Cappys - please help

Hello all you lovely caps.

I have posted on here before and some of you have been a great help with your responses.

I am a leo and have been seeing a cap man for about a year and a half.
Sometimes it is great and we are really close other times he goes distant on me.

He is a workaholic and i really respect this in him and want to support him.

He told me on Friday night that the reason he doesn't meet up with me is that he is so tired from work that he will just end up falling asleep and not able to perform. He said he feels really selfish and that he does want to meet me but feels so drained from work, he has not been out for months because he is so into his business.

I want to support him and be there for him as i believe that we have somethins special and i am prepared to work at it with him.

Please can any caps out there give me advice on how i can support him and keep him opening up to me............... thanks xxx

A cap man said the same thing to me, "too tired can't see me, if lived closer he'd see me more," and then later I realized that he wasn't interested. Now I'm talking to a new guy, has a demanding job and lives 1 hour away from me, but makes time to see me.

I think if a guy is really interested he'd make time and vice versa. You'd make time to see a guy u like and blow off the guy u don't like. I know I do that and sometimes I feel bad.

"He told me on Friday night that the reason he doesn't meet up with me is that he is so tired from work that he will just end up falling asleep and not able to perform."


Perform?

Do you realize that he is just your fuck-buddy (according to what this above quote infers)?

Oh, maybe not, for the below suggests that you don't realize it at all ......

"I want to support him and be there for him as i believe that we have somethins special and i am prepared to work at it with him."

You know, the best advice I can give any woman dealing with a Cap is: You can exhale the day AFTER the wedding-until then, dealing with them is a total crap shoot.

Well maybe it's not that he's not into you, but I have done the same thing to the cap guy I'm seeing, putting him down, like he'd call me and ask to meet, I'd say I'm tired or busy....And sometimes I get his call at the wrong moment when I need time on my own. I know I keep him interested and if he did that to me, I'd just assume as he says he's just tired, but not maybe too tired to perform haha lol sorry but this one was funny.... And it depends on how often he'd be tired, if I'd sense if it's too often then I'd get a thought of another woman..
What I have figured out about caps is that they like to be in control, like everything on their time, but I don't give in when this cappy asks me to meet anytime he finds himself available for me, I have my own time too and if he likes me enough he'll deal with it or he'll see me less.

it doesn't change.

I ended things with my Cappy for that reason. It got to the point where I was basically on my own every second weekend or so - you become lonely, you get other offers, and well, you realise they do not change.

If you're Ok with the current situation, continue, but, if not, don't expect him to change anytime soon.

I just went through a year of heartbreak, he still declars he loves me, but is never there. Go figure.