Get over it or what? Plz...give your best advice

I put up a dating Ad, my Cap man replied with extreme interest and we excitingly exchanged very detailed and long emails for about 3 months before he moved to my city. We'd speak from time to time but it was mainly me doing the calling. He'd occasionally text.We finally met in person, gave 1 another the "hey you, sitting on the other side of the couch"(haha)silent treatment for about 2 hrs over a movie and food then like madness, he found himself all over me and something came over this Cancer and I just gave in to him. The physical attraction is ridiculously high and yes, we had sex that 1st time we met in person.
Mind-blowing? YES!I never had a guy "make sure I'm enjoying myself" so much. He might've turned me into a nympho. So, my Cap is a workaholic and b4 we made the decision to date, I told him that it'd need tons of compromise and he agreed and always said "be patient" to me n I am a very patient & spportive person so I didn't think it'd be an issue. About a 6wks into this new "pursuit", I never felt "connected" to him but knew that the feelings were there...but with distance btwn us (he lives 2 hrs away) and his rigorous work schedule, I started to feel the pressure. He'd never really want to talk on the phone (never was his thing...but the times I made him stay on, he'd always text afterwards saying.."I really enjoyed this convo tonight").So we saw 1 another about once a week and sometimes he'd stay the night b/c of the distance. I'd make meals for him which he absolutely loved and we mostly stayed in cuddling...watching movies, ordering in, have sex at least 5 times a day. I then sent him a an email breaking up w/him b/c he had begun to make plans to come c me but would cancel last minute through text and I felt he was beginning a "see you once every 2wks" pattern which bothered me and I began to feel disrespected so I'd ignore him until I wanted to talk 2 him...which of course went unnoticed. I broke up w/him n now want him back. He calls to check on me now or sends texts like hope you're OK etc. nothing deep or personal. We agreed after my 1st email to remain friends. He had apologized for trying to be committed when he knows right now he's focused on his career. I sent him an email last night saying i wish everything hadnt happened so fast n i miss learning about him and mostly seeing his sweet face. Think I'll get a reply? What should I do? I tried dating but always think of him. I miss his touch. I never get so sexually comfortable w/guys.

"The physical attraction is ridiculously high and yes, we had sex that 1st time we met in person.
Mind-blowing? YES!I never had a guy "make sure I'm enjoying myself" so much. He might've turned me into a nympho."

Hahahaha...I know the feeling

Are you a cancer as well someonespecial? What was your experience with a Cap?

Oh no I'm a scorp...I can just mainly relate to the physical attraction. Sorry I can't be of more help...lol. Good luck!

ps. What I've gathered from the boards is that you should tell him how you feel ONCE, then back of and wait for him to make a move. Everyone seems to say that PATIENCE is the key and he's going to be committed to his career first so you may have to wait until all that is in order.

lol aw man.
Yea, I pretty much broke up with him stating the reasons and he replied back apologizing and agreeing that the distance btwn us and his main focus right now (his dance career) has a strain on our development. But he said he definitely wants to keep me as a friend. I was good at just "forgetting" about him but then he'd text randomly...going into 3 wks now, I've gone back to dating the other guys he was "in the race with" ( a mixture of Virgos and Taurus') but he's on my mind and I kind of regret telling him we should be friends. But honestly, he hasn't replied to my email and the more I reflect on a typical "Capricorn's behaivor"...I want n part. I will focus on my career as well and just if he's in touch...good...if not, I'll just deal. I think that's healthiest for me. I thought maybe I wanted just a physical with him now but I'm just not that kind of girl. Like we said in the beginning our pursuit "I'm all yours, and you're all mine"...haahha meaning NO sharing. So...thanks for checking out my post lady. My good friends are Scorpios.

You're welcome :-) my sister is a cancer and we are like 2 peas in a pod sometimes. I think you're doing the right thing. Just be prepared for WHEN not IF he comes back. lol.

Haha girl, so Mr. emailed me back. Weird. I didn't expect it. But I was reading the message board of Caps about "small talk" yesterday and he did exactly what most of the caps there said they do. They don't like small talk unless it's dealing with something relevant to them or something like that.
He emailed me back in brief regarding my email..."acknowledging it" saying don't worry, we're still friends, he just hasnt made it to my part of town yet (meaning if hadn't called it off he would've been doing the same things and it would've been nearly a month since we'd see 1 another!!!!) OMG....I'm sooooo happy I called it off!! hahaha I would be going NUTS emotionally. B/c my mind is weird. If you say "yes, we're in a relationship...then I get all relationshipy (if that makes any sense)...but the moment you say we're friends...I just treat you like another friend. Like all feelings disappear. Crazy!

BUT get this...the longest part of the email was dealing with some sound equipment he's selling....if I wanted it for my "huge flatscreen" (he always did like my place hahah) or if I know anyone looking to pass the word..ahhaha "business, business, business". So I'm thinking if he hadn't needed to promote his sound system, he wuldn't have replied. haha
ANyway, I'm like really happy and light-hearted now..like a weight has been lifted. I feel really good.
Hm...cool

"So I'm thinking if he hadn't needed to promote his sound system, he wuldn't have replied."

this cap I'm dealing with sometimes contacts me for random stuff but I'm not buying it for a second. He's still into you.

if only jobs were people.

Yea. Now the sent me a long email the other day saying he's leaving town for 2 wks but is ridding of his beach house so am I able to store 2 suitcases at my place and when he gets back from Mexico he wont have a place for 2 wks before he returns to France, so if he can crash on my couch for those 2 wks. And he emphasized that if no, no biggie, he's just seeing all his options.

I said I can store his things but really can't have him crash on my couch. I know we're "still friends" but my Ex of 4yrs (A CANCER as well) wil be back from Dubai & the idea of a guy crashing on the couch (since he does pays for the Apt...hahaha) won't be a nice sight. So I said NO can't do..."I have family coming to town".
He never emailed me back. Not expecting him to either. I doubt he'll store his things here either.

Either way, I was dating among Virgos and Taurus' when him and I broke up and 2 nights ago, my Virgo (who's a yr younger than me) asked me to be his girlfriend. I said we should get to know 1 another more...I think he was disappointed but said OK. I'm seeing 1 of my Taurus' for a movie tonight...he's 12 yrs older?...Should I even bother? I like my Virgo...mostly because he is easily manipulated and I always like to be in control. But this older Taurus really likes me as well. We're going to the movies tonight...What should I do. Settle w/the Virgo who's outrageously smitten in a childlike way w/me or get w/the older Taurus who is smitten too but keeps a distance...focusing primarily on work?

Also, the college Virgo wants me to spend the wkend in OC at his family Ranch. I haven't confirmed b/c of a business conference briefing in Vegas this same wkend...and also because I'm not sure we should do weekends away yet... I've know both these guys about 3 weeks only. Talk and hang more with Virgo boy though.

What to do?

I've never dealt with a taurus or a virgo- but it may be too soon to settle for either one. Just keep seeing both of them until you're sure who you want or if u even want one of THEM. I almost said go for the taurus because I don't like a man I can walk all over...lol...plus 12 years is not bad...but who knows. Go with your gut, cancers have great instincts. Oh and check out the taurus/virgo board. good luck.

Ahhhhh Cap. Cap. Cap...trying to drive me insane... He's "back"?

I was away this wkend at Virgo's place and
Cap texted :"can I stay w/you 2mor night?"
Me: "yea...go, you know where the spare key is...I'm in Coto De Caza for the wkend" (his neighboring town). I just assumed he had a performance in LA and needed to crash (b/c of the long drive)& he didn't say "come see you" he said "stay w/you"...
Cap: "U're not home...so I won't come...wanted to see you...but next time".
Me:Awww, how sweet Ok, next time.(before ridiculously gushing with joy at "wanted to see you"). Ahhhh
Virgo: "Who's that?" (b/c we were at the movies seeing Death Race.)
Cap: "My sis...O.M.G!her boyfriend proposed"...Awwww
Virgo: "Awesome".

hahahah...but of course I wasn't concentrated on the movie anymore. I've wanted him so badly physically...since "let's be friends" haha but am trying hard to not let him think I'm available on his time.

Sooo....yeaaaa...

hmmmmmm....