Capricorn Girlfriend Dumped Me Again..Is It Over?

Hey everybody, just to give an update about what happened between me and my Capricorn girlfriend that I originally started this thread about. Basically as I mentioned earlier, three days after we initially broke up she responded saying that she felt it was a big mistake and that "she didn't want to be with anyone else, and she didn't want to see me with anyone else." As a result of this, we were able to reconcile our differences and once again we were a happy couple, grateful to be back in each others lives.

Fast forward one month. Two weeks ago on a weekend we had plans to see one another, and once again something came up in my life and I canceled on her. I totally forgot what had got us into this mess in the first place was me not doing exactly what I said I was going to do. We wound up meeting a couple days later on Monday, and it was like Deja Vu all over again. Only this time, she broke up with me without the hysterical crying that took place last time. While she was breaking up with me she was telling me what a great person I was, and that how I will be find to which I responded "yeah, you are right I will be fine." (This cold response was due to my anger that she was once again using such a short fuse in our relationship. I noticed after I said this there was a displeased look in her face, indicating that she was disappointed that I said I would be fine.

Before I left to get out of her car and she told me that "you know I could never say no to you, but I feel like I am abandoning myself in this relationship." Then she proceeds to rub my neck and tell me that I will be fine, before leaning over to give me a kiss on the cheek. I responded to this by pulling away from her and telling her to get off of me. I got out of the car and left.

This took place ten days ago, and since this incident we have not spoken. I called the next day to apologize, sent flowers two days later, and finally I called for the last time three days after that; all to no avail. The unfortunate thing about our relationship is that both of us were extremely loving and caring to one another throughout the whole time we were together (1.5 years)

I don't know if any of you Capricorn women on this board have any insight into all of this at this point. I honestly feel a lack of closure due to the fact that she was touching my neck and went to kiss me on the cheek while breaking up with me. I personally have no broken up with anyone under those types of affectionate terms, n

(continued)...nor has anyone else I've known either. I really am feeling completely lost without her, and from all indications I find on the internet, once a Capricorn leaves, they leave for good. By why the affection towards me at the end? Why were we so happy, and she was so interested for so long and then like a light switch, nothing?

I have been talking to many, many, many people close to me during these difficult times, especially with the holidays. They tell me a variety of different responses. Some tell me I should show up at her house, some say to let her go completely, some say to keep making contact, others say to make no contact whatsoever if I want her to become interested in me once again. Some suggest that she has probably found someone else and is pursuing him for the time being.

Can anyone give me any advice at this point? Is the fact that she is completely ignoring my calls a sign that indeed she has moved on and expects me to do the same? Is there things a man can do to specifically attract a Capricorn ex back into their lives? Is she just confused and needs to process her feelings over a longer period? do she indeed want me to come chase her down at her house? I am very confused at this point. Thanks for all of your help. Below I included the original post that I started the old thread with...

ORIGINAL POST FROM 6 WEEKS AGO:

Hey everyone,

I am a libra male who was dating a Capricorn female for about 16 months until tonight when she broke it off with me through twenty minutes of tears. I honestly believed and still believe that this girl is my soul mate, and my heart is broken.

What is shocking about her decision is the fact that two weeks ago everything was fine between us and I thought we were both very happy in the relationship. Sure we had been fighting a little more than usual lately, but nothing that I thought would warrant her dumping me on the spot like this. I told her tonight that I know I am far from perfect, and not the easy person to deal with all the time, and that I was willing to do whatever is necessary to make this thing work, but so far she seems not to want to hear it. I've read from many sources that once a Capricorn cuts you out of their heart, you are done for good. I pray this isn't true.

Little background: No cheating between either one of us that I am aware of, her biggest complaints of me are my committment to doing things I am going to say I do and my timeliness.

If any Capricorns could please give me advice what they think the highest probability strategy I can take to get this Capricorn female back into my life, I would be greatly obliged and appreciative. The last thing she said to me tonight was that she would call me in 3 weeks. I don't know if this is of any significance. Please be honest in your opinions.

Hi...I am a Capricorn woman born on Dec 27th, I read all about your situation. I think if you really wanted her back..you have probably have her, but it would be such temporary relief it would not be worth it..in the end It would hurt you more...I was in a couple of relationships that were very different but that kept going through this cycle...when something it very broken sometimes it is best to leave it alone. If you wanted contact.. I am sure you could pick up the phone in a couple of weeks and speak lightly about something you have in common, and you may be able to have her in your life. She may feel that when you said you will be fine without her, that you meant it, and now she has to be strong and be fine without you....even though she is not.
There is nothing wrong with suggesting a casual meeting once you get to talking, and give her a hug and tell her you miss you...let her do the rest...decide whether she wants a friendship or more....
I am as analytical as you and after going through a very bad break up only 2 months ago...I can say some days you just cry because you miss the person..but most days you actually get perspective and realize that whatever is meant to be is meant to be, sometimes people break up because your real soulmate is waiting for you, and you need to be fully single before she will come into your life........and if this is the real deal, you will find your way back together...happy holidays!!

Pisces Sun/Taurus Moon/Libra Asc. here.
I also use the —Once it's over, it's over?? guideline. But mostly that applies when men want to break up for some reason and then want to come back. I really do not want an on/off again relationship or the drama that comes with it. However, I do believe that all relationships require effort and work to maintain them.

What is your objective? Do you want to get back together with her or do you just want closure? She's probably not contacting you anymore because she's upset and processing the situation. I agree with livvy 5, you were both upset and said and did things that you both didn't mean. I would say keep contacting her and tell her how you feel, even in a voicemail, email, letter, or a card. This is important if you want to get her back. Afterwards, it is up to her if she wants to continue the relationship.

Note: Did you make it up to her when you cancelled on her those two times? It is not fair to her to make plans and then cancel, even if it is for a good reason. Her time is just as valuable as yours.