Caps Do You Keep Your Exes Around?

As Caps do you keep them on the bench, or cut them off or when you say "let's be friends" do you really mean it? Because my ex seems confused.

I personally feel like I've been placed on the bench. He's still sweet, and treats me the same as always, I just see substantially less of him. He also keeps me separated from his friends, but family is OK. It's been five months, and he hasn't been dating and/or sleeping with anyone else. I will say though that his confidence around me has deteriorated a bit. He won't agree to anything unless I suggest it first. As a Scorp I know better than to stick around but I blame my Pisces Ascendant.

curse those strong pisces placements when trying to get through a break-up!!!!!!!!! they are like a kick in the gut!


i always try to remain friendly. but you wont see me going out of my way to maintain a friendship.

there is a bit of tapering off with the time spent together. i can't exactly go cold turkey. but at some point you just have to stop and move on.

My cap and I broke it off and he made a big deal out of wanting to remain friends. We talk a lot and honestly, we've became alot closer now that we aren't dating. We're able to have serious conversations now and he has opened up about deep feelings.

I asked him if this was just "I want to stay close friends" because he didn't want to hurt me, and he said no and explained that he genuinely does want to stay friends.

Anyone have any idea what this means to him? (Mind you we never had too serious of a relationship. He started dealing with alot of other emotional stuff that prevent him from being as emotionally available as he needed to be for our relationship to be as serious as we wanted it so we just stopped to prevent adding additional stress to his life.)

I think caps really do appreciate close relationships unless you've done them wrong.

If I tell a girl I want to stay friends I mean it. But I will start spending more time with other people and probably not tell you as much anymore.

Posted by CreepyPants
curse those strong pisces placements when trying to get through a break-up!!!!!!!!! they are like a kick in the gut!


i always try to remain friendly. but you wont see me going out of my way to maintain a friendship.

there is a bit of tapering off with the time spent together. i can't exactly go cold turkey. but at some point you just have to stop and move on.

Ugh, ikr. I feel as though I'm way more submissive for a Scorpio than I ought to be. He can totally blow me off for a week, and then come back and I'm just like "Okay." It's frustrating. But when he is around, he's awesome which makes me want to hold on the friendship.

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Posted by CreepyPants
curse those strong pisces placements when trying to get through a break-up!!!!!!!!! they are like a kick in the gut!


i always try to remain friendly. but you wont see me going out of my way to maintain a friendship.

there is a bit of tapering off with the time spent together. i can't exactly go cold turkey. but at some point you just have to stop and move on.

Ugh, ikr. I feel as though I'm way more submissive for a Scorpio than I ought to be. He can totally blow me off for a week, and then come back and I'm just like "Okay." It's frustrating. But when he is around, he's awesome which makes me want to hold on the friendship.

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Posted by Metoo
I think you need a little more time to decide what will come of it, but also some changes on your end.
See how he kinda goes off for a week or so and lives his life etc.
I think you should too.

I think you still might be holding onto hope that the time together will result in a rekindle, but I think you should start to move on, and get into making some new friends at work or joining some sort of group like art, running, book...just any change to your routine and something new will help shift the focus right now.

It sounds healthy between the two of you, but I think your still looking for his calls and contact maybe and this will keep you stuck. You need a little bit of a new start and changes to help you start to move on from him and I would play it as for the rest of your lives now its friendship only, that way your not on the sidelines, ready when he decides to come back...instead you are your own independent woman. I think he knows your hanging on, therefore he's got you in a good spot and feels safe to explore greener pastures and pop in when he wants.

Oh I rarely initiate contact (more so out of self-preservation), so when he disappears, I disappear too. I do have my own life and friends, I just get a bit annoyed that he's able to control when we're cool and when we're not. I feel things would be better "friend wise" if one of us were dating, but I'm not and he's not so it creates awkward tension sometimes when we do occasionally hangout.

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Posted by CreepyPants
curse those strong pisces placements when trying to get through a break-up!!!!!!!!! they are like a kick in the gut!


i always try to remain friendly. but you wont see me going out of my way to maintain a friendship.

there is a bit of tapering off with the time spent together. i can't exactly go cold turkey. but at some point you just have to stop and move on.

Ugh, ikr. I feel as though I'm way more submissive for a Scorpio than I ought to be. He can totally blow me off for a week, and then come back and I'm just like "Okay." It's frustrating. But when he is around, he's awesome which makes me want to hold on the friendship.

Trying for the (heart) emote here, but DXP just turns them into 3's...

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yea, i totally get it, and sometimes i wish i didn't. but *sigh* the way i see it... it makes us all the more loyal to our feelings.

when breaking up, one of the many sad things to come to terms with is that nothing will ever be the same again. 😢 sad in the moment. but on the plus side... being a scorpio and he being a cap, you both have the ability to make this change something beautiful yet. like one of the best friendships of your life possibly. it's up to you both. and yea, it will take time.

less time together is normal. the fact that you're still brought around his family is a very very sweet thing, imo. though, i know bringing dates around family can mean something entirely different to men than it does to women, or just from person to person.

remember to take care of you and put your feelings first right now.

i think it's pretty subjective actually.

there's a light and dark side to any placement. the light side being the piscean willingness to accept and love someone for all their flaws and strengths. the dark side being blinded by love and wearing rose colored glasses.

in our case we've defined our happiness in the expression of our feelings, whatever our reasoning... wearing of our hearts on our sleeves.

swimming away would indicate to me withdrawal because you can't handle the situation. and perhaps you've determined the situation ISNT for you. so good... take action.

i think in our case, it's a willingness to show our vulnerability.

I wouldnt be with you again. I would keep in on a friendly level and still keep you around. But when I think about the bs I went through in the relationship with you, I realize you are not the one. It could be sexual at times but I never go backwards