Help..How to get the attention of Caps Man

I've got a relationship with a cap man..on and off we fight..it is because, if he says something, he's not keeping his words to me...Of course, my reaction would be..getting emotionally hurt...since i'm from cancer zodiac sign..My cap man, a very busy man..as it said..everything is organized to him...

We have a gap now, but sometimes..if he is in the mood..he answer my calls and we talked..now, my problem is.. i want to hook him, i want to get his attention..i want him to love me, of course..can anyone help me with this—

Join the club. What do you want us to do? make him love you? He will do that in his own good time. Read the rest of the endless posts on here and you'll get an idea of what your dealing with. Being emotional won't get you anywhere quick.

Good luck.

I UNDERSTAND YOUR PROBLEM, I TOO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MY CAP MAN HE IS VERY DISTANT, BUT WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER ITS GREAT. WE ALWAYS MAKE PLANS AND THEY NEVER ACTUALLY HAPPEN. SO I DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING THAT HE SAYS SERIOUSLY NOR DO I WAIT FOR HIM, I MAKE OTHER PLANS. I GO ABOUT MY LIFE AND I GIVE HIM A CALL MAYBE ONCE EVERY 2 WEEKS WHEN I FEEL LIKE SEEING HIM AND HE ALWAYS ANSWERS. TELL HIM STRAIGHT OUT TO STOP LYING IT IS A VERY BAD CHARACTER TRAIT... I JUST HAD A FIGHT WITH MY CAP AND I CALLED HIM A COWARD FOR NOT HAVING THE BALLS TO CONFRONT ME AND BE HONEST ABOUT WHAT HE WANTED. ( I CALLED HIM AND HE SAID HE WAS COMING OVER AND NEVER DID,AND IGNORED MY CALLS TO FIND OUT WHAT WAS UP.) SO I LEFT HIM A MESSAGE. AND TRACKED HIM DOWN TO TELL HIM TO HIS FACE. I DON'T GO BY WHAT ANYONE SAYS, JUST DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD AND LET HIM KNOW YOU ARE DOING IT FOR YOU AND YOUR OWN PEACE OF MIND. IGNORE HIM FOR WEEKS IF HE LIKES YOU HE WILL GET IN TOUCH WITH YOU. DO NOT TAKE HIS CRAP PERIOD AND LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL WHEN YOU FEEL IT, AND DONT FEEL BAD ABOUT IT.

Woah @ capital letters

I'm a cap man... how would you get my attention?

Hmm.... by sitting me down, telling me exactly how you feel and how deeply you feel it, making me feel important to you by expressly saying it, and saying how upset youd' be if I didn't meet my half of the relationship.

If I girl I were going out with said this stuff to me, I'd marry her like *that*.

Best of luck!! 😄

Capricious I must address this to you since you are a male cap. What if the girl who said all this things to you was a friend? Sure, there was a history of some flirting and dating but at the moment it's not a "relationship" per se. Would it still get a cap man's attention or would it make him run to here that his friend is in love?

Uh oh, another cancer and cappy relationship.

Well, I was involved with a cancer too so I can understand the emotional aspect of it -- yes, his feelings were easy to be hurt too 😛

Good grief .... you want to hook him — The cancer man had the same damn idea, he wanted me to love him and only him but he wanted to be free to love other people too. If I even showed a tiny bit of interest something else other then him, he would act strange.

Sorry, emote gee -- a cappy can be hooked on you for so long until we see through past all the BS. Then we leave 😉

Capricous - "Hmm.... by sitting me down, telling me exactly how you feel and how deeply you feel it, making me feel important to you by expressly saying it, and saying how upset youd' be if I didn't meet my half of the relationship.

If I girl I were going out with said this stuff to me, I'd marry her like *that*."

Haven't seen any proof of this yet on these boards but yeah it could happen.

ukspacey,

I'm not of the opinion friendships can develop into non-platonic sexual relationships easily. If you however say there has been flirting, and I assume there is sexual tension between the two of you, then thats great news.

See, if I were him, and I liked you and we already were close friends, then I don't see what would hold me back other than a fear of ruining a good friendship.

It's the future that matters more than the past. The fact you are friends and have been in the past is irrelevant.

missmorals,

Do you mean any proof that I personally would do it, or just Caps in general? I'm paranoid here! 🙂

yeah ok capricious, i have done that to my cappy many times, why hasn't he proposed yet, hey!?? lol...most of that time i dont even get a reply when i explain things, its that goddamn poker face, like hes taking it all in and letting me spill my heart out without giving ANYTHING away about how he feels! to this day i do not know!!

As for attracting caps, dress well, smart but conservative, nothing too flash but they do like cleavage, talk well and act like a lady, no drama or emotions, apart from that unfortunate bar incident i am always highly well behaved when with my cap...they like good manners, good breeding, high social status so make sure your circle of friends and aquaintances is strong...ambition is very high on their list, i work very hard full time plus study full time for another degree i am just starting, they want to know you have direction in life, so be sure to subtly drop this in in conversation!
They will almost always wanna check out your family before letting you meet theirs, to check you come from a decent family and sooner or later they will wanna know how much you earn - though ive always firmly said to my cap my money is my business, as is my home, car etc and that is how it will remain, separate from him until the day he asks me to marry him of course lol! (which will prob be never right now!)
Also, caps like to talk about serious subjects, so make sure you have good knowledge of intelligent topics and keep up with current issues! Thats all i can think of for now... oh yeah...its good to let them pursue at the beginning and ALWAYS make them wait for sex etc, they will remember and respect and trust you more later...plus all too soon they will poof anyway and you will be the one having to pursue! Look nice, well groomed, dont let yourself go, smile be chatty and pleasant - nver embarrass them or make a show of yourself and you will attract them left right and centre! P.S they dont tend to like the limelight on them so they will prob be the ones sitting in the corners on your night out - keep a look out!

Hope this helps x

in my experience if a guy likes you enough he wont worry about 'ruining a friendship' or so my guy friends tell me - men dont think like that or worry about things like that! LOL

so finally...if u are doing all of above then the next step is of course to keep yourself busy, and let him come to you, letting him know you are there for him, but the more you pursue, it seems the more he will run!

"Do you mean any proof that I personally would do it, or just Caps in general? I'm paranoid here!"

Cap men in general. Usually they run a mile when someone sits them down and tells them how they really feel.

Its all very well making a statement of that kind but unless you can follow it through, don't make one!

Hello everyone I've been reading this board for a while and I've noticed that after all the solicitation for opinions from Cap men, they get run off. Why is that?

Bittertaurus tells the truth, I reckon. Jeez are we really that simple to figure out?

Then, why is it if i sit him and talked about what was his mistakes...He just swayed it off..Seems..he doesn't want to talk about his mistakes!!!