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Josh
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20 YearsCapricorn

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Last night I noticed a friend of mine I have not seen since she graduated more than a year ago, and I was blown away by how much different she was. A year ago, she was an intellectual giant of a senior possessing a talent for sculpting words I still hope to some day come close to. I must've read her 500 word essay on herself at least that many times, but she wasn't even very attractive to me. She also just plain seemed huge- maybe because I never saw her from anything closer than a yard or so, I was the aloof but (maybe) mature boy of the theatre troupe. Last night, though, I talked to her and I could not take my eyes off her; I must not have blinked for ten straight minutes. Everything she said, too, was so interesting sounding. Then she said goodbye, and she seemed sad. She left for Utah again today- that's where she goes to college and that's where her family grew up surrounded by the Mormon life style . The point of this post is just to marvel at how it is someone can so completely change in one's perspective in so little time. It's just so weird, and I'm a little sad I'll most likely never talk to her again. I'm a little disappointed too that I still can't talk to an outstanding member of the opposite sex, or even a lot of members of my own, without still feeling immature, stupid, or generally morally and intellectually lesser. I will say this, though: I won't forgot that curly red hair for a long time.
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longtallsally01
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20 Years

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Josh,
Let go of this. It wasn't meant to be. You are a shy type huh? Well so am I. I have a hard time linking up with men even though I am told I am very beautiful. I am very picky. Maybe this is your problem. Caps never seem to think anyone is thier ideal match. I try to accept imperfections in a man but can't. They just look stupid to me.I feel sometimes I am destined to be alone but then I need closeness, let my heart rule my head for a bit, fall, crash, burn and then run like crazy. Too independent to be held down. Hope this helps.
Deb
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Josh
@Josh
20 YearsCapricorn

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WOW...I think everyone on this site should go and find some of my old posts on this board. Just to see how much a person really CAN change. It's absolutely mind boggling how grown-up perpetual secret worrywarting can make a person sound; I think. My posts now sound dead, comparatively speaking- always like something right out of the mouth of Leo Tolstoy's best friend's librarian.

As for what you've pointed out, gracie- and touche' to us in the Granite State, that was some mighty good, mighty timely advice for a Flatlander. =)
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Nothing is ever meant to be or not to be, life is what you make it. There is no illusive predestined future out there, we determine each step ourselves, or else what would be the point. The only thing we can be certain of is that we will die one day, so I say if you like her, hunt her down and don't let distance be a seperating factor in what could be a good friendship or maybe even more, if you want to go that way. I don't understand why you are letting a menial thing like 'distance' hold you back. You've got to think outside of the square you're living in.
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Josh
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20 YearsCapricorn

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LOL. Well, I decided not to hunt her down. With the help of a friend, the decision was made to only go after attractions "from my past" if romance and dating in college was not good and I had gotten the actual physical chance to see that for myself, which would give me more of a motive or drive to conquer that distance. In the meantime- why not loosen up a little and try to figure out just what this "fun" thing is?