Caps Love Signs - HELP me PLEASE, I'm confused

Hi there,

I am a taurus female, and I have been in love with a Capricorn male for approximately 11 years. This entire time, we have been very close friends. I am currently going through a divorce to a guy who I married to try and escape my feelings for my cap man.

In January of last year, I told my love interest how I have felt about him all these years, to which he said he was very flattered. At this stage, I was still living with and married to my soon to be ex husband.

Since we met all those years ago, there have been many things that have stopped us from being together, but there has always been the constant flirting and showing me affection, and making me feel very important.

From speaking to my family and friends, they say my love interest is VERY interested in me, but I need to know from people on the outside how I can be absolutely sure about whether he does in fact have these feelings for me too, and if I should persue him or move on. As I have pointed out before, I have tried to move on, marrying another man to try and escape my feelings for him and move on, but this didn't work. We just have this connection. I don't know if this is going to make sense to anyone out there, but it makes sense to me.

What are the tell tale signs that the Cap man that I am in love with holds the same feelings for me, and what should I do about it?

I have seen a Capricorn male in pursue mode, there is NO stopping him, if he's not pursuing then he's not interested, Cap men KNOW what he wants, he will walk through hell with gasoline draws on to have you, if he's not doing anything to move forward with you then all you can do is wait to see if at some point he chooses to pick up and begin a relationship.

I don't mean to sound harsh but I have seen a Capricorn male have general affection for multiple women and I have seen the same Capricorn lose total control over a woman that he set his mind up to have as a mate.

maybe after the divorce is over he may pick up but for now he's not going to leave his safe secure sure life to be in your unsure world of divorce and unfinished business.

Chemistry is just that, chemistry, many of us mistake it for something deeper but deeper for him means chasing YOU and if he's not chasing you then he's not interested in having more.

i agree and disagree with you both. capricorns work slowly when it comes to love, so him not reacting isn't necessarily a sign that he does or doesn't like you. the family thing is a key factor, as he probably is very discreet with a CHOSEN FEW about how he feels about you. it will take some time to make things happen after you get rid of that husband of yours. as a cap, if someone told me they were in love with me, and i liked them, but they were about to be not married, i would need to think long and hard about the possibilities, passion or no passion. capricorns can at times embody passion, but more than often do they suppress it due to the fact that it distracts us from work. it's been 11 years, so you must have something beyond animal attraction, and i hope that once your divorce happens, he will begin to open up to you more. a capricorn running blindly into something is rare and usually ends badly. we do regret very, very well.

I am a taurus female, and I have been in love with a Capricorn male for approximately 11 years. This entire time, we have been very close friends. I am currently going through a divorce to a guy who I married to try and escape my feelings for my cap man.

No offence, in_love_with..., but first of all, this sounds like something unhealthy so maybe seek some professional help?

I'm currently seeing a really nice aqua (probably the nicest people in the zodiac) and I don't have a passionate type thing with him because he is not playing games or trying to run away. lol - i know you have the 'take it back' thread but just remembered your phone call vents 😉 Happy for you !

These passion type attractions are rarely successful spoken like a true Cappy

"Ok, while I "get" it. I am also confused. Virgo, btw. While you keep busy with your own life, all the things Tiki has wrote about.....keep your pants on ( I agree, high morals here)but when you do get together, then what? He's attained you, now what? I would assume the answer would be keep doing what you've always done."

Women BOND faster with men through sex, most of us automatically attach ourselves whether we want to or not, its not about morals atleast not for me, its about understanding that if I sleep with a man that I already have high physical attraction for I will want to couple and cocoon up quickly and this can destroy the potential of a budding relationship because I and some women will want way more than he's willing to give at any certain stage in the relationship. Once conquered he will begin to neglect and ignore and this is a NATURAL process because a man doesn't want to feel obligated to be in a relationship with anyone unless he's the one choosing and pursuing his mate. People can have sex in relationships, just make sure your mind is right.

"BUT what about being comfortable with someone and not playing hard to get anymore and being emotionally open and not so mysterious anymore."

If he TURNS to you and says he wants to go further, If he's not saying it directly well his actions say it, but I prefer to be told, I prefer verbal because it keeps a woman from guessing, wishing, hoping, misguiding her actions towards a man.

if he's the one moving the relationship forward that is when you can relax, that is when you can let your gaurd down a bit WHEN HE DECIDES YOUR THE ONE AND SAYS IT AND HIS ACTIONS MATCH UP TO IT but during the dating process you have to be very conscious of everything, see things as they truly are and not how you wish for them to be, if you let a man have all of YOU before he's made it clear what his intentions are then as most women do including self we hurt ourselves by not understanding the PROCESS of dating and how men build and keep attraction for a woman, you have to date SMART and understanding what that looks and feels like is the key to success. During the dating process, mystery and unfamiliarity works FOR YOU not against you, USE IT and embrace it.

"More and more I read and find that maybe a male Cap isn't worth getting involved with. If it's all about games and keeping mysterious; that gets old. And it is games when you can't just be you; loving and all. I don't like to be suffocated and need time to myself but I when I like him; I can be possessive and paranoid (since most Caps don't seem able to be with just one woman). Just my thoughts......negative but what the hell."

Cap men live by structure and rules, learn it, find out what keeps him structured, find out what rules he live by, thus you will understand his need to CONTROL himself and his environment, he's at his best when things are contained which makes him feel safe and secure. He's one of the most stable signs you can have, very much worth having as a partner.

If your possessive and paranoid a male Cap isn't for you, he will not appreciate your attributes AT ALL EVER, so either you take time to curb your desire to control in this way or not focus on a male Cap because he will not allow himself to be possessed UNLESS he's CHOSE you as his mate. Male Caps aren't typical whores, they are pretty honest, they also have more sexual control than most signs of the zodiac, I find when they want female company this doesn't always entail sex, it could be anything from no physical contact to just making out for a day or an entire weekend.

This is one sign you don't have to be on gaurd with but when he's dating thats what he's doing, he's dating and thus he doesn't care for emotional displays of love, displays of ownership from a woman, he will not care for any of it. He's not into GAMES either, he just know HIMSELF better than any other sign of the zodiac and a Cap man will already have a set structure of himself and the women he wants in his life.

If your displaying affection, need for more of him in some way he will not like it, he will stay away, he will feel suspicious of a woman displaying emotions towards him especially if he's done nothing to really warrant that kind of behavior

He will not ALLOW your emotions about him to determine if he should want more of you, he won't ALLOW your spending huge amounts of time with him to determine if he should give more and be your boyfriend again once you understand his nature you will just flow with it, keep your options open by dating other men and enjoy the time you do have and once he's gone...out of sight out of mind

"This is exactly what I'm talking about. I think with most they just get bored and move on. What makes them crazy about one woman is probably not being able to have her but I don't know for sure. That's been my experience. He wants me cause I haven't given him anything. So if I do; it's over....it's just stupid to me."

NO not over, if you are unsure of his intentions ASK HIM, he will be honest and tell you, if your concern is what you wrote then talk to him about it, he will be very candid about his intentions. If he's pursuing you heavily then he's really into you and this is how you gauge the relationship but if he's back and forth, in sometimes out other times then he's not completely smittened.

He wants you because your a great woman, Cap men don't waste time on women they aren't attracted to. Men (most people in general) want what they can't have, DON'T LET HIM HAVE YOU until he can tell you what he really wants out of the situation, if he doesn't see himself with you then you know to push him into the friendship box and go live your life by dating and allowing the man that really wants you to have you.

Well nothings going to happen between 2 emotionally gaurded scared human beings.

You know its ok to say how you feel but you can't attach results and expectations with it, you have to find a way to be open and say hey I like you but I notice certain behaviors that make me feel uncomfortable and unable to reach out to you, he will tell you the truth about his behavior and intentions. Does it mean that he will want a relationship with you, most likely not but at least you 2 don't have to dance around one another and you can LET HIM GO and stop fixating over him as if he's this pandora's box full of secrets, he's just a guy, a single guy feeling his way around the world of dating and women.

Telling a man how you feel doesn't mean your giving him your heart, doesn't mean your easy, doesn't mean he can hurt you, master the art of KEEPING your heart to YOURSELF and be verbally open with men and with the world, you only give your heart when he's earned it.

Oh and you may not trust females but Cap men are all about self control, if you trust him then thats enough, trust me, she can be the hottest chick on the block, if he feel like he could lose himself to another he will not share himself, he MUST control himself to keep his world together and that means saying NO even to the finest chick on the scene, if he gives himself to another and he senses her playing games he will dump her no matter how much he likes her, he will let her know that he needs structure, the back and forth games won't work.

As I have pointed out before, I have tried to move on, marrying another man to try and escape my feelings for him and move on, but this didn't work. We just have this connection. I don't know if this is going to make sense to anyone out there, but it makes sense to me.

Hmm, you sound like me with a Gem/Cancer cusp some time ago. It was really hard to escape him because of the attraction, it was incredible. However, I discovered that great attraction doesn't equal a great relationship. I'm not sure what this man is telling you, but make sure that he is "showing" you more then just "telling". People can say anything, what matters is the action.

lol!!!!!!! Stop what—?

"He has bought me flowers and candy but I don't know if he's sincere or not."

You lack understanding about Cap men, THEY DON'T GIVE YOU ANYTHING UNLESS THEY MEAN IT, does it mean he wants to run away off into the sunset, be your perfect man, be your boyfriend NO, it just means you hold qualities that he deems worthy of his time and attention. Again you can open up and tell him your thoughts, JUST DON'T FADE AWAY INTO SOME ROMANTICISIZED SCENERIO THAT THINGS WILL TURN INTO MORE.

He is very very slow, it may take him more time than you require to figure how, if and in what way your going to fit in his life, Cap men are thinkers and need structure so he's not going to just jump on the opportunity to have you in his life, he may already have lots of options open already so be clear about what your saying and asking, DON'T PLAY GAMES and don't be vague, just flat out say whats on your mind and he will respect that quality and give you a honest answer.

He may even decided to date you as a friend which means he may not make any kind of physical passes but more like have you around his world to see how you fit into his life or he may feel he already has too much on his plate and not go any further than a conversation

If your vague, he will be vague, so if you want more of a direct line of communication, be direct with him and if you can't, if its really too uncomfortable being direct, well as I said before this guy may not be the one you need to invest time with.

There has to be a level of comfort, he has to make you feel good when your with him and around him.

Well I am an Aqua moon and yes I relate to the need for space, this usually is something that will kick in for me when someone shows way too much interest in me to the point that I feel smothered.

If I like the person as intensely as they like me, well I am less aloof BUT they still have to play it cool in my book as I get turned off by too early or intense emotional displays or even if it is not obvious but you can see the person is too interested by body language.

I just dont like (and I dare say most Aqua moons are the same) over the top emotions too early on or too much information about how someone feels about me UNLESS i am ready to go there myself and I feel its justified based on having shared intimacy and time together that it doesnt come off as needy or clingy and potentially impinging on my need for emotional mental freedom. Phew!

I think what I have just said typifies the Aqua moon, at least the ones I know. I would just say - be wary of giving off signals of being too clingly, starry eyed or overly taken by the Aqua moon person, they wont like it.

Now heres the contradiction that may throw as spanner in the works, but this is to help you get the balance just right.

Dont get me wrong ..........We DO like people to show interest in us, but we prefer it on a MENTAL, INTELLECTUAL level, not a mushy overly emotional level. We like to feel like there is an element of mystery and excitement to a person that we are already attracted to, so keeping a sense of mystery about you whilst engaging the Aqua Moons fascination with information /conversation that is detached but interesting.

You are probably thinking, geez they dont ask for much....? I know, I know, we are very contradictory creatures. Hey i just realised you have A Taurus moon, my partner has a Taurus moon too

Tiki (my words) per my experience and knowledge all this is very very true...heed these words

oops sorry I mis-read, I didn't realize he was pisces moon, lemme hide all that stuff LMAO!!!

:I have seen a Capricorn male in pursue mode, there is NO stopping him, if he's not pursuing then he's not interested,:

this is exactly the opposite of what some girls have described with their guys and me with my caps. i wouldn't say i agree with this.

:He is very very slow, it may take him more time than you require to figure how, if and in what way your going to fit in his life, :

the mad pursuit statement also directly contradicts this statement.

:What are the tell tale signs that the Cap man that I am in love with holds the same feelings for me, and what should I do about it? :

You ask him and he tells you.

Bullisha Cap men are big contradictions, I am very good friends with a few very very handsome artistic wealthy Cap men and one imparticular will be the first to tell you he's never one way or the other, it all depends on his point of view, so he may say no to something as small as cuddling but if he finds that RIGHT woman, his dream woman he will do what it takes even cuddle.

I have personally seen a Capricorn in full fledge pursuit mode, he really wanted to be with this woman, made it very clear that she was the one, acted a dayum fool over her and this is the same guy that always keeps his cool no matter what, if he kinda likes you then he's not going to go all out but when a Cap man feels he's met his idea woman then he will chase her like no other, if I hadn't seen it then I wouldn't have believed it myself.

: Bullisha Cap men are big contradictions :

this makes perfect sense.

my coworker has been chased by a cap who ultimately told her she was moving too slow & then dumped her. which i think is bs.

but that's what's happened when i've been chased by any guy. so i dunno. i'm almost in favor of not being pursued in that case...

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What are the tell tale signs that the Cap man that I am in love with holds the same feelings for me, and what should I do about it?

skip the signs and ask him out already. taurus and caps go together like white on rice.