CONFUSION CONFUSION............. help me please

My capricorn and i (Cancer) dated for 5 months. He broke up with me because he thinks i cheated on him when i went on vacations which i didn't. He constantly saying i left him and gone, i left him in this world alone. Then i had some serious issues with him, i thinks he the one who cheated on me that, made him end the relationship with me. which is true he did cheated on me. Now he blames me, if i didn't leave none of that would not had happen. I got so angry and hurt to know he dough ted me saying im the cheater when he the one who cheated on me. Now we been fighting and arguing for couple weeks now. Then we stop, we become friends, very close friends. We been going on dates and we made love and slept together. It's like one time we are together and the other time he say i need time to do me. It's back and forth, uh i hate that. He always say he needs me by his side and be there for him as a friend, and we'll see how things goes. We act like Husband and Wife, and he was researching rings, bracelets and chains. and he told me (he promise me he'll buy those for me). Is like idk if he's using me but he said he's not. I always support and care for him. he always asked me if i loved him, and i said yes. And he told me if i find someone else i will forget about him.

My confusion is will me and him get back together as a couple? how long will i have to wait? i need tips on how to get him back to me? and what i shouldn't do! help me please

detach completely and hope to reattach later on.

What if i do that and he said that i didn't care that i wasn't there for him? what should i do?

well that's him being childish... he should know you better, right? dont placate that kind of behavior. help him be the adult he should be by holding him to adult standards of respect through respecting yourself... dont let him play that game with you. i would just tell him, "look, you know me... you know i would never do such a thing." but now he's gone and cheated on you? and why? ...to get back at you for cheating on him, which you didnt even do... honestly, i wouldn't even bother with this guy. he's playing some messed up games and it will only snowball and get worse :\ thats my opinion.

i mean if you want to go the forgiveness route... he's going to have to come really really immaculately clean with his apology and by making amends.

he'll have to:
1. realize that he knows you better and that you didnt cheat
2. apologize profusely for his pig-headed ways in thinking less of you and for his infidelity
3. come clean with a thorough apology for making the mistake of playing a hurtful game to one up you
4. promise to never do these things again evur
5. follow through and actually never do them again

I'd pose all of this to him. and then pay attention to how he reacts. if he's understanding and remorseful... than you two may have a shot... if he bucks and rebels... :\

What do i have to do to make him do that to me? make him see what's he doing wrong

You SHOULDN'T sleep with him.

You SHOULDN'T be his second mommy to him. You're essentially letting him have his cake and eat it too.

What you SHOULD do is kick the jerk to the curb and move on.

He's using you to his advantage and you can't see that. He's telling you what he wants to hear to string you along. He's getting all benefit and no effort. He's leaving room so he can flake as he pleases. Essentially, he's a little boy manipulating the situation so he gets the best out of it while you get no benefit.

He CHEATED on you, honey. Why are you wanting to keep that shit around?

You need to drop him and be gone from his life. Let this little boy work out his problems by himself. It's not fair to you that he takes it all out on you.

MOVE. ON.

lisalove, if you have to make him see right and wrong... that's a big issue. it should be a deal breaker. as is cheating. he's playing messed up mind games. my best advice is for you to ignore him and clear your own head so that you can see all of this for what it is. srsly

The fucked up caps are great at playing fucked up mind games. Remember that. They can go and do as they please, but don't you dare. In turn, they turn into some horrible people and treat you so badly and you have NO idea why or where it came from.

These types have some serious internal issues and need to be left alone. I've known several like this and once I wrapped my head around that concept, I distanced myself quickly and it sure as hell made life better for me. No more emotional manipulators. It's a huge weight lifted from your shoulders.