Help me figure this Capricorn man out!

I've wrote about him about 3 weeks ago on this forum. We've been seeing each other for about 2 months now. I kinda slept with him earlier than I wanted to. He called me by another girls name twice which made me question our relationship and where we stand. His answer was he likes sleeping with me but he's not sure how he feels about me. So I cut him off and he bugged me to stay friends. so I said yes via text and the next day he showed up at my apartment. I stood him up and didn't let him in. He tried it one more time the next day. This time I let him in and we ended up sleeping together agian.

I also snooped his phone that morning and saw some texts from the girl who he mistakenly called me by her name. She said, I called to wake you up because you asked me to but I will never do it again.

We had a heart to heart talk 3 days ago. I asked him how he was feeling and he said he doesn't want to let anyone in, he doesn't trust anyone since he and his long term girlfriend split up. He knows the moment he lets me in, he's going to be very controlling and possessive. He knows I have plans and I want to be a successful person. he's the same way too and he's trying to see how much longer he can stay in my life. One day when we were out for lunch, I bumped into my ex's sister's best friend, he was at the parking lot trying to pay for parking, I called him right away and told him he shouldn't come inside the restaurant because I bumped into the ex's sister's bestfriend and I dont' want them gossiping about us. He brought it up that day saying, I'm not sure why but I feel like you've been hiding me from everyone. He also found out that I'm dateing soemone else but I'm not sleeping with him.

Since that day we had a talk, I told him I want a serious relationship and we should stop talking. He has been pretending that I never said we should stop talking and been constantly texting me since that day. He would text me things like what he is doing ect... I can't tell him to stop either. I'm just wondering what everyone else thinks. If he just want sex with me. or why he wont' stop bugging me.

Posted by virgo85
I've wrote about him about 3 weeks ago on this forum. We've been seeing each other for about 2 months now. I kinda slept with him earlier than I wanted to. He called me by another girls name twice which made me question our relationship and where we stand. His answer was he likes sleeping with me but he's not sure how he feels about me. So I cut him off and he bugged me to stay friends. so I said yes via text and the next day he showed up at my apartment. I stood him up and didn't let him in. He tried it one more time the next day. This time I let him in and we ended up sleeping together agian.

I also snooped his phone that morning and saw some texts from the girl who he mistakenly called me by her name. She said, I called to wake you up because you asked me to but I will never do it again.

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Smdh....I don't know what to say.

Kinda easy there aren't ya?


I really, honestly don't mean to be offensive.....but....

Posted by truecap

Posted by virgo85
I've wrote about him about 3 weeks ago on this forum. We've been seeing each other for about 2 months now. I kinda slept with him earlier than I wanted to. He called me by another girls name twice which made me question our relationship and where we stand. His answer was he likes sleeping with me but he's not sure how he feels about me. So I cut him off and he bugged me to stay friends. so I said yes via text and the next day he showed up at my apartment. I stood him up and didn't let him in. He tried it one more time the next day. This time I let him in and we ended up sleeping together agian.

I also snooped his phone that morning and saw some texts from the girl who he mistakenly called me by her name. She said, I called to wake you up because you asked me to but I will never do it again.

.

Smdh....I don't know what to say.

Kinda easy there aren't ya?


I really, honestly don't mean to be offensive.....but....

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It's fine i'm not offended. You're being honest.

A lot of us warned you three weeks ago that he was only after sex. You seemed like you didn't want to listen.

I think his actions are proving it now.

Posted by truecap
A lot of us warned you three weeks ago that he was only after sex. You seemed like you didn't want to listen.

I think his actions are proving it now.

sighh!!! not that I don't want to listen to you guys. I just wanted to see if it's gonna work out cuz I like him a lot.

Posted by champranger
"If he just want sex with me. or why he wont' stop bugging me."
---> If that contact is broken off, how would he get to have sex with you? 😉

right! I just told him one last time. I'm getting really annoyed and I'm trying not to be rude. He needs to leave me alone and I'm not interested in being his FWB. hope it slients the texts or I'm blocking him everywhere.

Hun, I think you already figured it out. Now, you just have to get out of the Denial Syndrome and see it for what it is don't ya think?
You've already given him the cookie, so may as well continue the FWB unless you really like him and want to be in a relationship.
If that's the case, then it's time to move on because he's already told you that's not going to happen and Caps rarely change their
mind...especially since he's already friend zoned you. Earth sign men are usually pretty serious about love when they committ to it,
and if their not feeling it ,trust me....their are not feeling you. You are not the one, so grab some pride and dignity and get on up outta there.
Chalk it up to a lesson learned. You deserve better.