IS IT OKAY TO SHARE FEELINGS WITH CAPRICORN MALE?

As you all know I have been dealing with my cap since March 2008. Just like most, he does not communicate with me regularly. He goes on these spells in which it takes him days to respond back to my text. I see him maybe twice a month and get occasional texts from him. I have tried to stop communicating with him but really like him alot. The last time we had sex was in May 2008. My question is it is wise of me to tell him that I am trying my best to get him out of my system? How do you think he would respond? Distance himself further? Please advise.

As an Aries, I am really too impatient to wait until or IF he comes around. I am tired of feeling like he doesn't like me; but when he is with me it is as though he cares deeply for me.

NO!

Old Jake, could you please elaborate as to why not?

Actions speak louder than words.

Wow SB, that is really deep. I think you may be right? Is it a lost cause?

I wouldn't tell him anything, it will just make him stay away, the best thing you can do for yourself (only a suggestion) is to leave him ALONE. On top of that when he contacts you don't be available to him, the reason I say this is not to play games or make as if you don't care, its more about breaking his cycle of coming and going as he pleases, if he truly desires to be in your life he will make an effort to find and seek you out which could make him open up naturally and/or will give you an opportunity at some point to let him know his behavior isn't appreciated nor will be tolerated any longer and it has to stop NOW. He either chooses to be in or out, there is no in between, in or out.

When men behave this way, its not a sign thing, its a behavior thing, you have to break his habit by not allowing it anymore. If your always readily available when he comes back around then your showing him its okay to behave the way he does so why should he stop if your putting up with it.

He's not mad, he's not angry, he's not upset with you, you have done nothing wrong, he's simply being an asshole and stringing you along. He likes having you around but he's not fully committed to being with you more than you would like. If your not getting what you desire then its up to you to decide to move on because men don't respond well to TALKS especially if they become frequent. Let him be and you find other friends thats willing to spend more time with you. Doesn't mean you have to sleep around, I'm not saying that but I'm sure there are other guys that would love to take you out and spend quality time with you.

I tend to disagree with Cap men being hurt so they disappear, Cap men have thick skins in business and love, a Cap man can take it as well as dish it, my male friend Cap can say some things that make me cringe but as long as he fights fair then I'm cool, he did disappear when he was in a car accident but rarely does he do that, he doesn't make it a habit.

You shouldn't have to wait years to capture his heart, a man already know if your the one, you shouldn't have to guess at it or be in distress over him disappearing all the time, you did nothing to deserve that and per my knowledge with dealing my male friend, he never holds back his feelings.

You have to decide to wait but I guarantee you, you will regret it because it makes you look desperate waiting for him to decide to sit still and have you in his life on a more permanent basis, move on to someone that can give you what you need now, you don't deserve to wait, happiness is here for you now. You feel like if you show him your there for him when he shows up this will make you look more appealing but it doesn't, trust it doesn't. His priorities may not be you and having a relationship with anyone, thats something you will have to deal with and decide if he's worth the trouble.

I may be young but I'd advise you the same thing everyone else here is saying: Stop communication. There comes a point where you have to push that attraction and feelings to the side and gain back your self-worth.

It was also hard for me (my situation is a bit different but yet similar) but I cut him off and he came back full force and called every single week from January to June (not exaggerating). I used to say that I'll never contact him again and yet, two weeks later, I would. I snapped out of it after he disappeared and returned and never went back. You should do the same. Silence is golden. We saw each other from afar just the other day, but he will NEVER hear from me again. Ever hear of the expression, "He who cares least..."?

Yeah, you can express your feelings to a Cap man. They are great communicators but cautious if that makes any sense. He is not going to push up on you full force. Slow moving man indeed. YES, if you want it to work with a Cap man, you are going to have to be patient and not rush into anything. Go with the flow.

If he is disappearing, he may have some things going on in his life right now. Cap men are very self sufficient and they really don't like you being in the way of what he has to do to get him to the place in his life where he "wants" or feels comfortable with for himself.

Cap men are very good strong providers. Once you get out of the cautious zone, he will be there for you through your roughest, I MEAN roughest times. He will never leave you lonely not unless you give up on him. Cap men are not quitters. HE will NOT give up on a woman he is in love with unless you make the decision to leave. He just won't give away his heart as easy as you want him too.

You can share ALL your feelings with him, he won't run from you.

That's good advice, Bull- on your last 2 paragraphs- I need to follow that! 😉

don t tell him that you want to get out him from your system if you do it to make him disagree and change his behavior from that point...cause the opposite can happen too and that s really hurt.

many of us tends to say man these things only to hear the opposite from them and make ourselves calm that they still need us...but we can fall to our faces and that's really hurt

"i tend to tell guys i'm leaving & then try to go back to them. i've done this several times and it really ruins things in the r-ship. so now i just don't advertise what i want to do."

Gotta give guys some credit now; some can tell you're not being honest when you "advertise" you want to leave....that's why it ruins things in the r-ship. More like games or manipulation? (sounds like you're afraid or feeling insecure?)

Why not just tell them what they already know or suspect....that you're feeling afraid or insecure or feeling like you wanna run because you're feeling insecure.

Sometimes being emotionally intimate is much much harder than being physically intimate. Cap guys can handle most anything you tell them; you're not really giving them or the r-ship a real chance by not being emotionally honest.

Cap men are usually good communicators. You really don't have to hide your feelings from him. Just be very, very straightforward with your approach and don't bit your tongue.

Dear A 4268

Caps do not want that much information that quick. We really don't much give a damn about other peoples fellings. We really don't care what most people fell toward us. We are a bit selfcontained. Sharing your felling with us no matter how well meaning you may be. How can I put this BORING.

Yours Jake

Absolutly they love to be desired. If you tell them how you feel it bosts there low self estem. They may be alittle egotistic but they really do have low self esteems. Most men do...

I'm with Old Jake, being transparent is boring to some men, they simply get bored quickly, if he cares for you he will initiate conversation or atleast leave a space open for you to express yourself without him feeling threatened.

something my mom told me when I was in my 20's, she would sit and listen to me for hours about my life, men, relationships and one day she looked up and said, stop being a broadcast tower, I was like what?? I started to laugh, she's like you tell men EVERYTHING, how you feel, what your going to do, how your going to do it, when your going to do it, stop telling him your scared and afraid, if your going to leave then leave, if he doesn't do it for you then let him go, if you love him then allow him to pick up on that instead of you having say it, stop boop boop boop boooooop boooop broadcasting all the time, people get hurt all the time, relationships fail ie not have the outcome you wish all the time, If your scared well be scared and love and live it anyway. I had to really look at me and how I dealt with the men in my life, had to ask myself if I was being vulnerable and sending that vibe/message non verbally or was I just being a straight up fearful little girl hoping someone would rescue me, I had to stop with all the emotions of fear and insecurity and find a way to trust myself.

Bullerina my mom was like jeeesh that man know your every move, you are so transparent which equals *yawn* boring, you think i'm bad bull just think if moms sat you down LOL!! When I was in my early 20's I had this really bad habit of telling people what I'm going to do before I do it...totally stupid d: