Danced the last dance with Prince

To make a long story short I met this guy at a dance, and we talked afterwards. We had lots in common, and I think he knows I like him. I asked him to the movies and he said yes, but the day of the movie his parens didn't let him go out. I kinda believed it. We were talking online and he said he was going to talk to me later, but hasn't called, which doesn't surprise me since guys don't call much, For the record he did call me b4.
We haven't talked for days, is that a sign? and I don't want to be the first to say hi, I know that's stupid but I kinda want him to show some interest. Now that he might not feel the same, shold I just ask him? How shold I say tactfully tell him that I'd like to be friends if nothing more?

I find other people's feed back very helpful so I'm looking forward to the replys. Please,I need them fast.

Thanks,
Seekur

Hi Seekur--got some questions for you.

-What's your sign and what's his sign?
-How old are you both?
-How long have you "known" him?

There are many possibilities as to why he hasn't called you back. Personally, I tend to think that the guy will call if he wants to call. He has your number, right? Well, if he wants a relationship he'll eventually call you. I wouldn't sweat it and I wouldn't wait around, either. Make it clear to him you have no intention of waiting around, and the chances of him calling go up. Don't ask me why, but for some reason, guys find stand-offishness more attractive thank over-eagerness, at least in the beginning stages. Most guys enjoy the chase, at least for a little while. Like I said, there are a number of reasons why he might not have called you yet, but I need more info before I can give deeper advice.

In the meantime, good luck... 🙂

*THAN, not THANK...

Thanks for your thoughts phoenix!

well I'm much happier now, after i posted the message i decided to give it one shot and called him, he wasn't there so I left a message for him(Name and # only), he actually did call me, and had a great convo which made the whole day brighter, I'm not necessarily looking for a relationship, I've only known him for approx one month,for now friends is more than enough, i'm thankful, but I do consider him as more in the future. We're both the same age, 11th grade, and he's a capricorn, I'm a scorpio,YeY!!!But U know how we get obsesed and all over small things, I was thinking if he won't call me back I'll forget about him, something I usually don't do(let go)But i knew my options and wanted to get to the bottom of it. I think we have great friend potential, and i'll be less agressive cuz that usually spoils everything in the love department.

So I hope that clarified a bit, Thanks againg and any comments are still welcomed.

-Seekur :.)

I think Capricorn and Scorpio are a great match as long as both as willing and ready for some kind of commitment. Capricorn feels thrilled to have a scorpio fall for him because it gives him a warm feeling all over. Scorpios however, may decide half way along the line to call it quits, and that possibility scares the cappie because he wants consistency in the relationship. It is a rare capricorn who would throw caution to the wind. They want to make sure you want them for keeps. You better do, because in return you will have yourself a passionate loyal, hard working man, and a very responsible one for that. They deny themselves pleasures to please others. Really and I know this first hand. They rarely 'call it quits' until they have weighed all options, and were not given enough credit for their perseverance. However, once it is over, a capricorn never looks back.
Bottom line...! If he is unattached, and willing to 'commit' and you are fairly good looking, then just go for it....!

I think he's unattached, I don't know about commit, but I think I'm "goodlooking" alright, sad we haven't seen eachother but once, but I'm working on that. Thanks a bunch, I have faith n your words, and I love capricorns.

It seems like he is making me wait a lot, I wanted us to hang out at the mall and I told him to let me know if he won't be able to go by calling me before, but he let me know alright, cuz he never called, and we never went, but seemed eager to want to go... He confuses me a lot. What should I get from that? Playing hard to get, or making the chase more fun, or playing the making me wait game or build up momentum, plain not interested in hanging out? I would understand it might be awkward but I'm not asking him out for sure. He'll do that if he wants. I just think he's so awsome in every way and I'd really want us to develop a friendship, a solid base, lear to trust eachother, help eachother and care for eachother. I'm willing to give and open to take. I'm not sure he understands, our whole story so far has been very interesting, 2 people, complete strangers to wanting to get to know eachother. I want to make it easy for him to just be himself, which I like the most, and Just go from there. I agree rushing is not a factor and maybe I'm still rushing, but it's innocent. I'm not plotting anything I just feel like giving us a boost every once ina while...hehe
Any ideas anyone on how to do this right?

Thanx 4 ur time
Seekur

Hi Seekur, I was glad to hear that everything seemed on an upswing after my post to you on this thread...seems like things might be swinging a little the other way with his no-call/no-show thing. I can tell you this...in high school I fell madly in love with a Capricorn guy, but because of his lack of expressiveness (and his obvious motives of wanting only a physical relationship with me so he could be free to have physical relationships with all kinds of other girls), I had to move on, and it seemed every time I had a new boyfriend, there he was all of a sudden again to talk crap about them and be my best friend and yada yada yada. He really was/is a good guy when it comes down to it, it's just that I can't be with anyone that emotionally closed off and icy. I wrote him a letter once when I decided to break off our "relationship" and I went off like I've never gone off on anyone, ever. At the end I told him that he was an emotional iceberg. He still brings that up to this day (we are friendly acquaintances). That sort of person just turns me off completely. He ended up ripping my heart out and slicing it into a trillion microscopic pieces back in high school because of his insensitivity and coldness. Lesson learned was that I won't *ever* chase after or pine away for an emotionally unavailable guy...never never never. They can come to me, and it better be aggressively or I don't want them. I notice that the less you appear to care, the more they all come around in droves. It is odd, but that's what I've observed. I hate game playing, but the reality of life is that there are games involved, so maybe you could retreat on all fronts for a few days and see how he handles that? You sound like an awesome person whose intentions are great--he sounds unreliable at this point and maybe your retreat could be the determining factor as to whether he's going to step up or not. I don't want to sound bitter toward Caps here, because they are one of my favorite signs and the best of them are truly the best...I just don't want to see a nice, sweet person whose intentions are good to get frozen out.

Hmm, maybe I see me in you? lol. Still wishing you the best and keep posting updates! 🙂

Or you can do like me and never give up! One way or another I am gettin it. Even if I only get it breifly I will somehow make it happen!

U guys scare me, and I have to say a little tells a whole lot. Thank you for all ur kind thoughts in such turbulent times. Well i'll take it one step at a time.
we've all been rejected so we can all relate, but to tell u the truth even if he'll reject me it only seems to hurt less and less each time. u prepare urself, u adapt to life.Even the hottest people get rejected, yup.

Phoenix I really feel you, cuz we all had such times and it drives u crazy bouncing off the walls,

wells my mom is driving me off the internet so i'll continue tommorow....bye! for now.

Okay Seekur, you've got it together--take care, but of course I still want updates. lol. Use your intuition when it comes down to it...that's the only true way to learn from something. If it feels good, keep doing what you're doing, and if it starts to get more hard than easy, or more upsetting than uplifting, then get out of the situation. You are your best guidance counselor--the rest of us only have our individual experiences to bring to the discussion.

TTYL 🙂

i'm back again, as I was saying, but i don't understand why they come when u disappear? that's where i don't get the psychology, and get very confused.I don't like emotional icebergs because they never seem to want to fall inlove,which i do, they lead u on, and dump you. But like u said I hate games, and I'm not sure if i should play any. I think not...

I didn't call him for a while and I got his call, that figures, I was very pleasantly surprised, and i do admit I like aggresiveness when it gets to it. I will never make the first move unless I feel he wants me, and then I will just let go of all fears and doubts. But this time as many times before i go around the block a couple of times to get a feel of the place and then I move in.

I believe in him, and maybe I shouldn't, but I think he's the type who has the fire to step up to the plate,if he wants. Like u said PHOENIX I have gotten my good intentions frozen and drained so many times that I'm starting not to care. I need that tenderness, that sensitivity back, and how am I suppose to get it without another soul to talk to and feel.I think Prince is an great guy to surround me slowly in that direction of warmth and affection. Which I need and I think every one needs.

SUSY Q

I am a go getter, I made the first move and I pat myself on the back when ever I think about first making us meet. I could have passed the opportunity and never know what it might have been. It sucks cuz like u said when u do get it it's briefly, ithink because there is nothing there to keep the chemistry going. I stll belive to go get is the best set of mind. Why wait?

Simply Me

Hello and thaks for your compliment. I try.
Well I don't think he's cold, and i don't think he's shy. Ok maybe a little, and it's kninda cathing up with my patience. I like things to start fast and settle to a moderate wave. I haven't waited for him at all actally, it's in my nature to try and do do do. I've asked him to 4 different places, bad luck, bad timing, or I don't know we never saw eachother but one time. In a way it's mysterious, and it's making me curious, but it's also taking away all that excitement and fun of it. Truth is i would not know where to start or how to act if I would see him. To be affectionate,hug, or distant, just say hi, so the more time I have to adjust to him the better. I would like him to invite me to some place, that would rock my world, but I can't count on it. Thanks for your ideas though they are good.

I think he's worth something, my time, and emotions, but I'm not going to go crazy if we say friends. He's cool guy in general, totally positively different, and I see us be friends for a long time, if not more. I see good times ahead. And i'm hoping for some good wheather metaphorically.

Thank u all🙂

seekur

Hello every body!

Things are not going too well, I think he doesn't quite feel me, or my intentions. We met by accident at my school, and I was very awkward. I think I broke a sweat when I saw him. I didn't know what to say. So I said Hi back and What's up, we hugged(awwww), and that was kinda it. I really acted like a friend(sarcasticly). Plus he attracted a flock of people. I felt bad cuz he had nothing to say either and this girl he knew was like Oh! "Prince", u should go out with this girl!(showed a picture of her)and he was like ok whatever.... It's true he didn't come there to see me but, still, so I said I'll see ya later.
Then we talked and we really didn't seem to have much to say, nor did he seem interestd in talking. He said this dress I bought looked nice from what I described it, so I wanted to pay it back, I gave him an honest compliment on his hair, and he totally stepped on it, and then when I saw I should not keep up with it I wanted to know how he did it and he just left the chat place. No good bye no nothing. My fault?

Ok maybe I should ignore those little things, but those are his actions.I think too much, but actions speak louder than words. Could it be he's acting more aloof cuz he likes me or no? I don't want to know the answer..j/k

I figure I should give it a break. Maybe I'll forget about him. I think I had too many expectations.

I don't know I figure I might be playing his role,as a guy, always initiating stuff. I would rather have him do that, but I guess I'm always there first.

I'm not shy at all, and if I am I swallow my fears and go for it. Might he be intimidated?
I love the adrenaline rush when i go out of my comfort zone.
I'd like him to propose a small adventure, like going some place and climbing a roof or whatever.
Just when I think what greatfriends we could be if we just let go of foolishness and get to the point already.

I hate waiting around, when nothing might ever happen. I would just ask him out but I know he'll say no.Plus i don't even know if he wants a girlfriend.

Guys say I'm adventurous, talkative and am too agressive, and have high expectations. They don't stick around to discover the true me, what's beneath my skin. They miss out. I want to love uncondtionally, be accepted for me, have fun, goof around, do crazy things,

Well I'll hope for the better.
Thanks everyone for reading

Hi! Seekur

You sound a little like me!!!!

I hope you get some answers, so I can get a clue too!

Suzy

Happy new year everyone!!!

Well, I haven't written for some time, but time has come.
Hope you'll find this a bit entertaining and helpful (suzy). read it like a story.
Prince and I are still talking which is great, he is openig up to me, and all I did was hang in there. He doesn't seem like boyfriend material, because he can't even commit to a simple get together, But an actual date? oooo, let's not go there.
So I tested out the waters,and i'm a bit let down, but I'm an optimist to the end, and even after that.

So i won't go into detail, because these are deep feelings and real moments in a person's private life, but Prince is apparently "still" stuck on his huge, undying, suffocating, lust/obsession/love for this girl, even after she treated him like butter, and made him go mad.
Funny I actually know this girl(call her LILI) pretty well,6 years, we're not close, but she's nothing special-Her an a billion other coincidences between us, that make me wonder what is meant for us- Anyway, Not the type of person you would want to be in your circle of best friends. Not secretive, very unenchanting, not that pretty, sorry, hardly believe he has a thing for her. Which pisses me off. But what makes her so special is, due to psychology, his image of her in his head, of which he can't tell apart from reality. SOOO sad, I know. So she is totally wrong for him, and I'm standing right infront of his nose, but he can't see past his imagination. It breaks my heart.

So now I got to know him more, really know him, and am planning to tell him how I used to really like this guy who stole LILI away from him. That should drive him mad. LiLi and I always seem to have our eyes on the same men. Which only means that she must go, sarcasticly. But I'll save that for later, as u can tell i really like this dude. And I hope I don't have an unreal image of him, but I really don't know if I should stay friends, or go for max speed.
What would anyone do?

Fine but Lost,
Seekur

I don't know what to say, except it ended faster than I thought, but it's not over yet, I stil have an idea or two left in the bag and I'm taking my time and thinking of how to reveal them in the best way. Communication is stagnant, vizibility too, but i'm not discouraged at all.I am 100% confident that there is a way to him, but trick is to find it. Meanwhile I'll let time pass and see what the wind will bring. Time is the all knowing creature which can't be touched, seen, tasted or heared. It can only be felt.

Hello everyone!!

All right joo guys, I think u can help me with this one. See I can't even believe I have to ask u guys if this guy is worth my time. But a second opinion never hurt anyone right?
Regardless if u read the above or not, I had feelings for this guy since the first time I met him, and I've been trying to take it slow and not make any mistakes while I win this one all for my little self. 🙂
We got to know each other pretty well, talked a lot, and this one actually had something interesting to say, which made him stand out from the rest. His looks also grabbed my attention, it could not have been prevented I'm sure. And we met a couple of times to talk (date like) but more to either catch up on things or him to be there for me, when I was going through some bad times. We acted like friends and I didn't want to take it further because I didn't want to scare him by being agressive.
Over all, I've known him for almost half a year. So we got a lot of time to get a feelling about eachother.
What changed: we don't talk as much and when we do it's brief, but it still has a friendly taste to it.
My friend told me he saw him with a girl, holding hands; so that should be his gf. Maybe that's what caused the change. Thing is, and now pay close attention: when I have a "friend" I tell them everything especially if I have a bf, & for a brief time I did, and I let him know, his reaction wasn't too big, he kind of pretended it wasn't there. But what I wonder is why he won't tell me He has one, if we are just "friends"? So maybe we aren't just friends even though we act like it.
I tried to make some sense, and said, well maybe he won't tell me bcuz he's afraid that I would act differently towards him. But "just friends" would not worry about that if they don't have feelings for eachother Right? Or he wants to keep me as a possible option in the future or he could have more freedom, (concidering I don't know he has a gf (from his part)and we get together, I would not know he's cheating. Or he doesn't have a gf. But i trust my friend.
I could just be making all this up in my head, But when u spend time with someone you get vibes and u can tell whether they like u. I never could tell 100 % And I hate feeling so unsure.
Now all it seems to me is he's trying to play hard to get or, giving me all this space and time to make me miss him, think like this, a cat and mouse game. & i'm tired of chasing after him, which is why I'm loosing interest fast. Cuz I feel like it's been going on for a while and I have to turn the tables or else it's bye bye. And what eats at me is that behind all the fellings at risk is a good friendship, that I would like to keep. I think that if he would have liked me in the first place he would have done somethig or maybe he didn't want to rush anything.

Or ne really good posibility is that hes' with his current gf because things r easy and new, and convenient. While I liked him I said yes to this guy who i wasn't really interested in just for the fun of it. So he could do the same. I really want the best of both worlds,

Any thoughts of insight, advice, past experiences, best wishes are welcomed.

Thank you all