Geminis and Capricorns

I posted this on the Gem board, but thought I'd put it up here too and see if anyone responds.

How about geminis and Capricorn relationships?

I'm (gemini) interested in getting to know a cap guy right now.

I generally don't have great luck in romance, usually I like the guys more than they like me, or I am not interested in a guy and friendzone him/shut it down before anything starts so usually I'm not being pursued.

In my experience, the only guys who have been like soo crazy in love with me while I was not interested and continued to chase me were all Capricorns. (It's sad, nobody I have actually dated has ever expressed this much positive emotion towards me 😢 haha) They were willing to change their lives for me and for some reason really liked me, even though I didn't feel any romantic chemistry on my end. I always enjoyed their company and making them laugh, but they were always too willing to do anything for me that I didn't want them sexually. I like men that are more domineering and will just make moves on me and throw me on the bed. Caps (in my experience) cared too much about being nice to me and making me feel comfortable that maybe it was boring or just not masculine to me.

So Caps, what are your experiences with Geminis? Caps seem to like me and I want to give it a shot instead of going for the douchebaggy guys I usually go for.

I can definitely seem superficial and flighty (gemini ascendant). When it comes to romance I'm the opposite (venus in cancer). That side only comes out though when I'm attracted to someone and want them though. This guy is the cutest capricorn I've ever seen so I don't think that will be an issue haha. Of course, personality is what really gets me to be a big clinger. I'm actually kind of worried because if Caps in my past liked me when I was in friend mode, which is my carefree whatever mode, then I really wonder what a Capricorn will think of me when I am in romance mode. I get a lot shyer.

One capricorn that I almost was intimate with, (I couldn't bring myself to go all the way because we lived long distance and didn't want to get complicated with someone far away and he is my best friend's brother) we were both so shy and awkward around each other that I could barely make eye contact with him and we could barely even talk to each other that getting to cuddle again was nearly impossible. I would be in the same room with him and we could only communicate through texting! Thinking about it now though, the awkwardness might not be from liking each other too much, it was probably more like we had no chemistry. Cause other people I can get over the shyness if we have something to talk or laugh about.

gosh, I say the word 'though' a lot.

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
Are you flighty and superficial? Caps kinda need security and probably don't wanna feel as if things will be fast forward for 3 months and then end abruptly. No offense to Gems! I love them. My Dad is one as are most of my friends, but we only get along on a lighter level. When I get "low" and want to talk about life's deeper meanings they all kinda go into hiding until I'm more level emotionally. It's REAL for Caps and FUN for Gems. Also, be honest, don't play games and give them time to dwell and process. It takes a stable person to date a Cappy I think.

+1

My ex husband is a Gem and it didn't work out. Honestly, it was great in the beginning. I liked his fun personality and he liked my stability. He resented my financial responsibility in the end. Thus,in the long run though, we had major problems. I was a little cold for him emotionally and he was a little "airy" for me. We did not understand each other. I would like to have deep, intellectual conversations and debate for the fun of it and he liked to keep things on the light side. He was a spontaneous person and I was a planner. I got where I didn't trust the "twin" personality. Never finished anything he started and would "forget" about plans and was always double booked. Things just didnt jive. They are great for friendship, but was a little flighty for anything more. We ended up arguing a lot. Of course, other placements play a factor too. So I should not discourage you. Just my personal experience and I admit I am biased. Just sayin'.

I??ll share with you my experience with the one GemGirl I??ve had the good fortune to get to know quite well.

Like you and your Caps, she also happened to friendzone me pretty much immediately, in spite of the palpable attraction between us that she's admitted to and that others pick up on in our presence. The issue is, again just like with you, that my attraction to her has always been far greater than hers to me. I think her attraction to me, if it should even be called that, is really much more the manifestation of her curiosity as she attempts to understand someone who thinks and behaves so very differently from her. Also similarly to you, she has a long history of dating guys who are literally mean to her, treat her poorly, are unwarrantedly accusative, verbally abusive, cheaters, ??_ I could go on, but surely you get the point 😉

I don't presume to speak for all Cap males, but it is not in my nature to be domineering and assholish (masculine, you call it) unless driven to be so by necessity. The behaviour you would see from me if I were attracted to you would be just like that of the other Caps who have fruitlessly pursued you. If this doesn't —do it?? for you, and since this does appear to be the behaviour innate to Cap males, then it seems unlikely this combination could have much hope of long term success.

It appears to me that the Cap and Gem are so different that they complement each other nearly perfectly. While these opposites attract, I suspect that over the long term their repulsive powers would prove the stronger force. The nearly unavoidable presence of the two things that each sign most despises, boredom (for you) and instability (for him), do not generally portend a happy-ever-after ending.

Stoicgoat - seems the opposite sex/attraction scenario with me and the Gem I was married to. I felt he was more attracted to me than I was to him. Perhaps why I seemed so cold to him—

Truecap, I'm sure that's a big part of it. I think the coldness most people perceive from Caps has less to do with our interest/disinterest (per your comment above) than it does with our innate independence and objectivity.

What capgirl said mirrors what my own intuition tells me about the GemGirl I know. We're great together, but for success long-term, she would need a less serious/mature acting partner and someone who is much "warmer" than I could ever hope to be.

I am interested in being the Cap guy's friend for now, but I guess I was curious about my prospects if I decided to try to go further with this Cap, since I've never given it a full go before.

I do enjoy having intellectual conversations and debates just for the heck of it, but if I'm losing or get caught in a fallacy, I might be tempted to to metaphorically 'flip the game board' like everyone does in Monopoly and end the debate with 'well it doesn't even matter!!!' I do like to get deep but not all the time. I can actually see that happening considering this guy was a philosophy major at berkeley. He probably loves formal debate haha.

If a cap is too serious I can see myself drinking and starting up a conversation with someone else which could be seen as flirting when its not to me. Sometimes I just randomly talk to people for entertainment since I'm in a public place, might as well take advantage of my environment. I don't see these people as people I want to date, sometimes I just wanna talk to someone else, which is why I like hanging out in groups instead of one on one. Would that be considered flighty?

it's because she (gemini) example, is ruled by mercury. swift, clever, butterfly-like, but i think this can work if both work on it: it always helps if the cap has a lot of gem and gem has some cap in them. doesn't mean it will work, but helps the sticky factor. also, some gems have strong cancer and they can't help but be attracted to their opposite: cap.
they can't help who they love.

What mind games do you think occurred? Were they ones you played? Did you do it consciously? Was she playing? Are you assuming she played them or do you know for sure?

I'm curious because sometimes I worry that I come off as playing a game, but I am really just unsure how I feel and don't want to react yet. If I ever did or said something that was considered a mind game, trust me, I am probably just as confused if not more so than the person on the other end. Mostly because if there is no intention behind it, and the recipient reacts to something I didn't mean or tries to 'play' me at a mind game that doesn't exist, then I would be totally confused what I did wrong.

Romantic situations are actually what I take most seriously. It's the one thing that I can't joke about (except for self-deprecating jokes, haha). Anyhow, I think sometimes I'll be slow to answer someone cause maybe don't know what to say yet and people take the astrological sign into consideration and think 'Oh, she's a Gemini, she must be doing this on purpose' while if I was a Cancer, the guy might be like 'ohh poor girl is being emotional and needs shell time.' It's different interpretations of similar actions and I think people misread my intentions because of what they've heard or read about my sign.

Cancers get off the hook for everything 😢. Maybe I should just tell everyone I'm a Cancer from now on. Cut me some slack. haha

DG I have never gone all the way with one, so I've never experienced the lovin. But I did at one point feel down there and it was very small... he was a 6 4 guy and I swear it was only the length of my palm. like a gherkin.

And Aries gurl (can't remember the name because it is on a different page) I have some capricorn in my chart but in the far away planets like saturn, neptune, pluto, so I'm not sure what that means.

Gemini and Capricorn are inconjunct to each other. Definitely doesn't seem like an easy relationship but then again we also have to consider other planets' placements.

oh and by "ariesgurl" I meant lisabethur8. wow I have terrible memory.

I knew there were letters 'ur' somewhere towards the end..

Haha one of my oldest friends who really really liked me told me about his.. since I refused to look at a picture of it. I don't know why he was trying to show me?? But he said his was 7 inches, 1 inch in diameter, which sounds skinny? That would be odd/interesting if there was a consistent pattern of member size for people of the same signs.

Another one told me his was 'so big' and he would shave to make it look bigger, but I refused to inspect that one too. So maybe they are not all small. But, I have also known 3 of the 4 Capricorns I've been close with lying about dumb things like sexual encounters specifically cause they thought it would impress me (They told me when they realized that I didn't care). So, maybe he was lying too about his size.

Sorry bad grammar. I know that each of the Caps I was close with would lie about silly stuff to impress me and I know this because they later admitted it to me when they got to know me better and found that I didn't care about that stuff. One guy bragged about how we has in orgies with all women and later told me it wasn't true, but he wanted to impress me. If it was true, it just freaked me out, haha. Not impressive!

iwin, do your parents ever have problems? Do they still love each other?

Posted by iwin32
My father is a Gemini and my mother a Capricorn. What can I say? I never understood why they got together.
Two completely different personalities getting together is not a good idea. Geminis are carefree, like freedom and get bored pretty easily and Capricorns are the exact opposite. Both would have to make changes to make it work, so you would have to take those things in consideration since and as you said, you get turn off pretty easily when they are nice to you.

....and they made you.....

awwww.

OP, don't know really about having cap in your chart. not an astrologer. just learning. i just like to understand and put things together as exercise. my husband does the same thing but differently.

just go for it and flutter around him. it'll drive him nuts. and if he falls in love, be kind.

Posted by gemcancervenus
I posted this on the Gem board, but thought I'd put it up here too and see if anyone responds.

How about geminis and Capricorn relationships?

I'd say it depends on your entire star chart. I've met Gem's where i'll be lucky if I can hold their attention for 30 seconds. But then I've had a long time Gem female friend who I connect with more than Gem I've ever known. It depends, but from a logical standpoint, both are such different signs that you'd have to meet each other halfway on practically everything. If this cap guy is really the type of man you want, then you're in for a treat, if of course you can stick by him, support him (emotionally), and gain his trust. Once those are out of the way, it's usually smooth sailing. Cap's always get shit on by people who either couldn't control them, got dumped, or just didn't take the time to understand us. That's really all we really want in this world and in our lives. To be understood and loved for it. I hope that makes sense. Just don't cheat, piss him off, or give him a reason not to trust you. If you find yourself doing any of those things, run and hide. Our tempers are verbally destructive.