caps only please* long distance relationship

I met this guy online. Hes a cap in sweden, im an aries in america. Is there any caps that would open up and fall in love like this? Just cirious. I been talking to this awesome guy and he has came to mean so much to me. There is a magnetic attraction between us. We are in contact daily and he has told me alot, which i take for truth, i see no reason why i wouldnt. We will meet sometime, we both agreee. He tells me hope less feel more.. how do i take that. He says he really sensitive and doesnt want either of us to be hurt. And he doeant want to be a shitty memory or some loser from my past. To stay friends and always be in life with each other. I think that when we do meet, we will both fall in love completely, honestly, i do. And i also know, we will have to part and it would be devistating. I am not affraid, because, i would do what ever i had to to be by his side. But, as he is cap, would he share my passion, or would he be to realistic thinking to let us make the moves to be together. Jes not a loser.. btw, he has 2 master degrees. Ummm. Hes muslim and im christian, if that makes a difference.

I met this guy online. Hes a cap in sweden, im an aries in america. Is there any caps that would open up and fall in love like this? Just cirious. I been talking to this awesome guy and he has came to mean so much to me. There is a magnetic attraction between us. We are in contact daily and he has told me alot, which i take for truth, i see no reason why i wouldnt. We will meet sometime, we both agreee. He tells me hope less feel more.. how do i take that. He says he really sensitive and doesnt want either of us to be hurt. And he doeant want to be a shitty memory or some loser from my past. To stay friends and always be in life with each other. I think that when we do meet, we will both fall in love completely, honestly, i do. And i also know, we will have to part and it would be devistating. I am not affraid, because, i would do what ever i had to to be by his side. But, as he is cap, would he share my passion, or would he be to realistic thinking to let us make the moves to be together. Jes not a loser.. btw, he has 2 master degrees. Ummm. Hes muslim and im christian, if that makes a difference.

I hope so.....n thats the best way🙂

he has said he had a bad break-up before and he is really scared of being heartbroke again. I think i just need to let him have time and not rush anything.

Honestly, I think you're living in fantasy land.

There is NO WAY you can say there is a magnetic attraction when you haven't even met him yet. You can not judge romantic chemistry by electronic means only.

Long distance relationships rarely last. Enjoy it while you can, but don't stop checking out people that are local to you.

My opinion is based on the fact that LDRs are just not realistic. I like my man to be around physically. Plus, eventually, if the relationship ever progresses, to be together, one of you will have to move to be closer to the other and that's a lot to ask of someone. Plus, it's a huge risk and once you get to know him in person, like really well to the point when all the facade goes away, are you even going to be compatible? It takes time to know someone. I need to know how they act in different scenarios, what their habits are, how they respond to life's challenges, etc. and you can only get that by spending a lot of time with someone. Anyone can fool you and put on an act for a short while, but it takes time in each other's company to really get to know someone. Besides, the religion aspect and cultural aspects are just way to different.

Plus, my scorpio rising is leery of people who encourage someone to enter into a romantic relationship on line. Nothing wrong with on-line friendship, but on-line only romantic relationships. No. You have no way to determine he is all he says he is or to judge whether he is truthful with you or not. He may be looking for a visa into the US. He may be married with 5 kids. He may be a con artist. He may be a serial killer.

Just my opinion.

Your questions/concerns are valid. The fact that you are Christian and he Muslim could play a key role in your relationship in the long-term especially if either of you are particularly devout. The topic will eventually need to be discussed in further detail in a calm fashion with mutual respect.

The more pressing problem though seems to be the distance that separates you. From my experience, Cap men are very bound to the here and now, and can not live in the fantasy world for long. If you really think that there exists a possibility of future between you then you must make every effort for the two of you to meet, in this way turning the virtual into reality.

If he says that he doesn't want either of you to be hurt, he more than likely means it. Nevertheless, keep in mind the fact that a Cap man would hurt you before he'd even hurt himself. This is just the way it is.

Posted by truecap
Honestly, I think you're living in fantasy land.

There is NO WAY you can say there is a magnetic attraction when you haven't even met him yet. You can not judge romantic chemistry by electronic means only.

Long distance relationships rarely last. Enjoy it while you can, but don't stop checking out people that are local to you.

My opinion is based on the fact that LDRs are just not realistic. I like my man to be around physically. Plus, eventually, if the relationship ever progresses, to be together, one of you will have to move to be closer to the other and that's a lot to ask of someone. Plus, it's a huge risk and once you get to know him in person, like really well to the point when all the facade goes away, are you even going to be compatible? It takes time to know someone. I need to know how they act in different scenarios, what their habits are, how they respond to life's challenges, etc. and you can only get that by spending a lot of time with someone. Anyone can fool you and put on an act for a short while, but it takes time in each other's company to really get to know someone. Besides, the religion aspect and cultural aspects are just way to different.

Plus, my scorpio rising is leery of people who encourage someone to enter into a romantic relationship on line. Nothing wrong with on-line friendship, but on-line only romantic relationships. No. You have no way to determine he is all he says he is or to judge whether he is truthful with you or not. He may be looking for a visa into the US. He may be married with 5 kids. He may be a con artist. He may be a serial killer.

Just my opinion.

+1

Been in one but never again. Simply not practical.

Mine moved to where I was but he has a ton of Sag placements. He has lived everywhere.

We got married after 6 months..currently getting a divorce after 3 years of rarely seeing each other..still really good friends.

He was Muslim. I am not. It was hell on Earth for months at a time.

Fire and Earth....I second the never again.

I don't want to hurt your feelings but I personally feel there was some green card/visa foolery a foot. He denies it and I would certainly expect yours to do the same if you asked him. So if you decide to do it..make sure you get something out of it. That's the mistake I made. My feelings were real.

I totally understand. I have never been in any kind of online thing before, so I am leary. He has ben to the town I am in and might be coming back for a research project at the university in my town. He will find out soon. I think he seen the town I live in and we started talking about the area, so theres a big chance he will be here soon. for 2 years. I know I need to keep my wits about me in this situation. At the end of the day, I feel like I met a good friend that I will always have. I don't see that I am in a relationship, becasue, true, I think you have to physically need to be in each others presence. He isnt trying to get me to send him revieling pix or anything. I can't believe how many people want to get pix like that ... hikes.. ain't happeneing from this girl,,lol

today we talked, we didnt get much of a chance yesterday. He was kinda down. Partly because he missed me and then goes on to say that he doesnt want to be missing me, to feel like he needs to rely on anyone. geez! i told him I felt the same, but its ok, that we miss each other.just not to be sad, we are friends.

Posted by Nala13

I don't want to hurt your feelings but I personally feel there was some green card/visa foolery a foot. He denies it and I would certainly expect yours to do the same if you asked him. So if you decide to do it..make sure you get something out of it. That's the mistake I made. My feelings were real.

A Swedish person doesn't need an American Green Card, it's not some kind of backwater country. In many ways it's actually more developed than the U.S. and that's also the reason why he has 2 MA's. The government pays for it so it doesn't mean he is some hyper-intelligent guy. Most of the people from Sweden I know have at least one Master's degree.

There are however relatively few Muslim people there so it's probably harder to find a girl he likes.
Maybe ask him why he can't find anyone there? It is supposedly filled with plenty of beautiful willing girls. (Swedish girls are generally really pretty but not my cup of tea either. They all look the same to me. One I knew that was drop dead gorgeous was a Swedish/Croatian mix.)

See him as a friend and don't expect anything more from it. Because as most of the people here have said, long distance relationships don't last, unless you already know you will see each other in a couple of months and met before in person.

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Scorpy, what did you say? 😉

yeah.. he had a bad day the other day, missing me.. to much, which isnt goo to become dependent on someone so far a way. now he backing off, i suppose the reality of it is making its presence. I understand the whole thing. But at least he is my friend. I cant see any reason why we wont be forever friends. but is that a cappy trait? Start having feelings and then back off?

i really missed him yesterday, and talked to him just briefly today. distance sux

Posted by raerae2one8
but is that a cappy trait? Start having feelings and then back off?

Quite!

Tiger Cap made some good points to be considered.

Contrary to what others have said here, I had a LDR that ended up being a long-lasting, fulfilling and loving relationship.

It took time, patience, and finding a way to be together in the same place at the same time, but it did work and I never regretted it for a minute.

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Tiger Cap made some good points to be considered.

Contrary to what others have said here, I had a LDR that ended up being a long-lasting, fulfilling and loving relationship.

It took time, patience, and finding a way to be together in the same place at the same time, but it did work and I never regretted it for a minute.

Are you still together?

awhhh.. sweet, glad for you. even if things are not meant to be in a relationship, i think that i have made a good, sweet, sincere friend, and really when I needed it the most. I am not to worried for the future, because I do believe that is meant to be will be, just to have an open heart, it will happen naturally when it is suppose to, but my aries impatiences tends to get in the way

Posted by truecap

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Tiger Cap made some good points to be considered.

Contrary to what others have said here, I had a LDR that ended up being a long-lasting, fulfilling and loving relationship.

It took time, patience, and finding a way to be together in the same place at the same time, but it did work and I never regretted it for a minute.

Are you still together?

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Such a Capricorn question... assuming in the back of your mind that it all went to the wind.

In fact, such is not the case, the answer is YES we are still together.

"The distance is also measured by the love"?

/* Do you know that business jets could pass the distance? 🙂 */

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Posted by truecap

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Tiger Cap made some good points to be considered.

Contrary to what others have said here, I had a LDR that ended up being a long-lasting, fulfilling and loving relationship.

It took time, patience, and finding a way to be together in the same place at the same time, but it did work and I never regretted it for a minute.

Are you still together?

Such a Capricorn question... assuming in the back of your mind that it all went to the wind.

In fact, such is not the case, the answer is YES we are still together.

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I had no assumption. I was just curious since you created a few "no contact" threads. I'm glad it's worked out for you. It takes special people to be in a long distance relationship. Kuddos!!

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
I feel i have a more idealized view of love rather than practical. i still believe in story book romances, burning passion and desire and i believe love can happen anytime anywhere including long distance and sometimes it makes no sense but it feels so good 🙂

Such the romantic...I find it hard to believe you are a Capricorn! lol!!!
You must have a lot of water placements in your chart.

🙂

I feel i have a more idealized view of love rather than practical. i still believe in story book romances, burning passion and desire and i believe love can happen anytime anywhere including long distance and sometimes it makes no sense but it feels so good


maybe aries and cappies are more alike... i feel the same

Posted by raerae2one8

I feel i have a more idealized view of love rather than practical. i still believe in story book romances, burning passion and desire and i believe love can happen anytime anywhere including long distance and sometimes it makes no sense but it feels so good


maybe aries and cappies are more alike... i feel the same

In general, most of us are more practical about love rather than idealistic about it. She is an exception to the norm. .

xxoommmxxoo has a strong Cancer moon and perhaps other Cancer placements?

how about cap-sun, leo-moon man? do they think long distance relationship works? Unfortunately I am stuck in ones now~ needs insight!

mine is cap sun aries moon,

hes crazy fun, but i know he has a very serious side with his work and i can totally feel his moods. I think they can work, but you need to be upfront about what each others want out of the relationship and if at some point things became serious would either one of ou be willing to relocate for the relationship and you have to plan spending time together and make it a priority.

With a situation like this you can't really hope or assume anything. I'm glad you went with the flow. I wouldn't trust everyone else, you could totally fall in love and vice versa. I did this with my Virgo ex, we met online years ago. Finally, we reconnected met up and moved in together. Utter bliss ^.^ the only reason to be cautious is that Capricorn men are realist and financially, they are cheap. So they psyche themselves out of a lot of situations. A guy I dated is a cap, he moved back to the east coast and wants me to come live with him or to at least visit but he isn't consistent. In order to fall in love with that much distance, dedication needs to come from both sides, then you guys can make anything happen if you really want to! Glad to hear you're still together ^.^ cap men are amazing

Posted by cheekyfaerie
I met my ex on an online message board. We knew each other for years and it turned into more. I went there first. Six mths later, he came to see me and so on. A little over 2yrs after physically meeting, we were married and we stayed that way for 7yrs until our separation.

While i don't think i'd ever consider another relationship with such distance (US/UK), i've also never had such an amazing courtship. People don't do that any more and we had no choice but to. I loved him before i met him. We'd shared our lives with one another for years already, how could i not?

Maybe deep down i'm naive or a hopeless romantic, but i'm also a jaded realist. The thing is, when it feels right, i go for it. Best of luck to you.

thanks for the nice words, sometimes everyone is so negative. Its nice hearing good storys, I know its hard, but doesnt mean it cant be worth it, either it works or its a lesson, at least at this point, i have a friend that cares

I MET A WOMAN ON LINE I WAS VERY MUCH INTO
BUT IN THE END I KNEW IT WOULD NEVER COME TO A
POINT WHERE WE WOULD EVER BE TOGETHER SO I BROKE IT OFF
I REGRET IT AND I ENDED IT BADLY. BUT THERE ARE SOMETHINGS THAT AREN,T MENT TO BE.

WE are still talking daily, he is sooo sweet to me. we make each other smile! hes funny. I know he likes to set the pace for this "thing". Thats ok. I know I shouldnt rush anything. Last night we were talking and he tells me how happy he is that he is the only one in my heart and that hes lucky and then says he cares about me. BUT, lol..
he talks about us seeing each other alot, where we would go, what we would do, etc. but then there is the occassional if. like when, if we meet. He say he"ll by me a ticket, but he can't talk of making a commitment to ssee each other, or when. Its very confusing. I know that he does care, and I know that he does want to see me. I wonder why, always a positive and a negative. any advice, idea

You can always keep this relationship and see where it goes, but don't ignore the men who right there in your area. What I'm trying to say is don't overlook an opportunity to be with a great guy who is in your proximity while you're entertaining this long distance thing. I think you both owe it to yourselves to find happiness with someone you can actually be with.

See, a lot of people get hung up on these on-line relationships and drag it out over years and never get around to actually being together. A lot of time goes by and you could haved missed Mr/Miss Right who's right in front of your face.

I'm not against it completely, because it can work out. Just because it's not for me, doesn't mean it's not for someone else. Obviously, several people on here say they had success with a long distance relationship.

Just weigh all the pros and cons and see what fits your life style .