Capricorn male - insight needed please.

Hello to all, I'm brand new so please go easy on me. I don't know much about astrology other than the fact I am very interested in it after years of observing patterns that can't be explained by anything else.

This post is about a Capricorn male, Pisces moon, suspected Aquarius rising but can't be sure. Venus is in Scorpio, for added measure.

I am Pisces Sun, Aquarius moon, Gemini rising and Venus in Aquarius.

I've known this guy for a fair few years now within a friendship capacity. However, two years ago I realised I had feelings for him and had done for some time. I mustered the courage and told him. His response was very mannerly and tactful, but he said he couldn't return my feelings at that time.

Fast forward a few months; we are still great friends as I chose not to let my admission interfere with the friendship. We are at a party and, being PisceaPiscean, I sense a very strong energy coming from him and almost know that something is going to happen. It does. Out of the blue, he literally grabbed me, muttered some things about having been "stupid" and telling me I was so this and I was so that (compliments). He was drunk. He then kissed me. We eventually ended up alone, but I refused to sleep with him as again, intuition kicked in and I sensed I wasn't getting the whole picture. He was incredibly attentive and to be perfectly honest, I have never felt chemistry like it in my life. It was actually terrifying.

A few days later, I approached him about what had happened as I couldn't help wondering if it meant something. At first, he flat out denied all memory of it and said he was being a drunken idiot. Then, he did acknowledge what had happened but said he was sorry and hoped we could continue to be friends. I was completely crushed. Seriously, genuinely heartbroken. I told him so. We then barely spoke for a few months; I was glad as I needed time to process what had happened. Eventually, I approached him again and explained that while I found it hard to deal with, I didn't want it to affect our friendship and I forgave him. I also made it very clear that I don't just have minor feelings - I can't quite explain what it is I feel, but despite everything I still see him as this amazing, intriguing, remarkable guy. I'd willingly do anything to make him happy, anything at all, and have on several occasions put my own happiness second to his. Call me pathetic, but as we started to talk more frequently again, I went back to being there

I went back to being there for him totally and he knew it, too.

More recently, his behaviour has changed and we have been hanging out more (always in other people's company). He actually initiated contact with me last week to have a few drinks. For the rest of the night he acted very differently to before: he held onto me while walking on ice so I wouldn't fall, opened doors for me, shielded the back of my head from a heater that was burning me while I tried to warm my back. We were taking pictures and he took my bottle of beer off me, telling me not to hide behind it. In more immeasurable terms, he gave off such a warmth toward me, which I haven't sensed from him before. Lots of eye contact, sitting beside me, subtle compliments, showing quite an intense interest in what I had to say.

I'm now just as confused as I was before. He was so cold (but mannerly) before, now he's anything but cold - not publically as such but between the two of us he is warm enough for me to notice, like he wants me to notice it.

What do I think about this? My gut is screaming that he has feelings too but is/has been afraid and needed time. I just don't want to approach him bluntly again as I think that was my downfall before. Subtlety seems to be key.

Any thoughts on this would be appreciated so much. I feel like I'm losing my marbles.

ask him?

it's obvious he has you in the friend zone for a reason... not that interested even if he could be warm and all... men have needs and that drunken attempt at connecting with you was probably for sex?

You said you wanted to be friends. He's taking you as your word. He cares about you, as friends. Believe me, if he wanted more, he would have jumped on it. Caps, especially caps with venus scorpio, are not afraid to go out on a limb romantically.

So, stay true to your word and stop telling him you have feelings for him. You decided to be friends so stick to it. Otherwise, he's going to feel uncomfortable around you and he won't ever take you seriously again.

It's time to find another crush, don't you think?

Truecap, I don't understand - I never said I wanted to be just friends. Perhaps you misinterpreted me. What I said to him was within the context of not losing touch with one another just because I had my feelings hurt.

It is worth adding that his behaviour is confusing because he doesn't act the way he has with me recently around any female friends. Ever. It's highly unusual, to the point where one or two others have remarked on it. That's why I came here for advice on what to do, if anything.

Posted by PisceanMist

A few days later, I approached him about what had happened as I couldn't help wondering if it meant something. At first, he flat out denied all memory of it and said he was being a drunken idiot. Then, he did acknowledge what had happened but said he was sorry and hoped we could continue to be friends. I was completely crushed. Seriously, genuinely heartbroken. I told him so. We then barely spoke for a few months; I was glad as I needed time to process what had happened. Eventually, I approached him again and explained that while I found it hard to deal with, I didn't want it to affect our friendship and I forgave him. I also made it very clear that I don't just have minor feelings - I can't quite explain what it is I feel,

I suppose I misunderstood you here. To me it says you wanted to be friend, yet you had more than friendship feelings.

THAT is a contradiction.

Yes. As in I wanted to remain friends in spite of my feelings. I'd much rather have him around as a friend than not at all - and that was fine until his behaviour changed. It was the change in behaviour toward me that dragged up my feelings again. I hope that makes it more clear.

He is testing you. It sounds like your passing if you remain patient. The time will come when he is ready, he already knows you are ready...

Posted by PisceanMist
Yes. As in I wanted to remain friends in spite of my feelings. I'd much rather have him around as a friend than not at all - and that was fine until his behaviour changed. It was the change in behaviour toward me that dragged up my feelings again. I hope that makes it more clear.

He friend zoned you and you settled for that as truecap said. If he was interested, you would know!