I've been seeing this Capricorn guy for a month now. The first day we met was also out first date. We were set up by a friend and were talking for a week before meeting. The date was great. He told me after the date he likes me alot & we hung out for the next 3-4 weeks seeing each other 3 times a week. we were great it seemed like. He aloways told me sweet things. Said he 'wants me to stay forever' when im with him. We havent done anything further than kissed. and has never pressured me to or talked about it. & He said hes been stressed lately. The last week i saw him, his dad had moved back in with him & had our friend also move in. So it was alot to get ready for. We were suppose to hang out a week ago (saturday) he said he would text me when he gets done running errands with his dad. He blows me off. Then texts me the night after before going into work that he is sorry that his phone wasnt worming cause he got a new one and had some family stuff happen. I thought okay not a big deal. He texts me the next morning explaining more. And i told him do what he needs to do. I told him i hope he's not rethinking other things like about me. He said "no you're fine. Nothings changed" but its been almost a week and we havent talked. What shod i do? Guve him more space? Does he think im not interested now?
Distant Capricorn man help!

He has family stuff going on. However, a short text here and there would be nice.
My rule of thumb is two weeks then on to the next.
At least you don't have a lot invested since it's only been a month.
My rule of thumb is two weeks then on to the next.
At least you don't have a lot invested since it's only been a month.
Posted by truecapI sent him a text today asking how hes feeling & saying have a good day. Two short texts i recived from hom total yelling me hes been trying to help his dad get a job & its been a long week. He said hes tired but feeling ok. But he left me hanging on text. He may have gone to sleep since he gets off at 6am so he sleeps in the afternoon. But he's off work tonight & we usually hang out when he is but i feel like when he wakes up we wont be.
He has family stuff going on. However, a short text here and there would be nice.
My rule of thumb is two weeks then on to the next.
At least you don't have a lot invested since it's only been a month.
I like him a lot. If my only choice is waiting for him to get out of him feeling like this & being so busy & stressed then i will wait. I feel he is worth it. Even though i have had other men trying to date me, i do not want them like i want him.
Do you mean if he doesnt text me with two weeks, move on? Or if i dont see him?
Telling** i did not mean "yelling"

Yep. Two weeks of no contact is indication that you are not important to him.
Posted by truecapSo him replying af all is a good sign?
Yep. Two weeks of no contact is indication that you are not important to him.

I agree...just text him something that doesn't require a response. Usually telling a person that you're thinking about them and hope that all is well....doesn't require a response. If you don't text him, he'll feel like when life happens, you might not be patient with his busy schedule. If you text him something that requires a response, then he msy think that you're trying to pull on him during this difficult time.
The bottom line is that when a man is interested, he'll MAKE time. Sending the text that doesn't require a response is a good faith act in that you're giving him the benefit of doubt. Its not a guarantee that he'll respond. If it works, great...but ongoing, you shouldn't have to send this good vibe text to get his attention, even when he IS busy.
You know?
The bottom line is that when a man is interested, he'll MAKE time. Sending the text that doesn't require a response is a good faith act in that you're giving him the benefit of doubt. Its not a guarantee that he'll respond. If it works, great...but ongoing, you shouldn't have to send this good vibe text to get his attention, even when he IS busy.
You know?
yeah i understand that. I want to wait around for him for if he ever does come back. i feel like he is not like this, that he would tell me if he wasn't feeling it between us anymore. how do you spend a month straight with someone, telling them all these nice things, and suddenly drop it all? i don't want to believe one day he just woke up and decided he didn't want to see me anymore...after the very last time i spent time with him he says "i want you to stay forever" as i was getting ready to leave. i don't believe anyone does all the things he did for that long if he did not have feelings at all. :/ i truly don't want anyone else right now.

A month is nothing. 4 weeks. You dont even know each other.

Waiting for a long length of time shows a lack of self esteem and comes across as desperate. Its as if you don't think you deserve better. Granted, he is going through family stuff, but if he cared, he wouldn't be ignoring you.
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