Capricorn man broke up with me I need advice

I am honestly going nuts right now! My boyfriend (ex boyfriend whatever) broke up with me on Valentine's Day! Maybe like 2 or 3 weeks before all of this happened, I noticed that he was acting so strange. Like I guess it's normal for Capricorn Men to distance themselves. But there was just something different. Like I would always have to initiate hanging out. And one time we went shopping and he was just so quiet all day. I just really felt like something was up since that day. Like whenever we would hangout and I wanted to go home he wouldn't even care. Or he wouldn't even make sure that I got home safely like he normally would. On the 3rd of February I went over to his house so I could break up with him because he was being so weird. But when I came over he was being so nice. Turns out he wanted sexual pleasure from me (if you know what I mean). And now I noticed that whenever he was being super sweet that's when he wanted to have sex or whatever. I noticed in our relationship we went from having sex almost everyday to barely doing anything at all. And I just thought it was because we're both Christians, and he feels guilty after we do it. (Which he's shared with me even in the beginning of our relationship). So 3 days before Valentine's Day we were hanging out in his room and he was checking his text messages. From where I could see he deleted a message and I thought that was pretty weird. So on Valentine's Day we were watching TV and he fell asleep so I decided to look through his phone which I never do. I ended up seeing that he was talking to his ex-girlfriend. Which wouldn't be a problem if he told me. But he didn't tell me because he knew I wouldn't be okay with it. He was supposed to be housesitting his neighbors house and he asked her to come over one night. I'm not sure if they ever hung out. My adrenaline rush was going crazy and I don't even know what I really read but I know for sure that he invited her over and was asking her about her boyfriend and stuff like that. Long story short I got up told him I was breaking up with him and he was like why? And I asked him why are you talking to your ex-girlfriend and he got mad and he asked me why I was looking through his phone and I told him that's because he was acting weird. Then he said I think we should break up. And me being a clingy libra asked him what's going on and how can we make this work. He replied I don't think that either of us should be in a relationship right now. And he gave me all

Continued: these reasons which were pretty good reasons. Like he just wanted to focus on school and work which is pretty understandable. He just wants to hang out with his friends okay I get it. And he said that he felt really guilty after having sex. He still has feelings for his ex but he's not going to get back with her (obviously because she's engaged). He told me that he just wanted to see how she was because they were supposed to be friends after the breakup but they never could because of her current boyfriend/fianc?. He told me that he was thinking about breaking up with me for a while and he wanted to wait after Valentine's Day and that's why he didn't get me a gift. I asked him if he just wanted to take a break. And he said yeah we could (out of pity I'm sure) but I don't want you getting false hope. I ended up leaving his house after talking with him for about an hour. And he wanted to meet up in a week as friends just to catch up I guess. He texted me afterwards saying that he felt really horrible blah blah blah. And he told me that I deserve someone who will give me 100% of their time and effort blah blah blah and that I will find someone like that one day...then he got into a car accident. And I ended up telling him that it's too soon to meet up because I'm still really hurt. He told me that he didn't completely lose feelings for me when we broke up (idk if he was lying or not) and he told me that he thought he had feelings for his ex but he really doesn't. He told me he was sorry for leading me on and he hopes that we can be friends in the future. I asked him when he was leading me on? And he told me that it was after the New Years party when I was drunk and accidentally slipped the L word to him. Like I loved him. But I wasn't in love if that makes sense. He said that we weren't on the same page. And he wanted to continue dating me to see if his feelings would go further. And they didn't. He just liked me and that's it. And I explained to him that I wasn't in love and maybe things could have worked out. But it doesn't matter anymore. Then I asked him if he's just not trying to be in a relationship or is it just me? And he never replied. And we haven't talked since. I'm not sad anymore that we're not together. I'm just really disappointed in him. And I'm sad that we just don't talk at all anymore. And I'm wondering if he even feels hurt at all like how I was hurt. I wonder why he hasn't talked to me. I feel like I shouldn't be the one to ma

Continued: to make the first move. Idk what to do. I don't want to push him away. But I really do miss him as a friend. When can we start talking as friends again? Idk maybe I do want to be with him. How would I get him back? I'm so indecisive. I really need insight from a Capricorn. How would you guys go about this? Would you ever go back to the relationship? What can I do on my part to make this work? And here's another thing. We really didn't have a lot in common and I think that was a turn off for him. We just got along really well and were attracted to each other. He once told me that he and his ex had so much in common and they were in love. I felt like I was being compared to his ex. And I felt like he wasn't over her. But I just kept on with the relationship...

Doesn't sound like he wants to be with you... Sorry but you deserve someone better. He's not over his ex.
He wants what he can't have.

Spend time relaxing, go out with friends, movies, pamper yourself etc keep busy and do not get in touch with him.

It's hard at first but gets easier. This will show him that you are happier n confident without him.

Pull away from him. Treat yourself look after no.1 (you)

Hugs xxx

Posted by SamCancerGirl
Doesn't sound like he wants to be with you... Sorry but you deserve someone better. He's not over his ex.
He wants what he can't have.

Spend time relaxing, go out with friends, movies, pamper yourself etc keep busy and do not get in touch with him.

It's hard at first but gets easier. This will show him that you are happier n confident without him.

Pull away from him. Treat yourself look after no.1 (you)

Hugs xxx

Aww thank you! Yeah I totally get that he doesn't want to be with me...and it hurts so much. I just wish we could be friends...I feel like he'll never talk to me again. And that makes me so sad. I wish I could change his mind. Thanks for the advice (:

He is not ready for a relationship just yet and even though he cares he is simply not in love with you.
It sucks but it happens. You'll get over it.

Lessons for next time:
- Don't say you love him unless you really mean it
- FFS do not read other people's messages. Not even if "he fell asleep so I decided to look through his phone which I never do" or "He was acting weird"
It is the quickest way to end a relationship for me. All it does is satisfy your curiousity and make you feel less uncertain. It's the sort of shit that can only go wrong.

Posted by TigerCap
He is not ready for a relationship just yet and even though he cares he is simply not in love with you.
It sucks but it happens. You'll get over it.

Lessons for next time:
- Don't say you love him unless you really mean it
- FFS do not read other people's messages. Not even if "he fell asleep so I decided to look through his phone which I never do" or "He was acting weird"
It is the quickest way to end a relationship for me. All it does is satisfy your curiousity and make you feel less uncertain. It's the sort of shit that can only go wrong.

Thanks! Yeah I know...it wasn't right for me to go through his phone. But I did...And I wish I hadn't. But maybe it was all meant to be. I don't think we were right for each other...it does suck. but you're right. I'll get over it. I just miss him. Like when would it be an appropriate time to talk to him just as friends?

It won't be appropriate ever cause you still have feelings for him. Move on.

Why do you want to be friends with someone who you liked and cared for and theyve been stringing you along?

A friend wouldnt even treat you like that. This man had an impact on you and didnt treat you like you were even a friend of his.

Im all for being respectful and cordial but thats bout it.

by the way, whats up with your breakup bluff?

you guys are awesome for reading my super long post and helping me out! You're right I don't think it is appropriate to be friends with him, especially since I still have feelings for him. I just hate the no contact thing. But I know it's going to help heal me (even though at the same time it's driving me nuts). And I said that I was breaking up with him because I was angry and I knew it was the right thing to say and do...but at the same time I just didn't want to let him go...so he let me go instead ): plus this was my first relationship, which is no excuse...but I am highly inexperienced with these things.