Crush on Cappie

I have a crush on this cute little Cappie. He's quite a bit younger than me, and we've been flirting back and forth for quite some time. I've cracked jokes to one of our mutual friends about how attractive I find him. The mutual friend told him, and he said he felt the same way. Our friend told him he should do something about, and Cappie said he would never dream of approaching me. We always get on really well, and I've been sort of waiting for him to ask me out, but given his response I doubt that's ever going to happen. Are Cappie guys turned off if a woman asks them out? Just curious, and a little nervous. I've never asked a guy out before. Any advice you goats could provide would be most appreciated. 🙂

RUN the opposite direction in zig zags

I'm just kidding. I think I should be "bittertaurusjr". I dated a Cappy, and it went no where. I began the persuit, he**poof** disappeared once he showed just a little vulnerbility.
Actually, my advice is be yourself. Don't lower the bar, for any man. Keep busy, be strong. Sea Siren-you'll get advice from wonderful woman on DXP that have worked hard to make their relationship with thier Cappy men last. They have been patient and understanding. I have alot of respect for them. But you won't ever get a Cappy man's advice on here. Where are they? Probably working!

Yeah just remain strong and be yourself and do whatever it is that you have to do. And welcome to the boards for the next 3 years..LOL..

Hrm, lets see. From my experience, everything was going great with the Cap, and then as soon as I mentioned my feelings to one of my friends, he FLIPPED. He lost his damn mind. He was so pissed off that I was putting "us" out there and letting everyone know. And mind you, it was MY CRUSH, not his. But then again, the person playing telephone was a Libra female so I guess she got a bit carried away with the details and frightened him away.

From what I know, I had to approach him. And I've already stated that I dont like making the first move. If he is determined not to make the first move, then he wont. Unless he is REALLY REALLY into you. Then the hunt is on. But him not making the first move is not the same as him not being into you. He probably likes the attention and the flirting and sees that you are into him, but he weighing his opinions right now. Sitting on the thought of you two. He might be into you, but, he probably too scared to make a move.

As a Cap whom has also found this to be too much of a coincidence in other Caps for it to not be true I have to say that it may not be that he's not interested - but more of the fact that he may be afraid that if a relationship were to happen - and possibly it didn't work out - that it may affect your friendship with him - I myself have liked someone for many years and yet still have this deep respect for them and find it hard to even think of asking her out - I mean she's a Virgo so we're actually very much alike - (maybe too much alike the more I think about it) but I also think that if I were to ask her out and if maybe she didn't feel the same way - that may affect our friendship as well - Caps can be somewhat timid when it comes to relationships - it's hard for us to come out of our shells and express ourselves personally to others - and even if we're in a relationship - we're still wary about giving our heart away to the people that we're with because we're (once again) afraid of becoming vulnerable emotionally and if things didn't work out it may very well send us into a deep depression (though some relationships are easier to get over than others - I guess it all depends on the intensity of the emotion that is set in the relationship as well) But one thing I can say is that we're easy to warm up to socially in most cases - given a little time and encouragement - and it doesn't take long for us to come out of our shells - (personally when I meet someone I won't say much esp. if I like that person but after talking to them for awhile I find it easier to talk to them and the nervousness just seems to disappear over time) Best of luck though either way! 🙂

Question for CapVirgo...since you mentioned liking a female friend of yours but not wanting to ask her out for fear of ruining the frienship. I wonder if you personally or in other caps have experienced the reverse. A friend of yours that has fallen for you, expresses it and maybe you don't feel the same. Would that ruin the friendship? Is it best for a woman not tell a cap guy she really likes him?

I'm like an open book sb - I have nothing to hide - except these emotions I've felt for her for all these years now - and after talking to her recently I started getting nervous around her (she's the only one that can seem to do this to me) cause I was talking to her brother and he kinda lured me into a conversation and she was kinda hiding in the background and after talking for a good like 3-5 minutes she comes out - saying that she didn't wanna interrupt us but man...when I saw her - I have to say that she looked drop dead gorgeous - as a matter of fact - I got SO nervous around her that it seemed that I got the attention of my friend noticing me losing my composure in the conversation cause when I walked back towards him (this was at work by the way - there's only like one day I can almost count on seeing her and this was one of them - but I wasn't expecting to that day either) but anyways - he's like 'you gonna go get that?' so I'm all playin it dumb sayin 'get what? wuddya talkin about?' he's like 'aww cmon - yknow what I'm talkin about - she's a cutie!' (So I started blushin kinda embarrassed cause she was still around and I was kinda afraid she might catch on leaving me in a very awkward feeling) (This guy is an aquarius by the way and his girl is also a Cap - so I guess he kinda could tell the signs of a Cap's gestures cause I even confirmed this with my other Cap friend and she admits that she's even the same way) so I tell him after she pretty much walks by that even though I do like her ALOT - I feel that because of my promotion and my intense need to be working both personally and by my own managers - she would either have to deal with my workaholicism or it just might not work - (which kinda reminds me of that song by 'Five for Fighting's "Beautiful" (youre beautiful its true - but its hard to face the truth - i could never be with you) and I mean - as much as I would want it to work and all I kinda at the same time doubt myself as well in actually being able to make it work - cause chances are I would have to work alot and even though she goes to college and works - I guess it could work but - I dunno - but anyways - now I'm worried cause now he knows that I like her (and my mom is like the only person that has known - but I think even she told her recently as well) but man - it just seems like every time I see her again - she just gets more and more beautiful - but my own self esteem gets the best of me (con't on next post)

(con't from previous post) but when we do talk - the chemistry is there - and when I saw her - it looked like she was trying to impress someone cause of all the makeup she was wearing (now I dunno if that was the reason as I notice from a woman's perspective there's many reasons they do this - such as self esteem, etc.) but yeah - I'm thinkin he might've filled her in on his recent discovery feeling that she should know - but in any case - she wasn't phased by the time I had left - if anything she seemed happy - went outside and found that she had parked next to me - but I just wish there was a way to talk to her more often - but it seems that either shes gotta run or I gotta - we're both very busy people @ work and in that sense were also very much alike - but anyways - I'm like an open book - the more I get to know someone - the more comfortable I am around them - and I was doing good with the whole nervous thing and I didn't see her for like a month cause she went on vacation and she came back and I guess I was so excited to see her that I forgot to wish her a happy birthday - and now that she's going back to school soon - I figure someone might pick her up (that is if someone already hasn't already) and from that thought I guess I just lose hope - but on the other hand - I talk to my one Cap friend and we're also very much alike (but she lives in FL as I live in PA) so we not only find that we understand one another so well - but we also find how much alike we are - it's almost scary - lol 😛) Anyways - I'm still hopeful I guess until I realize if she's really interested in me or not - but in the same sense - even the thought of telling her how I feel gets me kinda choked up - I wish I didn't care so much about her but when someone makes you feel that amazing at the same time just makes it all worthwhile too I guess 😛)

quit worrying about all the scenrios! Yes, stop being a capricorn and go for it! My cap was like you for years, he would see a girl, work it all out in his head and dismiss the whole situation...I have news for you, THAT IS NOT LIVING. you can not grow are a person if you don't get out there live, living in your head is boring, dull and SAFE.


just my 2 cents

Well I did talk to her today - this morning at work - I'm fine once I start talking - but I pretty much just talked about whatever, family, work, school (which she loves), her b-day (said it was crusty), my sister's b-day (which also recently happened) how I don't wanna move back to my parents and trying to stay here (which led to plans in my financial agenda and my long weeks of working instead of relaxing), how my ex and I broke up and how it was like deja vu all over again the way it happened, (which she was very sympathetic about), but I told her I'd get back to her on whatever happened - but I guess it's whatever happens, happens - I just hope that if I can't have her - I end up someone like her - I mean not EXACTLY but yknow just someone like that...anyways - I mean if I had a sign or something - but like I said - she's like me - an enigma in a way - but we'll see - if anything I'll at least become a better friend to her - I just need closure I guess...