SOS - Lib man tau woman

Shattered, I gave you my thoughts on the Taurus board.

I don't fancy libra/taurus combination much since I think we are rather incompatible couple so as a result I only very rarely date Taurus girls. But I do remember dating one Taurus girl for some short time.

I seduced her very quickly and we ve been happy for couple of weeks but then we started to have some problems. I think the biggest issue between us was that I had never really understood her in terms of what she wants from me. She always wanted me to be easily understandable and therefore predictable, but that was impossible by nature. And she never got used to my easily changing mind. I think what she really wanted might have been somebody consistent, stable and simple, but thats not Libra. Also, my female friends were a real pain for her. Therefore, I see a future for libra/taurus in only some exceptional cases.

I might be wrong but when I read all you posts I (as a libra too) got an impression that your biggest concern (or most desirable solution) is just how to get out of this with clean shield. In other words how to let her go without feeling guilty. If this is true I might have some tips for you.

Ummmmm....... based on your side of this, you need to get he hell away from her. Like, now. If I were your friend I would be building up your confidence to coldly and bluntly tell her right out of your life. Take the house, take the car, let the men that can love her better than you give her all of those things. Don't just dump her, cash out on her. This was a "bad investment" both figuritively and literally.

Let it go man. This taurus is not for you. However I happen to know of a Libra guy/Taurus girl combo who seems to be doing great!!!

taurus and libra wont last for long. Its a sensual combo but Libra man cannot be the one taurus girl needs in her life. We have so many female friends, we take too much time to make decisions, no thoughts are stable for a libra... naah.. taurus cannot appreciate all these in a libra. They only tolerate it. MOVE ON.

And you gonna spend at least a year or two nursing ur wounds. Better sign into some singles site and start hitting on gals before u gets way too emotional about it. It will be better for her if you can look all good and happy. Else you might end up making her feel guilty and tats probably not the best thing to do if you really care about her.

how shallow...

Thelibran, I must say you really should open your mind a little. How is going with the Scorp. LOL!!! EVERYONE AND EVERY Relationship IS NOT the same....

QS, we're coming to Chicago. I'll email you with the date and other info.

Shattered

This isn't the girl for you. You don't see it right now but in a couple of years you will be wowed that you put up with this. From what I can tell, she is just using you.

You deserve to be with someone who loves and accepts you. This girl is killing your ego so you will accept scraps. Do you really want this type of control freak in your life?

you think you do, but trust me .... you don't.

also find if you don't marry a woman within a certain time period, usually 2 years max, we get REALLY resentful. We may not know why ... but the fact that the guy won't comit to marriage is at the root.

My advice? Let this go and grieve it.

"Thelibran, I must say you really should open your mind a little. How is going with the Scorp. LOL!!! EVERYONE AND EVERY Relationship IS NOT the same...."

Wait and watch... If you find a few same patterns btween 2 zodiacs, it means its gonna be the same unless libra is adjusting way too much. I dont have to open up a little bit and try to make it sound positive and say "it can be worked out" in cases where it cannot be worked out. I will be giving wrong hope. Truth is always simple to say, hard to understand. Even if it works out, it will go back to same situations.

Scorp is acting big drama with me. I might not even go meet her if she keeps being childish. She is way immature. just 21. My ex scorp was 13 yrs older to me and I found her also immature. Just a lot of silly theories, too much crying, too much power struggle. If I want to go meet someone, her tone changes, she put it like she is granting me some privilege to meet my friends whom I know for years. new one is just the same. Way suspicious. If it was before I got to know a gemini or aqua or aries girl, I would hv sure enjoyed this ride and adjusted my character to fit her nature. But not anymore. Now I am very clear of what I need from a relationship to remain as what I am. I cannot afford to be someone else for the sake of building a relationship.

***Way suspicious.***

Now that my dear, can truly be a Libra male. They act uninterested, but time and time again, I find they can pry, trying to find out "with whom" you went out with or met for dinner, drinks... Even when you aren't in a relationship at all. I laugh because as they try to be aloof, they also question "who you are with" rather than your where abouts.

Sounds like you got an immature scorp on your hands thelibran. However, keep in mind maturity doesn't always only come with age, but the maturity of the mind. Again, you cannot categorize All mates by their zodiac sign alone.

***also find if you don't marry a woman within a certain time period, usually 2 years max, we get REALLY resentful. We may not know why ... but the fact that the guy won't comit to marriage is at the root.***

The funny thing about this LS, all three times I was proposed to. I was the one who wanted to wait. It is so weird that my friends thought I was the crazy one. The script had always been flipped with me. I was the one sayine, "we aren't ready" or "we need more time" or "lets just see what happens". It took a libra to wed me. I did tell him we weren't ready the first time he asked me to marry him. Thank God it wasn't in public...

"Again, you cannot categorize All mates by their zodiac sign alone."

Thats what you wish to think. To me its as simple as a natural law that it has to be seen through the zodiacs first and then rest only rest of the planets or cultural or social background matters.

Yea we are suspicious of people who are secretive and try to hide too many things. We are not suspicious with people who talk openly. I have never gotten suspicious with another libra girl.

Uhhh, thelibran, I am a scorp, but a very blunt one per my posts... Hello.... I am talking about Libras who are not even in a relationship. I don't hide anything as I am honest about my intentions no matter what the circumstances. So, I was merely speaking a libra in a relationship or fwb asking where you going, the next question is always who were you with. I neve lie, but if it was a male (platonic) friend there is mostly something to follow that to the affect of "with who" like how dare you. I don't take it personal just elaborate on who and let them know it is a friend they might act like it is okay for then, but it always comes back up.

By the way, about the zodiac thing, now what do you say about Libras and aquas, gemini or aries women who don't work out at all?

Scorpios honesty comes in installments. Libra or gemini needs an answer the moment question is asked. The more time people take to answer the question, the more guesses we have already made.

When zodiac becomes textbook knowledge, gem and aqua will work smoothly. Now there is a constant clash btween social theories and personal feelings. People still think love means hearts business and extra heartbeats. That was a religious definition.

QS

My comment wasn't in relation to you. It was just a general comment about women across the board. I find my friends get restless and resentful when men haven't made a major commitment by year 2. Sometimes they don't know exactly why. They just know they are unhappy and start picking.

It was more a comment to Shattered that by holding off with a serious commitment for seven years that she has moved on in her heart.

"Now that my dear, can truly be a Libra male. They act uninterested, but time and time again, I find they can pry, trying to find out "with whom" you went out with or met for dinner, drinks... Even when you aren't in a relationship at all. I laugh because as they try to be aloof, they also question "who you are with" rather than your where abouts"

Yeah I must admit, I always found that very confusing - like he cared!!

LOL notso!

"Put down the astrology book, man. Now slowly back away from it. It's for your own good, dude. "

lol... I dont have any astrology book notso. And this is an astrology forum. And we are here to discuss astrology. And inside a libra forum, I guess we have the freedom to discuss truth, however bitter or confusing it may be.

Just bcoz you have a difference of opinion that doesnt mean its not the truth. Try to deduct further and see where you land finally. Experiment as much as you want. You will reach where I stand a few years time. Goodluck.

***My comment wasn't in relation to you. It was just a general comment about women across the board. I find my friends get restless and resentful when men haven't made a major commitment by year 2. Sometimes they don't know exactly why. They just know they are unhappy and start picking.***

Oh, LS, I know it wasnt toward me per se. However, I have friends who feel the same and I just realized how different I had been about it all and just commented to your comment. Sort of thinking out loud so to speak.

***Scorpios honesty comes in installments.***
thelibran, in your experience, this may be true. I am merely speaking about myself. I NEVER expose honesty in installments, everyone who knows me knows I will just come straight out and say what I feel. I am honest to a fault. Where it isn't so kind in some situations. I can also accept honesty.

In my opinion, the scorps I know and gems as well are more straight forward and outfront with most things than libras, because of their feeling of not hurting anyone and being unsure of what the outcome might be. IMO.

***Yeah I must admit, I always found that very confusing - like he cared!✨**

That is just it Chatz, they do care, just not the way one might want them too. If they don't care, they don't bother.

Notso, forget it. Astrology is law in relationships to thelibran, a person's individual personality doesn't count in his opinion...Librans can ONLY be compatible with gems, aquas, libras and aries... Although time and time again I have known librans to break up and have very short relationsips/flings with atleast 3 of these signs.

***It is neither. Like most things, it is an opinion. Your truth is different from my truth, and vice versa. In any case, I should respect your freedom to discuss. Carry on.***

I agree with Notso on this one. thelibran, maybe you should use more "In my opinion or in my experience." Your belief isn't law. It is just what you believe.

Coolio QS.

🙂

It always used to be my opinion or observations... A while ago i underlined it and took it as natural law since I couldn't find a single case history against my theory. 😉

***It always used to be my opinion or observations... A while ago i underlined it and took it as natural law since I couldn't find a single case history against my theory. ***

And do you know of ALL CASES that exist? I think not... So, again, still your opinion, truth, theory or whatever you want to call it. If I went by my own experiences. I would agree that, Gem and Libra can work for a long while, but with the couples I know, both broke up and would never go back or date another, same with Aqua, oh and the one Libra/aries, lasted about two months, he finally told her he couldn't be with her, she wasn't right for him.

On the other hand: Scorp/Libra and Sag/libra couple. In deep love and very happy and have been for many, many years....

Basic compatibility needs to exist regardless of sign alignments.

Very true LS. Very true. It can be surprising the combos that get along in a relationship or not, if we sole relied on zodiac signs alone.

**Basic compatibility needs to exist regardless of sign alignments.***

What creates that basic compatibility? looks, smiles, socio-economic conditions?? 🙂

If i was in any position of advantage bcoz of my theory, it would have been my opinion or a subconscious way of defending myself. Fortunately or unfortunately I am not.

And QS, sampling is always accepted when it comes to truth vs opinion.

"Just a lot of silly theories, too much crying, too much power struggle. If I want to go meet someone, her tone changes, she put it like she is granting me some privilege to meet my friends whom I know for years. new one is just the same. Way suspicious"
- Sounds way too familiar w/ my Scorpio male experiences and I am an Aries female. Way too emotional for my taste, everything I said/did/thought was interpreted to have some hidden meaning! He actually referred to my commute home from work/errands run/occasional happy hrs w/ coworkers/gym time as my "MYSTERY HOUR". God forbid I have a life outside of him. No offense QS, just my personal experiences, may be a Scorp male thing. Just curious, you seem to be very intuned to Libra guys, ever dated a fellow Scorpian? Not sure of the compatability factor, just wondering. Plus he took everything sooo seriously, like life or death, didn't realize to the extent of it until I started dating my current Libra who I can actually joke with & doesnt get offended.

Firegirl... No, no, no, I myself can't really be around a Scorp male for long... The get under my skin... Way too sarcastic, controling and possessive. Maybe it is all the fire and air in my chart. I dunno.

Yes I have had my share of experience with Libra men. Most of my relationships/involvements have been with them. For some crazy reason they pick me out of a crowd. I swear since my ex hubby (who is also a Libra) parted ways, I have met 4, and been involved with 2 of them. Very weird indeed.

***For some crazy reason they pick me out of a crowd.***

Initial attraction is strong. ask any saggi girl about how many scorpion men she bump into on a regular basis. But she pick only one time. She learn from that. Goes with libra girls picking Virgo men. I dont think they dare to pick them more than once. QS, with all respects, you are probably making a mistake by allowing yourself to be picked by a libra men since none worked. We get easily fed up of any women who keep talking about her past relationships to others.

If you have been in a group with a cancer girl and a gemini guys, its quite a hilarious to watch the cancer girl chasing the gemini man. They just cannot resist. Gemini will try to escape and cancer never gets it. They still keep chasing without ever realizing it. mainly bcoz all the hints and signals gemini produces are read wrongly. Its almost the same way a scorpio chase a libra down. Bcoz libra being polite and dont really want to resist temptation, he surrenders...

a Libra surrendering— *giggles*

Stick em up!!!! 😛

heehee chatz

***QS, with all respects, you are probably making a mistake by allowing yourself to be picked by a libra men since none worked. ***

You could be right or wrong... However, none of my relationships with pisces, cancer, virgo or taurus have worked either. Basic compatibility needs to exist.

***Its almost the same way a scorpio chase a libra down. Bcoz libra being polite and dont really want to resist temptation, he surrenders...***

The only difference in my case it is the other way around... LOL!!! I have even tried avoiding them completely, especially after my break up with my ex-husband. However, I have made a decision not to judge a person by their zodiac sign alone, if everyone did this, think of how people would be judged and and charactorized incorrectly?

So, again, it is different with different people... If your theory was true then why am I not still with the Pisces or Cancer forever or you with any past gems, aquas,or libras? Not just the zodiac sign.

***We get easily fed up of any women who keep talking about her past relationships to others.***

By the way, besides on this board, this is unlikely for me. Unless asked.

***If your theory was true then why am I not still with the Pisces or Cancer forever or you with any past gems, aquas,or libras? Not just the zodiac sign.***

Thats what makes my theory right. That idea of love has been misinterpreted by religion and primitive society as "one that gives u extra heartbeats and feelings" and this same misinterpretation rules the society. You wont feel a thing when you are with a potential partner. Bcoz you remain as you yourself. No psychological or physical changes can be observed in you. Bcoz the other person can understand you as what you are.

***Thats what makes my theory right. That idea of love has been misinterpreted by religion and primitive society as "one that gives u extra heartbeats and feelings" and this same misinterpretation rules the society. You wont feel a thing when you are with a potential partner. Bcoz you remain as you yourself. No psychological or physical changes can be observed in you. Bcoz the other person can understand you as what you are.***

This doesn't explain why neither or any of us are with our supposedly correct partner according to zodiac compatibility. I am just really trying to understand your theory. It is a little contradicting. Scorps are supposed to be compatible with Cancer, Pisces mostly right, and according to you Libras are supposed to be most compatible with gems, aquas, libras right? You stated, that the reason why I am not with any of the librans in my past anymore is because they are not compatible with me. Then why am I not with the cancer or the pisces or you with former compatible signs you were involved with, if it it souly about zodiac compatibility?

**You wont feel a thing when you are with a potential partner. Bcoz you remain as you yourself. No psychological or physical changes can be observed in you. Bcoz the other person can understand you as what you are. ***

This I can partly agree with. I agree that the other person should not only understand you for who you are but accept you for who you are. I will never change my core being for the sake of anothers liking. I don't expect them to do that for me either. If we are compatible then we are, if not we aren't. Simple. I don't agree that being "in love" with a person doesn't bring upon some kind of emotional, joyous and inspiring feeling. This isn't true, otherwise we would be "in love" with everyone we care about...

How does this relate to zodiac sign alone? Tell me thelibran, do you not have any feelings outside of the ordinary when you are in love? If not, how do you know you are in love? Just curious, not to be argumentive. I am actually finding this theory interesting and would like to know the root from which it comes.

Yes it is contradictory. Bcoz of various theories about life and love from society.

1. Unless both people have a sufficient knowledge of whats best for them than their idea of what they think they want from a partner, it wont work with cancer or pisces. Scorp and cancer meets. Both of them dont realize something is there in btween them in the first place... so most times they find a friend.

2. They both understand each other in a very dangerous level so that lying, hiding, playing and all will be caught easily. You will consider them like any other person and try to protect ur insecurities but the other person can read u more than u imagine. So things go wrong.

3/Then both will be looking for something from each other with a reference from society which is already fckdup. So if ur idea about love is what tv and other media has portrayed over years, you will find yourself in a situation where you are not getting that love. Which leads to more and more trouble.

"Sos"

Sos, please someone help me. It's not heahthly for me to feel this way. You got me tossing & turning, can't sleep at night.

God, I hate that song

***Unless both people have a sufficient knowledge of whats best for them than their idea of what they think they want from a partner***

Yes, true, but that can be with any sign compatibility. What about if the "so called" compatible signs just don't get eachother and do have the knowledge that the other is not best for them, then the have the knowledge, that the "so called" uncpmpatible sign is (they both do) and that it is no against what society would have them beleive but what astrology would have them believe. Just as what society claim to be law isn't always so, astrology is not 100 proof either.

It has to do with the individuals and their compatibility with another period.

I guess you will keep trying to solve it and will never find any answer in that case. If individuals were so wise enough to choose, then there wouldn't have been any breakups or divorces. Its that simple. If societies ways were also perfect, things would have been far better in this world. They all try to form various theories to match their choice of priorities and end up getting whacked. And whenever they find someone by chance who fits their needs, they say made for each other, chemistry, match made in heaven and such nonsense.

And by the way I guess I made a major mistake when I said Libra man- Saggi girl is more of a platonic relationship. Its not. Its a good combo and will have similar intensity like Leo man - Libra girl. same goes for Pisces girl - Libra man if am not wrong. Pisces can work better than a scorp or cancer on the long run.

I can agree with you on the society aspects of it all. IMO ANY sign combo can work if they understand who the other person is and who they are themselves and accepts the other for who they are, not what they want or expect them to be. To truly accept a person for whom they are - you must be willing to accept all of them and it seems society forgets to include this important detail in compatibility. On the other hand, you must know what you don't want in a relationship and NOT accept those aspects on any level.

BTW I realized I screwed up that last post royally. I was delirious.

To accept another person as who they are, you must be able to understand them as who they are in the first place. Which dont happen. You think you understand them but you truly never understand the person if they belong to other zodiac. Understanding is easy for an air sign and gets way hard for an earth sign. A libra saying F off and a cappy saying F off has way way different meanings and reasons. So if a libra say something to a cancer or a cappy its decoded in their own format and misunderstood already. Its as simple as that.

thelibran, not in everycase is everything exactly the same for everyone. To understand someone is to understand who they are and how they are and accept that. With any sign. I do agree that different people and signs process things differently, however there is always an attempt to get to a median or agree to disagree and move on.

How can u understand the critical nature of virgos? Can you explain it to me if you know why they are so bloody critical about everything in a negative way which doesnt make any positive results and often piss off people around them?

When you say understand someone, its important that from which perspective people try to understand each other. Religious people do that in religious ways. If they find a person way pessimistic in his thoughts, they think this person need to have more belief in God. Is that what you consider as understanding a person as what they are? If I guess something about someone, its pure assumption and possibly wrong. If he is in a position to explain the details of his own character(which most people cannot), then on what grounds will he be reasoning his own actions and thoughts so that the other person can understand?