Capricorn men and emotions

Having a conversation with my cap today about relationships/ family etc, and he tells me he never ever talks about his feelings with his family ( maybe his mother sometimes)
Are Capricorn men always this guarded with their feelings and emotions? Does it take them a while to open up in that way in a relationship?
Also, what are the particular traits of a cap man in a relationship? The last boyfriend I had was an aries aswell and so far the boyfriend experiences have been polar opposites almost!
Any feedback would be great 🙂

Caps are very, very guarded. It takes a while to relax and open up. Push it and we shut down. We have to trust first and we have to have a base to build on.

Of course, I can't speak for every cap, but I think the majority would agree.

Posted by truecap
Caps are very, very guarded. It takes a while to relax and open up. Push it and we shut down. We have to trust first and we have to have a base to build on.

Of course, I can't speak for every cap, but I think the majority would agree.

Yeah that's definitely the impression I get from him which is why I haven't pushed it and being patient!
so this is a normal trait in the beginning of a relationship?

Posted by Ellenthearies

Posted by truecap
Caps are very, very guarded. It takes a while to relax and open up. Push it and we shut down. We have to trust first and we have to have a base to build on.

Of course, I can't speak for every cap, but I think the majority would agree.

Yeah that's definitely the impression I get from him which is why I haven't pushed it and being patient!
so this is a normal trait in the beginning of a relationship?

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Of course. We are cautious in nature. We aren't impulsive.

It takes me a long, long time to decide whether I even have feelings for someone.

Posted by truecap

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Posted by truecap
Caps are very, very guarded. It takes a while to relax and open up. Push it and we shut down. We have to trust first and we have to have a base to build on.

Of course, I can't speak for every cap, but I think the majority would agree.

Yeah that's definitely the impression I get from him which is why I haven't pushed it and being patient!
so this is a normal trait in the beginning of a relationship?

Of course. We are cautious in nature. We aren't impulsive.

It takes me a long, long time to decide whether I even have feelings for someone.

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What traits would a cap nornally have when they are into someone?

In the beginning?

Time. Time is valuable. So if I spend my time with you, then you are important.
Response. If you reach out and I respond timely, then you are important.
Touch. If I touch you, I like you.

Trucap basically has it all cover.

Normally, yes, we're guarded.

Posted by SirHorns

Trucap basically has it all cover.

Normally, yes, we're guarded.

You're a cap man, though. You probably have insights that I haven't thought about.

We are natural skeptics.

I always look for, and notice first, red flags, and negative traits.

I'll look for your positives AFTER I have determined if your negatives are something I'm prepared to deal with.

Thanks for the advice guys, I really like this Capricorn, so if he needs some time before he talks about his emotions im okay with that, as long as I'm reassured he still likes me and wants this going somewhere!
From other chats we've had I think the reason he's closed off with emotions is because he's had a few relationships and been hurt in them, so a natural reaction is to protect yourself I guess!

Self preservation....

Yep sounds about right, he is also German so very much no bullshit.
His response the only time I've asked
'I don't want to talk about my emotions and feelings'
Message received!
But I can tell from things he's told me and how he is as a person hes doing exactly what you said @canbelo , self preservation.

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I am cappie and I hardly ever talk about my feelings with any of my family! Why should I? My feelings are mine not theirs. If I can't fix it myself there's nothing they can do about it. Period.

Also cappies are about action. Some are never truly able to open up and verbalize how they feel. I trust actions over words. So if he acts very "deep" you can believe you are the only one and he sees a future with you

Posted by CapTenn
We are natural skeptics.

I always look for, and notice first, red flags, and negative traits.

I'll look for your positives AFTER I have determined if your negatives are something I'm prepared to deal with.

Thats very wise to do so.... I also want to do it this way but its hard to see people at their worst, they wont show it to you obviously...

Posted by CapricornLaurie
Also cappies are about action. Some are never truly able to open up and verbalize how they feel. I trust actions over words. So if he acts very "deep" you can believe you are the only one and he sees a future with you

I can completely understand that because to an extent I think I am like that aswell, Im never one to spout love poems about how someone is my morning sun etc etc, but I would definitely tell someone that I liked them/a lot. With him I feel more reserved because he is more reserved.

I guess there are a couple of actions he has done that shows me he likes me, but I don't think it's love yet. Too early days! What would you do to show a person you loved them?

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In the beginning?

Time. Time is valuable. So if I spend my time with you, then you are important.
Response. If you reach out and I respond timely, then you are important.
Touch. If I touch you, I like you.

I think as long as he's not gay he prob would touch any women back...just saying 😆

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I have a personal space. I don't want anyone invading that space and I don't invade anyone else's space. I am not a huggy, touchy feely person. I'm uncomfortable with touch and hugs unless it's someone I know well or someone I like. I'll stiffen up otherwise. Therefore, if I reach out and touch someone on the arm or pat their knee or reach out for a hug....that means something because i don't normally reach out and touch people.

Posted by kalin

Posted by truecap
In the beginning?

Time. Time is valuable. So if I spend my time with you, then you are important.
Response. If you reach out and I respond timely, then you are important.
Touch. If I touch you, I like you.

I think as long as he's not gay he prob would touch any women back...just saying 😆

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I have a personal space. I don't want anyone invading that space and I don't invade anyone else's space. I am not a huggy, touchy feely person. I'm uncomfortable with touch and hugs unless it's someone I know well or someone I like. I'll stiffen up otherwise. Therefore, if I reach out and touch someone on the arm or pat their knee or reach out for a hug....that means something because i don't normally reach out and touch people.