quickly, plus I has to go to work -- I had to go to both of my jobs today, plus I had two final exams to take tonight. Boy am I tired hahahaha. I checked my email and he sent a message apolygizing about what happen Tuesday afternoon. He claimed he was up helping a friend study for a test and he didn't get any sleep the whole ... plus he said his father has his car during the time he was suppose to meet with me.

Although he doesn't know my cell number, I still don't believe a single word in his email. I already know what was going on Monday night(because I have access to his inbox) so he was doing more than studying ... damn lair. Anyway, he wants to pick me up tomorrow at 1pm. My God, this wold be the perfect time to set things straight (hopefully anyway), but he has disappointed three times already ... I don't know if I want to go with him......