Last night I noticed a friend of mine I have not seen since she graduated more than a year ago, and I was blown away by how much different she was. A year ago, she was an intellectual giant of a senior possessing a talent for sculpting words I still hope to some day come close to. I must've read her 500 word essay on herself at least that many times, but she wasn't even very attractive to me. She also just plain seemed huge- maybe because I never saw her from anything closer than a yard or so, I was the aloof but (maybe) mature boy of the theatre troupe. Last night, though, I talked to her and I could not take my eyes off her; I must not have blinked for ten straight minutes. Everything she said, too, was so interesting sounding. Then she said goodbye, and she seemed sad. She left for Utah again today- that's where she goes to college and that's where her family grew up surrounded by the Mormon life style . The point of this post is just to marvel at how it is someone can so completely change in one's perspective in so little time. It's just so weird, and I'm a little sad I'll most likely never talk to her again. I'm a little disappointed too that I still can't talk to an outstanding member of the opposite sex, or even a lot of members of my own, without still feeling immature, stupid, or generally morally and intellectually lesser. I will say this, though: I won't forgot that curly red hair for a long time.
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Josh,
Let go of this. It wasn't meant to be. You are a shy type huh? Well so am I. I have a hard time linking up with men even though I am told I am very beautiful. I am very picky. Maybe this is your problem. Caps never seem to think anyone is thier ideal match. I try to accept imperfections in a man but can't. They just look stupid to me.I feel sometimes I am destined to be alone but then I need closeness, let my heart rule my head for a bit, fall, crash, burn and then run like crazy. Too independent to be held down. Hope this helps.
Deb
Let go of this. It wasn't meant to be. You are a shy type huh? Well so am I. I have a hard time linking up with men even though I am told I am very beautiful. I am very picky. Maybe this is your problem. Caps never seem to think anyone is thier ideal match. I try to accept imperfections in a man but can't. They just look stupid to me.I feel sometimes I am destined to be alone but then I need closeness, let my heart rule my head for a bit, fall, crash, burn and then run like crazy. Too independent to be held down. Hope this helps.
Deb
One question- how can you tell something is meant to be or not? I'm assuming it's not the distance from NH to Utah, although that probably helps to tell.
You in NH. I'm in Ma. No distance is a problem I have encountered many times. Doesn't work out . trust me,trust me. Follow your head not your heart. My logo...
In 1 year from now this will not matter.
Just think about something that had you twisted last year around this time. See........always works to change perspectives. Good luck.
Deb
In 1 year from now this will not matter.
Just think about something that had you twisted last year around this time. See........always works to change perspectives. Good luck.
Deb
WOW...I think everyone on this site should go and find some of my old posts on this board. Just to see how much a person really CAN change. It's absolutely mind boggling how grown-up perpetual secret worrywarting can make a person sound; I think. My posts now sound dead, comparatively speaking- always like something right out of the mouth of Leo Tolstoy's best friend's librarian.
As for what you've pointed out, gracie- and touche' to us in the Granite State, that was some mighty good, mighty timely advice for a Flatlander. =)
As for what you've pointed out, gracie- and touche' to us in the Granite State, that was some mighty good, mighty timely advice for a Flatlander. =)
Gracie is I think Italian for thank you- and I do want you to know that I'm thanking you for that advice Sally.
Nothing is ever meant to be or not to be, life is what you make it. There is no illusive predestined future out there, we determine each step ourselves, or else what would be the point. The only thing we can be certain of is that we will die one day, so I say if you like her, hunt her down and don't let distance be a seperating factor in what could be a good friendship or maybe even more, if you want to go that way. I don't understand why you are letting a menial thing like 'distance' hold you back. You've got to think outside of the square you're living in.
Don't let the 'years' go by.
Josh,
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theres the advice you were looking for.
Enjoy!
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theres the advice you were looking for.
Enjoy!
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i disagree talk more later.
LOL. Well, I decided not to hunt her down. With the help of a friend, the decision was made to only go after attractions "from my past" if romance and dating in college was not good and I had gotten the actual physical chance to see that for myself, which would give me more of a motive or drive to conquer that distance. In the meantime- why not loosen up a little and try to figure out just what this "fun" thing is?
Besides, stalkers are scary. I would imagine especially the kind who cover 3000ish miles just to say, "Hi.....uh....I kinda like you....yeah, LIKE like you. SO--".
And anyway, for the few people on the planet who'd know, that's about as sweepingly romantic as I get.
Haha, yeah, good point. Just thought I'd point out the flip side, you did say, afterall, you will 'remember' her for a long time... I don't know what you mean by 'fun' though, what's fun? Lol.
Fun I think is something you don't notice until after you have it. Kind of like an old sense of cool: you didn't even know you had it 'till you found it missing from your wardrobe. You always have to keep rediscovering it, because there's always somebody around saying, "Look, there it is-- that looks like ______!"

Josh if you think this woman is for you pick your sorry ass up get a phone number call her. talk to her on the phone a bit and see were it goes If it looks good and there is interst on both then pick your sorry ass up and go to mormon land.
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