LibraLove30
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Capricorn leaves me even though he loves me?
Sorry guys for the long intro. I'm new here.
I'm really hoping to gain advices on how to deal with a Capricorn. 😢
I hope someone can reply soon.
I'm really hoping to gain advices on how to deal with a Capricorn. 😢
I hope someone can reply soon.
respond one piece at a time.
Posted by LibraLove30
He caught me 3 times talking with other guys on the net, yet he forgave me and still loved me.
I attempted to break up with him 3 times,yet he stayed strong for me.
He changed and adjusted for me.
He really does love me.
My thoughts on this are why were you talking to other guys and trying to break up with him. Probably was not meant to be if you felt this way during your relationship, probably should've ended it right then and there because your gut was telling you something. Him "staying strong"- Really, we don't like change, no one likes to be rejected, also if we like you we are not going to go down without a fight.
Posted by LibraLove30
We fought at Jan 11 over a small reason, and out of nowhere, he broke up with me in Facebook. I was crushed so bad. We haven't talked for almost 2 weeks.
I decided that we needed a proper closure.
We talked. I ended up begging him to stay, whenever I cry he would kiss me on the lips.
His reason was that he may not be able to be the person he used to be before, and he just can't do it anymore.
What hurt me the most was that he was migrating to another country. . .
We had sex for the last time. When he left he still told me he loves me.
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When I have it in my head that I am going to leave someone, I just do. A lot of times I have been thinking about it for a long time, and is not something I take lightly. I love security. And if I love someone, I will do almost anything to make it work. I hold my feelings inside a lot. If someone messes up, I don't always tell them. I just sit and observe what they do. When the time finally comes, it may seem like it came out of nowhere but I bet if you sit and think about it you will see that things haven't been right for a long time (see point 1 that I made- your gut has been telling you but you did not listen to yourself).
Posted by LibraLove30
We haven't talked for almost a month, yet he would send me txt msgs saying how much he loves and missed me. After I reply, he would just turn cold and won't reply anymore.
I really do want him back and I regret everything I had done in the past.
For now I'm just moving on with my life, even though it's hard, and waiting patiently for him to come back.
I really love him, and I'm just confused on why he would just leave me and still say he loves me.
I can't accept that our beautiful relationship would end because of a small reason.
My initial thought is that he sounds like a real jerk. And also, is he a drinker? Because I have had that experience with men, sometimes they get drunk and send text messages. Sometimes they are narcissistic and just want the ego boost of seeing you get involved again. It becomes a game- if I text this person right now, would they respond? What length will they go to for me this time?
I don't know why you would want to wait patiently for someone who treats you this way, because he does not love you if he cares so little about your feelings.
Posted by LibraLove30
We talked. I ended up begging him to stay, whenever I cry he would kiss me on the lips.
His reason was that he may not be able to be the person he used to be before, and he just can't do it anymore.
What hurt me the most was that he was migrating to another country. . .
Also, another thought is that if he is moving to another country, that might be why. Maybe he is never coming back. It also doesn't have to be something you did, it could be something inside him. Or it could be that he simply decided you are not "the one" and that is that.
I think a lot of people think that whenever there is a break up, there has to have been something that went wrong, there should be some kind of drama or argument or wrongdoing, and that is not always the case. It could be as simple as I just am not in love with you and I need to let you go so you we can both find our right matches.
Posted by capgirl69I admit, I was very immature. This is my first relationship and I was a jerk. He "stayed strong" meaning he forgave me for a sin no one would ever forgive. That's how much he loved me, he fought for me even if I was like that. I made him cry numerous times, so did he.
My thoughts on this are why were you talking to other guys and trying to break up with him. Probably was not meant to be if you felt this way during your relationship, probably should've ended it right then and there because your gut was telling you something. Him "staying strong"- Really, we don't like change, no one likes to be rejected, also if we like you we are not going to go down without a fight.
That's how he loved me.
When I have it in my head that I am going to leave someone, I just do. A lot of times I have been thinking about it for a long time, and is not something I take lightly. I love security. And if I love someone, I will do almost anything to make it work. I hold my feelings inside a lot. If someone messes up, I don't always tell them. I just sit and observe what they do. When the time finally comes, it may seem like it came out of nowhere but I bet if you sit and think about it you will see that things haven't been right for a long time (see point 1 that I made- your gut has been telling you but you did not listen to yourself).
You have an accurate truth about this. Thank you for giving me an answer to one of my questions. Perhaps he did thought about breaking up with me in the past. I guess it's your nature to wait and observe and see if the person had changed. I would say, why not tell us straight about it, rather than keeping us guessing, but I have nothing to do about it.
Thank you so much Capgirl.
Perhaps something wasn't right, but I still love him very much. No offense but I don't wanna bet on love with my gut.
My initial thought is that he sounds like a real jerk. And also, is he a drinker? Because I have had that experience with men, sometimes they get drunk and send text messages. Sometimes they are narcissistic and just want the ego boost of seeing you get involved again. It becomes a game- if I text this person right now, would they respond? What length will they go to for me this time?
I don't know why you would want to wait patiently for someone who treats you this way, because he does not love you if he cares so little about your feelings.
No, he isn't a drinker. I know him quite well, he wouldn't drink or party or go anywhere without telling me.
It could be a game, and I'm afraid I just boosted his ego.
And yes, I know he doesn't really care about how I feel, but everyone has their differences right?
At first I thought it was a "Cap Thing". Haha. Sorry.
So I accepted that nature even if that was mostly the cause of why I would get mad at him. LOL!
I don't know about waiting, but I'm still waiting for him to come back.
Why?
I know this is crazy but I really do love him.
I think about him ALL the time even if I'm having fun.
But sometimes, I also think that whenever he tells me how much he "misses me", "loves me", and how much hes been "thinking about me" , I think he doesn't really mean it.
A Cap guy/girl would go see the person and do what they want when they miss someone so much right?
Also, another thought is that if he is moving to another country, that might be why. Maybe he is never coming back. It also doesn't have to be something you did, it could be something inside him. Or it could be that he simply decided you are not "the one" and that is that.
I think a lot of people think that whenever there is a break up, there has to have been something that went wrong, there should be some kind of drama or argument or wrongdoing, and that is not always the case. It could be as simple as I just am not in love with you and I need to let you go so you we can both find our right matches.
True. But don't you Cap people give second chances?
He used to beg for me to get back with him when I was going to break up, and I gave him a second chance.
I told him that I wanna do the same for him. To stay strong.
What can I do to get him back? 😢
I don't think this is about giving second chances or not. If you are not living close to him, then I think there is really no point, in the mind of a Cap. If you two do end up living close to each other, then it would depend on what his impression of you was. If the impression was fairly good, he may try to find those old buried feelings again.
Again, my thoughts only. 😄
Thanks for your insight champranger. Not living close with my Cap, yeah that's the sad truth about it. I know long distance relationships never work out, but I just can't accept the fact that he is throwing away everything we've been through.
He left me hanging, breaking up in facebook and texting me how much he loves and misses me after leaving me all alone.
He is not leaving the country not until he graduates which is still a lot of months from now.
He just used to love me so much, and he suddenly changed overnight.
I really don't know what is happening in a Capricorn's mind. I'm still trying to believe that it is one of their "DISAPPEARING THEN APPEARING WHEN YOU MOVED ON" act, which is a very hurtful thing to do.
I heard from Tikki69, that Capricorns simply need their distance, and will eventually come back when they want to.
He still loves me, so I'm still hoping he could come back.
Is there truth in what Tikki69 said?
The last post was cut off. LOL. so I hid it.
I agree with you. The reason is how we don't understand each other, and we would eventually resolve to fighting which made our relationship very unstable. I just hope we could give me a better chance. He did told me that another aspect of a relationship is to grow together. :">
Astrologically speaking I belive that capricorns like alot of peace and depth and true understanding in a relationship. More so than sexual passion, and even romance and kindness. So my bet is that if a capricorn leaves it's because he doesn't feel a deep connection, understanding and he doen??st feel like the relationship is stable. He needs all of those in order to grow as a man in the relationship. Capricorns like things that can make them grow and be better people (I think all people do).
I agree with you. The reason is how we don't understand each other, and we would eventually resolve to fighting which made our relationship very unstable. I just hope we could give me a better chance. He did told me that another aspect of a relationship is to grow together. :">
Posted by JoieWay
I'm a cap lady, and not an expert on cap men. Just based on my life experience it seems like life has it's on way and everything has it's time. You can't really make anyone come back. It's about him, and what's happening inside him, it's not about you.
As people we change all the time, and what once worked for us suddenly stops working. That's when breakups happen. In order for a relationship to work two people have to evolve together in the same direction. It sounds like he is evolving in another direction. I understand that it's hurtful. I feel so bad for you, and I hope he comes back to you.
For now though, there's nothing you can do but accept his decision. Give him space to give him time to see how he feels.
If he loves you enough he??ll come back by himself, without you begging him. That is always the golden rule of love. You don't have to beg for true love. And you deserve true love, like all people.
that being said - you can't DO anything right now. Just accept the situation and work on being the best person that YOU can be, and be yourself. And the right relationship will come along if it's meant to be, either with him or someone else.
Al in all : Aceept his decision, stay friends and move on andembrace life. 🙂
Good luck.
I'm not really "making" him come back to me, but hoping. Hmm maybe "making him come back" in a sense, on how to act and what to do when he communicates with me and when he is not around.
I perfectly understand that those things are happening inside him, not about me. This difference is what kills my hatred for what he had done to me, leaving and breaking up with me online even though its my first relationship and the fact that I live alone.
I've searched through the thread and followed Tikki's advice, to move on with life and let him come to you.
This may be working since I did gave him space, and he woud be the one who would tell me how much he misses me.
Maybe it's a Cap thing? LOL
That being said, I am accepting and moving on with my life, even though I would get sad at times when I miss him.
Thank you JoieWay for your insights!
I like the "and I hope he comes back to you." part ahihi. Jk. I like all parts of your message. 🙂
Your advices made me feel good. Thank you. 🙂
Sooo these being said, what can I do for a Cap to give me a second chance?
Or to Caps out there, what can make you go back to your ex?
*knowing that you still love the person.
Or to Caps out there, what can make you go back to your ex?
*knowing that you still love the person.
Posted by JoieWay
Yeah, I suspected that. Alot of times we think, Oh if only they??d give me a second chance..
But I think we are fooling ourselves, because like a famous cap once sang - it's never as good as the first time. What I mean by tha is the first time was innocent, it was you and him being yourselves. That's the way it should be. You shouldn't adjust your personality to the point of begging. You have to have selfrespect to be yourself.
If things are meant to be they will be so naturally.
I am in the same situation as you, kind of. I have a problem with a cap guy and I have decided to just accept everything. We have to have selfrespect and say: I did my best. I respect the other person, but I deserve true love, and if he doesn't want to be my lover / friend than I will not insist. I will accept life ad move on.
That's the same thing he said to me when we had the proper closure! haha.
His one reason why he wouldn't get back with me is because he might not be able to be the person he used to be before.
I told him that it's alright, but he just said that it wasn't fair.
Why so?
My situation is so complicated. -_-
Posted by JoieWayPosted by LibraLove30
Sooo these being said, what can I do for a Cap to give me a second chance?
Or to Caps out there, what can make you go back to your ex?
*knowing that you still love the person.
It would be something inside of ME that makes me want to go back. There is nothing the other person can do or say except once telling me that they love me and wish to continue with our relationship.
I will be attracted to someone who is ambitious and moves on with their life even though I left them. Someone who has integrity and self respect and keeps strong, no matter what happens betewwn the two of us.
Life is really complicated, and the only thing you can do is just being you. Than what is meant for you will come to you.
That's all I can say.click to expand
Well we do still love each other. He just told me a while ago he missed me. I told him I still loved and missed him last friday, he replied with the same thing.
And yeah, that's definitely what I'll be doing!!! Move on and be ambitious without him. Maybe he'll come along when I do that.
Thanks for that JoieWay!
I hope whats meant for me would eventually enter my life soon. 🙂
People change, some A LOT faster than others. Around this board, you will hear of the infamous Aqua Venus placement, because people with this placement CAN very suddenly lose interest in someone, and they place high value on their freedom and uniqueness.
Yeah, though I can't do anything about their personality. And yeah, my cap did got his freedom. But what I want to know is how long does it take them to realize they lost someone very precious? (Given that career/work is their first priority) And what will they do about it? Will it they make the first move?
--> It doesn't matter how many months it is from now. The bottom line is that he IS leaving and you two WILL be leaving very far apart.
A bit harsh. Campranger, I already know those reality, that we will be far apart. I know it is inevitable. But that's the reason why I posted this thread, to ask advices on how to get him back despite the distance. A lot of Long distance rela lasts years. 🙂
He doesn't know if you will be a part of his life in the future, and neither do you.
No one knows. Isn't that already given? But we dictate our future by our choices and decisions.
I have read that a Cap tends to plan for the future and work hard to achieve this plan.
And yeah, that's another trait that is common among caps. 🙂
--> Even if he still loves you now, there is no guarantee he WILL STILL love you years later. There is no guarantee your feelings will stay the same either. If he is meant to come back to come back in your life, he will.
Harsh words. Feelings are only temporary. That's why there are stages of love, and I'm aiming for a mature relationship. A companionship. A relationship not based on feelings but love, mature love. The feelings may be gone, but the love will always be there.
You just don't need to be idly waiting for him.click to expand
I really do love him, and I'm not really idly waiting. I'm still moving on with life, and if he does come back, then come what may.
Thanks for the insight Campranger! 🙂
Sorry but I feel offended/hurt by your statements. I posted this thread to get advices on how to get my cap back based on astrology and zodiac signs.
So don't need to point out on the reality or what is already given.
I just really want to get my cap back.
Cheers! 🙂
Posted by champrangerPosted by LibraLove30
People change, some A LOT faster than others. Around this board, you will hear of the infamous Aqua Venus placement, because people with this placement CAN very suddenly lose interest in someone, and they place high value on their freedom and uniqueness.
Yeah, though I can't do anything about their personality. And yeah, my cap did got his freedom. But what I want to know is how long does it take them to realize they lost someone very precious? (Given that career/work is their first priority) And what will they do about it? Will it they make the first move?
Is it still realistic for them to make a move? Realistic as in, if they make move, what are the chances that it will lead to long term success and a strong bond? Do they still have the same feelings for this person as they did before?click to expand
Hey Campranger! Thanks for the insight! We got back together on Valentines Day, after I prepared a scrap book, which I didn't finished.
He showed up in my doorstep out of nowhere.
To answer your question about the long term success, well everything went back to normal between us. We avoid fights as much as possible. 🙂
According to him, he said he STILL loves me so much. So I don't know whether the feelings are the same or not, but I do believe everything went back to the way it was before. 🙂
P.S. My Cap told me that he decided to go to another country in order to move on from me quickly. He doesn't really want to go overseas for good. He said will stay, wherever I was.
I'm afraid of what may happen though...
I mean he did left me a lot of times in the past.
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He caught me 3 times talking with other guys on the net, yet he forgave me and still loved me.
I attempted to break up with him 3 times,yet he stayed strong for me.
He changed and adjusted for me.
He really does love me.
We fought at Jan 11 over a small reason, and out of nowhere, he broke up with me in Facebook. I was crushed so bad.
He knew that this was my first break up and that I lived alone.
He knew that I had no one to talk to about this, since we are both discreet.
We haven't talked for almost 2 weeks.
I decided that we needed a proper closure.
We talked. I ended up begging him to stay, whenever I cry he would kiss me on the lips.
His reason was that he may not be able to be the person he used to be before, and he just can't do it anymore.
What hurt me the most was that he was migrating to another country. . .
We had sex for the last time. When he left he still told me he loves me.
We haven't talked for almost a month, yet he would send me txt msgs saying how much he loves and missed me. After I reply, he would just turn cold and won't reply anymore.
I really do want him back and I regret everything I had done in the past.
For now I'm just moving on with my life, even though it's hard, and waiting patiently for him to come back.
I really love him, and I'm just confused on why he would just leave me and still say he loves me.
I can't accept that our beautiful relationship would end because of a small reason.
@Tikki, if you are still active, please offer me advices.
Anyone knows how to get my Cap back?
Or would he ever come back for me?