controll and being controlled

lets gooooo
whats your thoughts about this topic?
Do you try controlling it all, or will you allow someone else to controll from time to time?
How do you deal with things you can't control?
Do you obsess over the things you can't controll?
Feel free to think of other ways we can help better ourselves at seeming more human.

I was told and I quote " what heart, YOU have no heart" which really hurt my feelings but I hope someone here understands and can shed some light on this situation > KNOW we all get better with age and I am trying to change "HONESTLY" but I have never been overly affectionate, but once I allow myself to stop controlling how I feel it all comes out extrmely hard, and instead of going off in a hysterical crying manner it usually comes out as a angry mad woman which is really my hurt side displaying and I can not cry in front of people so they think IM just being a bitch

If I am more astute at something, I want to be in control.

If someone else is more astute at something, I let them take control.

The only thing I obsessively control is my environment. And if I can't control the environment, I leave.

1) I was more controlling when I was younger. I used to do everything myself because I didn't trust other people to do things right. Now I try to delegate to others, but it's hard.

2) I've realized that the only thing I can control is my own behavior and I've let go trying to control other people and things. It's been very freeing.

3) I no longer worry about controlling anything but myself.

On having no heart:
As a Cap, I am very practical about things. I can be very blunt and matter of fact. I am also very emotionally detached from strangers and situations that don't involve me or my family. To some, I may seem heartless, but to those who have experienced my love, they can see the truth; that my heart is reserved for those closest to me.

ok so it seems we all here sort of handle control similar; i did speel it so wrong a sec ago; but the computer allowed it and the sinking thing has spell check lol. 🙂
I have noticed that I cant control my environment; brother went to the army and now suffers ptsd psychosis and he does some very weird things around the house, but since I cant control that I seen I can control cleaning up everyday and fixing up the house, but I have been trying to do everything at the right moments as well. OTHERWISE i WOULD HAVE BEEN LEFT THE HOUSE I LIVE IN ; BROTHERS A PISCES BY THE WAY. I HEAR THEY LOVE BEING AROUND US CAPS ANYWAY CAUSE WE ARE LIKE THE PARENTAL FIIGURES THEY NEED TO KEEP THEM FROM BEING SO ALL OVER THE PLACE.

I TRY TO CONTROL MYSELF ALONG WITH MY CAREER, MY FINANCES, AND RELATIONSHIPS I HAVE BUT I AM LEARNING THAT I HAVE BEEN THE CONTROLLER OF RELATIONSHIPS WITHIN THESE LAST FEW YEARS, SO I AM TRYING THAT FEMININE ROLE SEEING THINGS ARE NOT DONE RIGHT ; I CANT STAND THINGS TO NOT GO HOW I PLANNED BUT I LEARNED PLANS AREN'T GONNA ALWAYS GO THE WAY YOU WANT EITHER

OK I JUST GIVE UP ON SPELLING ANYTHING RIGHT GUYS I CANT EVEN PRONOUNCE ANYTHING CORRECT TODAY DONT KNOW WHAT MY PROB IS 🙂 🙂 🙂

I love a guy who can control me, it makes me HOT! I can get wild and out of control and i like a guy who tames me and settles me DOWN. then i fall in love with him

But in work and career and personal life outside of my relationship, DO NOT try to control anything about me because i will rebel, after all MY WAY IS THE BEST WAY 😉

Posted by PVandJelleh
For some reason I find Caps really think that Pisces "enjoy" being controlled by them. And maybe a few Pisces do enjoy being told what to do. I find controlling and/or pushy people to be a turn off. I tend to run from them.

I was married to a Pisces and there was no controlling her. Lord knows I tried. Someone needed to because she couldn't control herself. She was very reckless, and knew the consequences of her poor choices, but just didn't give a damn. She would just leave me to clean up the carnage and off to create a new disaster. So I don't think Caps enjoy controlling Pisces, we just find it necessary, unfortunately. I'm sure this doesn't apply to all Pisces, but solely my personal experience.

OK, FROM WHAT I HAVE READ ON ALL OF YOU IS REALLY INSIGHTFUL
I HAVE ALOT OF SAG INFLUENCE IN MY CHART SO I AM MOORE CAREFREE ABOUT ALOT OF THINGS IN GENERAL AND LIKE SOME OF YOU SAID IN YOUR POSTS "I WILL GIVE CONTROL IN CERTAIN AREAS, THEN IN OTHER I WANT CONTROL"
i REALIZED I HAVE BEEN HAVING SOMEBODY TRY TO MANIPULATIVELY CONTROL ME AND THATS VERY FROWNED UPON WITH MY SIGN ANYWAYS, BUT FOR THEM TO TRY IT I WENT WITH THE FLOW OF THINGS JUST TO SEE WHAT THEY DO WITH THE OPPORTUNITY OF THIS PRIVILEGE.

DO YOU ALL TRY THE OBSERVATION/evalUATION EXAMINATION PERIOD PHRASE ON PEOPLE OR HAVE SOME OF YOU OUT GROWN THIS PHRASE IF YOU EVER TRIED IT?

I think I will always go through the observation/evaulation phase with people.

As far as the original question, I am on the same page as capgirl.