He asked me if I would wait for him?! huh?!

He asked me if I would wait??!

Ok so, I've posted here before about this cappy male, and that was when we were hot and heavy into a friendship on the verge of becoming a relationship when BOOM! things exploded and the words that he said earlier in the friendship, didn't have any standing by the time the fight we had passed.
In the beginning he told me he was ready for a relationship, and he could see himself with me and that he felt happy with me.
Before we had a fight, one night we were talking and he mentioned he wasn't ready for a relationship due to his financial problems. Ok, I got that but . . .why say you were when you knew the whole time you didn't have a job? We got into it because I thought we were about to be g/f and b/f and that wasn't even on his mind. Not to mention he would come over for days and spend nights. So, we stopped talking due to that because I felt there wasn't much left to talk about.
So 4 months pass by, and he sends me a message over MySpace.
Saying he wanted to talk and see how I was doing and if i would txt him when i got the chance.
And so I did and here we go again with the I really do miss you, and I know what I want and I want you and I want to be with you, and I'm serious. (This would be like the HUNDRETH time he said that!)
Only problem is, for the past year, that's ALL he's been saying. He would say that, we'd get something going, then something happens, we lose contact and the BAM! he appears again with the same plea, we start something, something goes wrong and then POOF! he's gone.
But now he says he is serious about us and I told him I just want to be friends, no more, no less. Well he sent me a txt back saying I respect that, but I really do miss you a lot. He also asked if I would wait for him. Wait for him to get back on his feet before we get into a relationship.

I feel like I am in a recurring cycle and you know what REALLY sucks?
I LOVE HIM! I want to see him do well, I want to be there to help him, and be there for him but I can't help but feel insecure and used at times when he is around, and I feel like he only contacts me when he needs something, although he never asked for anything really.
But he has told me he never tried to use me for anything and went on to say, If i didn't like you like I did, why would I keep coming over and spending time with you?

Ugh! why do cappy men have to be so difficult?
Do you guys think I should take this one slow and remain friends only?

I would take things slow and just be friends with him. He left you once, wait and see this time. No commitment just yet. You don't want to put all your emotions into something and then it goes down the drain again.

Be his friend first and see how much he has changed.

Yes, that is good advice cappy!
Thank you . . . he gets on my nerves so friggin much. GOSH!

and wow cappy! you're pretty!!!!!

dump him and move on, tell him you love him, can't do friendship because of that fact, tell him your happy to hear from him but you can't do friendship and then you keep it moving unless you like being his friend and having all these feelings you can't do anything with then stick around but you will be bound to be disappointed again and again and again.

seriously! my cap friend did this shit to me for over 2 years! i was sooo sucked in too. i finally let him go for the last time. i called him out and even told him that i didn't want a relationship because i don't do that hot and cold bit. i don't care what ur damned sign is. ur my friend or not. i don't play head games. i told him if that's the type of friendship that he's used to having in his life, then i'm the wrong person to seek friendship from. i felt i deserved better than that. if he really thought anything of me he would be there for me. i'm not clingy or needy and i am understanding of his busy schedule. i just know better.

the truth is, regardless of sign, he is male. i'm not saying that with a negative connotation attached. explain ur situation to other males and u will get a straight up answer. it may not be what u wanna hear but a man tends to know what goes on in a man's mind. they're often far less complicated than us females. so when i went to a few male friends of mine about this they all told me the same answer,"he would be there if he really wanted to be". yeah, it sucked and it hurt, but it was the truth!

Yea, you're right about that ninjamu. I have asked other men's opinions and it's always mixed/different.
Now this cappy man won't leave me alone about a relationship! I told him I only wanted to be his friend, but he has asked me twice already if I only wanted to still be his friend, then he txted me last night and goes, "I can't help it, I want to be with you woman."

Why is it that the men who used me to their benefit, played games with my heart, are the ones who ALWAYS, almost ALWAYS come crawling back? What the hell?

I have played enough games with this cappy male that I feel almost uncomfortable getting into a relationship with him. I even find myself rolling my eyes at him when he says things like "I want to be with you" and "I know what I want and it's you"
It's like, how many times are you gonna tell me that? Until I actually believe it?

UGH! Why is dating so useless? Seriously?

yea tiki33, that sounds like the best move yet
But it's almost like he wont let me move on

Gets upset if Im talking to other guys, yet keeps playing games
confuses me
And now it's like, I don't know if to believe what he is saying
or not
It's annoying