Caps and Gems

why do we have such a difficult time getting along? Seriously, we can learn so much mutually.

Posted by Jahlia
I've noticed that Geminis are inconsistent when it comes to friendly relationships with people, so perhaps that has something to do with it? I enjoy their company, but honestly I don't feel like spending time to calculate on what days they'll act buddy buddy or ignore me completely. But I've never clashed with a Gemini :p.

No that's not it. It's probably why Gems ignore you...

Posted by geminitwin
why do we have such a difficult time getting along? Seriously, we can learn so much mutually.

I believe you are correct in we could learn so much from each other. However:

I actually admire many Caps; only the men though. The one female Cap friend I did have was always
talking about how much she had and how much more educated she was than others. Not only that,
she put down others when she did it. That was a turn off to me, I got tired of it and slowly
distanced myself from that relationship. She tried to maintain the friendship but I had had
enough. Another female Cap I was friends with was married and always talked about her husband
but then she cheated on him every chance she could get! No, I don't think--I KNOW and although
it was none of my biz I don't respect that so I distanced myself from that situation. The other
Cap women I know are very intelligent and ambitious, but they are very jealous and can be very
controlling.

However much I admire the men none was able to keep my attention for long--in a romantic sense.
As friends the men are hilarious for the most part. Some were very boring. I find they are worriers--for no reason.

That is all.

The two male Gems I knew were spineless and lacked any moral backbone. Chasing after girls with boyfriends while they already had a girlfriend back home. And whenever they had a problem with me they would rather sulk in a corner and glare at me instead of facing me and telling me what was bothering them. Whiny.

Good points: Pleasant company, fun at parties.

Posted by Chance11
i get along well with gems now that i better understand their nature. i know the moral ambiguity and the treating of ppl as pawns if deemed intellectually inferior can be off putting..but not all gems are like that (just half of them :p)

some positives: they are good initiators and caps can be slow starters. they get ppl to open up whereas sometimes 'cap honesty' gets a defensive response. understand concepts well enough to have great conversations with. get over things and don't waste time holding grudges.

some negatives: on emotional intelligence, they make us look like pisces 😄. lack of depth and flitting around makes gem look uncompassionate..something caps get accused of but for a different reason.

overall, i think there's mutual respect despite vastly different M.O.s. both signs generally aren't busy bodies so each lets the other do their own thing.

they are the hare to our tortoise..and without them think how boring the zodiac would be..filled with mainly unoriginal and overly reactive signs. mostly, i just like how 90% of the ones on dxp are so filled with pride that they have to put 'gem' in their name as if it wouldn't be obvious..so i'm willing to to give them a second chance 🙂

I do have to agree with you on if I deem someone my intellectual inferior I may not have much to do with them. However, as I get older I know I can learn something from everyone and I may be missing out. The thing is, for me to do that, they need to hold my interest for longer than 5 minutes. That's normally how long it takes before I say to myself, "I need to escape!"

All Caps I know are highly intelligent--I've never met one who I'd say was a dingbat. ijs

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by TigerCap
... spineless and lacked any moral backbone...

This as well as being inconsistent and always desiring change (even when it's at the expense of others).

If I ever get involved with a Gemini ever again, I give my fellow Cappies permission to skin me alive with a piece of flint - after which, you can make a flint 'tortilla-type' wrap and then shove it up my arse...

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Not trying to be mean but the Gems you knew probably wanted to be skinned alive after being bored to tears! I'm just kidding (sort of)!

Gems and Caps can get along with compromise. Gems should try to be more consistent and Caps by loosening up a bit...that is all.

I only know one Gem, get along great with her. Then again, my moon & asc are in Gem, so it probably helps. I have no issue letting her do all the talking though, and lordy, god almighty, that woman can talk LOL

Oh, I work with a Gem too. We call him the absent minded professor 🙂

Posted by GemStar05

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by TigerCap
... spineless and lacked any moral backbone...

This as well as being inconsistent and always desiring change (even when it's at the expense of others).
If I ever get involved with a Gemini ever again, I give my fellow Cappies permission to skin me alive with a piece of flint - after which, you can make a flint 'tortilla-type' wrap and then shove it up my arse...

Not trying to be mean but the Gems you knew probably wanted to be skinned alive after being bored to tears! I'm just kidding (sort of)!
Gems and Caps can get along with compromise. Gems should try to be more consistent and Caps by loosening up a bit...that is all.

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Actually I was usually the one that wanted to stuff a pepper up there and inject them with speed. 😛
Damn those guys could be boring.

Gems, in general, are inconsistent and seldom follow through with what they say they're going to do. For this reason, they are not dependable nor are they reliable. They say one thing one day and another thing the next day. They are not loyal when it comes down to it as their loyalty flitters back and forth between different people depending on what mood they are in that day. They are drama queens/kings and need constant change and uproar and this makes caps uncomfortable.

All that said, they are fun and bring out the lighter side in us and are always good for a laugh.

Caps are probably really, really boring to gems.

- Just my 2 cents -

Oh, for what it's worth, I don't dislike Gems, but I have a hard time trusting them. I do enjoy being around them and talking with them. They are very intelligent and great conversationalists and have so many interests in so many things.

I am a little biased, though, since my marriage to one ended up badly.

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by GemStar05

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by TigerCap
... spineless and lacked any moral backbone...

This as well as being inconsistent and always desiring change (even when it's at the expense of others).

If I ever get involved with a Gemini ever again, I give my fellow Cappies permission to skin me alive with a piece of flint - after which, you can make a flint 'tortilla-type' wrap and then shove it up my arse...

Not trying to be mean but the Gems you knew probably wanted to be skinned alive after being bored to tears! I'm just kidding (sort of)!

Gems and Caps can get along with compromise. Gems should try to be more consistent and Caps by loosening up a bit...that is all.

If they're bored to tears, why did I end up being involved with one for four years?

So, I need to loosen up? That would probably explain why virtually every Gemini I dated confessed that I was their best bf/lover to date.

Try harder next time...

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Awwwww you're upset... Oh and I said some bored me, however Ive never bedded one...might have to do that one of these days... lol! 😉

Oh and to set the record straight: SOME Caps are boring; and SOME Gems might be whatever ya'll said up there. LOL!


Hmmm but I still need to find out about the sex thing though... Something came to mind when Nicrobliz said that about being the best--I remember when a Cap wanted to suck my toes! No sex just suck my toes because he said they were pretty... I had completely forgotten about that... hmmm.....

''I've noticed that Geminis are inconsistent when it comes to friendly relationships with people, so perhaps that has something to do with it? I enjoy their company, but honestly I don't feel like spending time to calculate on what days they'll act buddy buddy or ignore me completely. But I've never clashed with a Gemini :p.''



For me the inconsistent thing is because I do not have anything to say. I may go research something and then I'll see you in a few days. Other times I may not want to display my bad mood to you, so I
split until my mood is better. No use being around me when i'm in a mood. AnywAy I, try to be cordial with all, but that is me.

I get along great with Gemini people.
I just don't understand their behavior all the time. Used to be a problem because I was married to one. Now I just keep my distance when they get too complicated.

I actually don't find geminis to be inconsistent at all.

I just can't relate to their unpredictablity sometimes and I need to take breaks from them.

There is a younger Gemini I work with at my other job. Coolest person ever! So interesting and fun to talk too, and I find myself beyond impressed with her people skills and maturity, especially in that area.. Its something to envy really.

My aunt is a Gemini. My Cappy grandma had three girls and three boys. The Gemini is the oldest girl, and My Gemini uncle is the youngest boy. Anyway, in my grandmas old neighborhood...guys they grew up with would still knock at my grandmothers door asking if my Gemini aunt was there. She had moved away, married, had a kid and they would still look for her just to talk. I think my Cancer aunt, who had the best body of the three, was always a tad jealous of my Gemini aunt.

My Gemini uncle, who is 2 1/2 yrs older than me, called a few months ago saying how I need to keep in touch more. I think it bothers him that I dont call much, or only call my grandmother. He attract friends like flies. Its crazy!

All in all I dig Gems. I love their brand of maturity, and their ability to keep a conversation going AND interesting.

Posted by geminitwin
''I've noticed that Geminis are inconsistent when it comes to friendly relationships with people, so perhaps that has something to do with it? I enjoy their company, but honestly I don't feel like spending time to calculate on what days they'll act buddy buddy or ignore me completely. But I've never clashed with a Gemini :p.''



For me the inconsistent thing is because I do not have anything to say. I may go research something and then I'll see you in a few days. Other times I may not want to display my bad mood to you, so I
split until my mood is better. No use being around me when i'm in a mood. AnywAy I, try to be cordial with all, but that is me.

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LOL@ Nicro I guess you "told" me! Have a great Satuday! :-)

Two very bad experiences with Cap females - both ended becoming enemies to me. Years later, now my MIL is a cappy. Have been with her in small doses and she seems fine. Also another major influence my brother's gf who's a cappy. She's a bit volatile with her moods and complains a lott. Had an episode with her throwing a tantrum at my family the night before my wedding... sometimes I keep wondering how my brother puts up with such heavy lifting. She definitely comes with a "handle me with care" warning and a handbook.

I think Gems and Caps get along just fine. I find a lot of similarities between ourselves and cappys. I think to make it successful a lot of compromise needs to be made between the both.

Caps are authoritative and like to be in control. Gems like to be in control but we are fine to have someone else provide the authority.

Its a hard balance when both gem and cap want to be in control and call the shots. Caps cant seem to back down and go with the flow and do what the gem suggests where as gems would be happy to back down and go with what cappy says.

There are some power struggles but as i said, with compromise, all will work out.

I definitely think these 2 signs can learn A LOT from each other.