Capricorns: Impulsive?

Ok I got in to some trouble at work. I am going to fight because it is not true. But I am currently, I guess you would say dating a Cap that I met at work 2 months ago. He knew that this issue would arise before hand but it really surfaced on Monday. I am kind of sad about what happened and didn't say anything to him about it. He called last nite and asked why didn't I call him all day, I was down, plus I knew he was busy. We were talking and he could tell that something was up, eventually I spilled the beans and he asked why didn't I tell him earlier, I started to cry a bit and BOOM, he said "I love you".

WOW, we met in July, been hanging out since then. We were 2gether last weekend for the first time. He said that we were a match and he can see us together and other stuff. When we were together last weekend, he said the same things, but not I love you. He just said he liked me ALOT. He called this morning to check up on me and give me more advice.

He said he likes to move slow because he wants to savor us like his favorite meal.

God knows I want to believe him.

I am just wondering, is he just being a knight in shining armor? This is kind of scary for me because I haven't been in love in ages because scared of a broken heart HELP, ADVISE, SOMETHING? Is he impulsive and just saying this stuff to try and make me feel better.

Yea I am speechless too LS. Shocked the hell out of me. I just kind of ignored it when he said it. He is not very expressive either, and he is a change the subject kind of person. So yea.

I can say from the beginning, I told him I want a relationship, no friends with benefits, no fly by night thing. I want love. I told him that str8 up multiple times. And he said he wanted the same thing. I think what really influenced this was the fact that we are both in the military and he just returned from a 15 month deployment in Afghan.

Most males and females in the military who are single have a inner yearning, especially when their deployed for love. War kind of put life into perspective with your dreams and goals bc your life is at risk evryday, here today, gone tomorrow, you think about your life as, what I want to do when I am out of the war zone.

The first time he let me in (finally), I went to his house, he gave me a tour, showed all his pics in Afghan. But for what I am used to, its been pretty slow.

What I do know about Caps, I have personally dealt with 4 on a romantic level and dated 2 out of that. They will tell you what they want from you. My ex for 4yrs wanted a gilrfriend from the moment we met and it was 4yrs. The 2nd wanted something casual and nuttin serious and it was 3 months and he was always true to that. The other 2 told me what they wanted and 1 I wanted but he was far away, didnt want anything serious, the other was just a friend.

With this Cap, he told me he wanted love, someone to come home to. He didn't want a friend with benefit thing.

He called me 2 times today already, within a 4hr span. At lunch and just 30 mins ago when I got off work.

Its scaring me a bit.....I won't lie, I wish he didn't call bc I am on edge from him saying he love me. I just want to breath a bit. PLUS I know I can't be like this with him. I would never call so much cause I know Caps.

I am a cancer and its generalized that we are clingy, which we can be, but with my maturity and my Cap rising or moon, whatever its called, makes me a super duper loner and okay with the distance and the not seeing him everyday thing. I definitely need my space.

I wasn'y gonna call him yesterday either until he called asking why I never called him. I know he is just concerned about me too, which is great to have.

But he has all the other Cap characterisstics for sure, but this one curve ball was a big confusion. Anyways, Im not gonna think too much. take it day by day.

I want to know what your response was to "i love u"

Posted by scorpricorn
I want to know what your response was to "i love u"

I didn't really respond. I just continued listening to him. I mean I love him but I am not IN love with him.

@Scorpio chic.

I tried to talk to him but as you might know Caps can be so "change the subject" type persons. ANd also they can be revengeful in a passive way. Its lie he punishes you if you don't answer his call right away, so I don't want to drive him away because he might perceive it as rejection.

We kind of got into an argument and he was really pissed off because, I question his genuinity, he just kind of told me he was looking for a partner, not a play thing and all that....and he was upset but how else am I to know what he really thinks? Now I am just going with the flow and just taking it day by day. Thats it.

A woman's emotions scare the hell out of men, they clam up, get super quiet, get intense, they feel out of control, crying can definitely have that effect on some men. I think it's sweet that he said I love you, I guess the only problem that I sense is he said it to change your feelings from sad to safe/secure. Seems he panicked, that's part of the fight or flight mode thing men sometimes do. I can promise you he panicked when you cried, genuine vulnerable feelings is not something most men are used to dealing with.

If he says it again under new circumstances, less stressful circumstances then you will know 100% he's ready....

Don't dismiss his "I love you" but I can see why you are suspect

Posted by justSophs
@Scorpio chic.

I tried to talk to him but as you might know Caps can be so "change the subject" type persons. ANd also they can be revengeful in a passive way. Its lie he punishes you if you don't answer his call right away, so I don't want to drive him away because he might perceive it as rejection.

We kind of got into an argument and he was really pissed off because, I question his genuinity, he just kind of told me he was looking for a partner, not a play thing and all that....and he was upset but how else am I to know what he really thinks? Now I am just going with the flow and just taking it day by day. Thats it.

Yep, take it easy, go with it and see were it all leads into....Men are not women, a huge amount of women have this love plan, timelime, but men are quite different when it comes to love and commitment, when they are ready they just are, you make them feel good around you they just wanna stay and give back, don't nit pick and analyze it to death.

There are women begging inside to hear I love you from there cap man.....You must have had a profound effect on him.

Of course it's okay to be suspect but be reserved and observe, his actions will tell you if he's being honest.

I believe he meant it....