SamCancerGirl
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How do capi guys deal with stressful time at wrk?
Thanks both - I was going to take him out for drinks n see if I could cheer him up
Thanks M - I'll try the dinner route but he's such a workaholic.. Is this way of saying he wants time out away from wrk with me
Posted by MPosted by everevolvingepithet
Massage and a meal, maybe?
That'd work. If I recall, the cappy in question has a taur moon 🙂click to expand
Yep M he has a taurs moon!
Posted by MPosted by everevolvingepithet
I think if you cook for any man with an amount of regularity, the time away wouldn't be questioned much lol imo anyways.
Lolclick to expand
Lol - think he prefers his moms cooking
Posted by M
I'm not sure if I'm understanding your question there.
What does having a taurus moon mean?
Posted by everevolvingepithet
But then again food always tastes better when someone cooks it for you.🙂
Lol sounds like someone is hungry.. I'd love a vegi pizza if your buying
So we were going to meet tonight for drinks, now he says work is getting busier and if is can we and reschedule for Tues will that be ok?
What are my options?
Do I ask if he would prefer going out for a meal?
Stick to the plan for drinks?
Or suggest meeting when he has more time for us ?
He asked me to help de-stress him and now it's like he's soo consumed with work isn't that going to make it worse?
I said its fine and can do either day as long as he picks the bar..
What are my options?
Do I ask if he would prefer going out for a meal?
Stick to the plan for drinks?
Or suggest meeting when he has more time for us ?
He asked me to help de-stress him and now it's like he's soo consumed with work isn't that going to make it worse?
I said its fine and can do either day as long as he picks the bar..
Posted by MPosted by SamCancerGirlPosted by M
I'm not sure if I'm understanding your question there.
What does having a taurus moon mean?
Meant the bit about breaking from work :p
Taur moons...
Mellow. Takes care of business. Likes the good things in life, and loves to do things his way 🙂 Really slow to piss off and is incredibly stubborn once the mind's made up.
Things like food and touch are great ways to connect with Taur aspects, giving the dinner/massage bonus points.click to expand
Oooh yes this defo sounds like him.. Very stubborn hard to change his mind once it's made up.
This has happened before when I've asked about how work was - he said he didn't want to talk about it.. Meaning Taurus moon wants to break up this thoughts/senses away from work.
But recently if I ask -although I don't really being it up he's said it's been a long day and stressfull.
Obviously I'd love to help but if he's not making the time to see or let me it doesn't help.
He has asked about Tues now -I guess I'll find out tomrw if he meant it but would like to be prepared if he does.
Posted by M
He's thinking about you though, and he's seeking you out instead of space.
Life happens, and I could understand things picking up and he's not finding the time. He's going to be lax with the fine print about where and when so take it when you both can get it, the main thing on his checklist is you're included.
He's finding time to contact you, maybe you guys should capitalize on that.
M - thank you, it seems soo much easier to understand as you've explained it.
He is making me more aware of how things are going on his side although I'd prefer the fine print but he won't tell me detail. Any guidance on how I can get this or should I not probe.
Yes feels like he is finding time to tell me then poof he's gone.
Will make the most of when I see him next.
How do I get the dynamics to change so that's it's not me jumping when he says I'm free now..
Posted by M
You aren't going to get that from a guy like him 😛 When you guys plan, if nothing definitive was reached, wrap it up by putting out when you are free, leaving the jumping to him. He might not (lol) but you're at least in a more assertive position.
Alternatively...
Gradually suggesting things to completion, or having him set pieces each time you talk until there's a game plan. With practice these might not take as long as they seem and you can get things out of him easier. Taur aspected people...if you don't handle them with care they close down and leave you to headdesk.
Will try this approach next time - agree with the handle them in wrong way and they close down very fast
Well I got the "can we delay tonight it's kicked off at work" obviously it's not gonna b a quick fix and will end up being even more stressful.
Then I got the it's been a sh—? few days.. I mean really..? Like u didn't see it coming...
I'm soo annoyed..
Then I got the it's been a sh—? few days.. I mean really..? Like u didn't see it coming...
I'm soo annoyed..
No apology or when we might b able to reschedule.
Forget having to treat capi with care. Should I b grateful he even told me he "might not "be able to make it...
Forget having to treat capi with care. Should I b grateful he even told me he "might not "be able to make it...
Uhmmmm....there is an obvious answer to this question...
A lil' R&R in the boudoir!!! A lil' blindfold and feed him some chocolate covered strawberries...a lil tickle and tease...
*forces venus scorp back in cage*
A lil' R&R in the boudoir!!! A lil' blindfold and feed him some chocolate covered strawberries...a lil tickle and tease...
*forces venus scorp back in cage*
Didn't read the whole thread. Be patient with him. Don't be upset. Work always comes first. He may not know when he can reschedule.
It was his idea about wanting to meet either mon or tues as he's got other commitments.
I feel as thou I tried to b patient let him pick the day he was free n still I got let down.
It's understandable that I'm a lil pissed off..
Well it's up to him to come running I gave him a chance n he let me down
I feel as thou I tried to b patient let him pick the day he was free n still I got let down.
It's understandable that I'm a lil pissed off..
Well it's up to him to come running I gave him a chance n he let me down
I left it alone, plus now I have a cold 😢
Anyway he gets back to me n says he's had another sh&@ day and there won't be many more
After this..
Yay so hopefully when things r better he will take the initiate n lead on taking some well
desevered R&R - can't wait!!
Anyway he gets back to me n says he's had another sh&@ day and there won't be many more
After this..
Yay so hopefully when things r better he will take the initiate n lead on taking some well
desevered R&R - can't wait!!
He is making an effort to keep in touch with you. That says a lot!!!! 🙂
However, this situation with work/commitments will happen over and over and over. Best thing to do is decide if you are willing to accept this and most of all understand it and not hold it against him. As always, you have decide if this will make you happy. You'll probably eventually get used to it as things develop, especially if all other signs point that he is into you. Just realize, you'll always come second to work. It's not about how he feels about you, he just has responsibilities. So, if you can deal with it and accept it without taking it personally, then you will be happy. If you can't accept it and do take it personally, you're always going to feel this way.
So, go into your evaluation phase and decide what you can or can't deal with.
Cappys need people who are understanding to our career and when we get overwhelmed with the career, someone to have a lot of humor to liften our spirits and draw out our fun side. I have no doubt he thinks you are one that can do this.
Hang in there girl!!!
However, this situation with work/commitments will happen over and over and over. Best thing to do is decide if you are willing to accept this and most of all understand it and not hold it against him. As always, you have decide if this will make you happy. You'll probably eventually get used to it as things develop, especially if all other signs point that he is into you. Just realize, you'll always come second to work. It's not about how he feels about you, he just has responsibilities. So, if you can deal with it and accept it without taking it personally, then you will be happy. If you can't accept it and do take it personally, you're always going to feel this way.
So, go into your evaluation phase and decide what you can or can't deal with.
Cappys need people who are understanding to our career and when we get overwhelmed with the career, someone to have a lot of humor to liften our spirits and draw out our fun side. I have no doubt he thinks you are one that can do this.
Hang in there girl!!!
If I'd known he was gonna cancel on me twice in a row I would have planned something fun to do with friends but I kept it free cos he said to change it to the next day.
So basically messed up my whole week as I told other ppl I wasn't free.
I left it for him to get back to me but I have a cold now so can't even go out.. He has been asking how I am
I'm not re arranging he can do that when he available.
He pouts if I'm not free whn he is but I stand my ground.
It did really annoy me thou but by the next day I calmed down and was fine.
He has been telling me whn he gets home that he's not had the best week.
I'll try to b more patient but at the same time dude needs to make an effort.
Least I haven't been having a go at him on top of all the stress he has at wrk.
Have tried to send subtly seductive texts just to get him through the week that's been helping him
So basically messed up my whole week as I told other ppl I wasn't free.
I left it for him to get back to me but I have a cold now so can't even go out.. He has been asking how I am
I'm not re arranging he can do that when he available.
He pouts if I'm not free whn he is but I stand my ground.
It did really annoy me thou but by the next day I calmed down and was fine.
He has been telling me whn he gets home that he's not had the best week.
I'll try to b more patient but at the same time dude needs to make an effort.
Least I haven't been having a go at him on top of all the stress he has at wrk.
Have tried to send subtly seductive texts just to get him through the week that's been helping him
I totally get that work comes first, but there needs to be a balance n be more open about how ur feeling and if u say your going to do something do it.
I mean I'm perfectly happy to do things with friends if he's busy with wrk. He knew things were blowing up at wrk he should have been more honest n said look its gona be like this for the rest of the week
don't rearrange for the next day whn it got worse at work.
I'm just lower on the priority list n he's moving down my list ASAP
If he's playn footie on the weekend he confirms with the manager that he's playing,
so why can't he do that when planning time with me?
He wouldn't dream of letting the team down n look bad in their eyes.
I mean I'm perfectly happy to do things with friends if he's busy with wrk. He knew things were blowing up at wrk he should have been more honest n said look its gona be like this for the rest of the week
don't rearrange for the next day whn it got worse at work.
I'm just lower on the priority list n he's moving down my list ASAP
If he's playn footie on the weekend he confirms with the manager that he's playing,
so why can't he do that when planning time with me?
He wouldn't dream of letting the team down n look bad in their eyes.
Posted by CaplovePosted by SamCancerGirl
Will make the most of when I see him next.
How do I get the dynamics to change so that's it's not me jumping when he says I'm free now..click to expand
I would say to STOP jumping when he's suddenly available. It sounds like he's throwing you off balance, not on purpose, I'm sure. But still, don't let him do that, it may work for a little while but in the long run it can take you down when you start jumping through hoops just to be with him and to accommodate HIS busy schedule. What about your schedule? What about your friends? Your work? Your classes or hobbies?
YOU are just as busy as he is and you also still have a life of your own to live. So you go on and live it. 🙂 He will appreciate you more for it or he should. If he doesn't then he is not the one. I know it's hard, I've been there too. The cap that I talk to threw me WAY OFF AND I LET HIM (never again). I felt like I was on a little canoe gliding along a smooth, calm river and then he came up like a big, fat fish and toppled me over and I fell into the water head first!
He threw me off because he was incredibly sweet, romantic, kind ***SIGH*** and all kinds of good stuff and I wanted to accommodate him and I DID. But then I realized I still have my own life to live, my own hobbies (whether it's oil painting or scuba diving) and I'm not going to drop that stuff or cancel anything that I enjoy and love just because he snapped his fingers for me to come and was suddenly available.
I am NOT saying to not be available, NO, that's not what I'm saying at all. That's game playing and it doesn't work. I'm saying to keep your balance and don't let him rock your boat and tip you over.
Make plans with your friends and keep them, get a fun hobby to learn a new language (or whatever) and go to your class, EVEN if he calls you up and says he's available ONLY that night, the night you happen to have plans with your friends or are doing your fun hobby. First, that's not fair to your friends or to YOU. Don't drop any of your prearranged plans because he calls you up to go out. That's all I'm saying.
Doing so will throw you off balance and then it will throw your relationship with him off balance.
The last few weeks I've been really busy n working late every night, later then he has .
It's kin
The last few weeks I've been really busy n working late every night, later then he has .
It's kind of taken its toll n I'm not well now 😢
He decided to make plans for us to catch up n then took a raincheck twice.
Next week I won't be so available.
He asked first so I kept it free.
If my friends ask to meet up of course I wouldn't change my plans if he called to say he was free.
Posted by CaplovePosted by SamCancerGirl
Okay, you see that? 🙂 You kept your own schedule free to accommodate his schedule because he asked you to. I wouldn't do that anymore.
You missed out on a fun evening with friends and it threw your week off. Keep your plans and don't "keep your schedule free," for him. Let him make a date and if he cancels on you then he cancels and misses out on a fun date with you. HE is missing out, NOT you.
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CapLove - he defo missed out and it's his turn to up his game.
Having read everyone's comments I feel in a better place now.
Thank you for all the suggestions and personal experiences with caps.
He prob thinks I'll go chasing to re-arrange but it's his loss as he missed out.
I had a good week catching up on Suits and the lovely Mike and Harvey were yummy!
Capi got in touch yesterday asking how I was.. Still not fully recovered yet but haven't heard from him since Fri evening 😢
Caplove/88 - Maybe is the emotional cancer woman in me that wants him to make the next move..
Frown because didn't hear from him all weekend.
Maybe he needed the weekend to unwind on his own terms.
QuiteStorm- Im all for unleashing the inner vixen however the timing just isn't there yet..
Frown because didn't hear from him all weekend.
Maybe he needed the weekend to unwind on his own terms.
QuiteStorm- Im all for unleashing the inner vixen however the timing just isn't there yet..
Posted by 88NPPISCES
haha no problem girl, I also didnt hear from the cap all weekend. lmao
I dont know who is more emotional Pisces or Cancer, sometimes I feel as if I had no feelings and sometimes I feel as if I had too many, that I get overwhelmed.
Like if at times my feelings hide from me. & I have to remind myself of them. Im pretty messed up there lady. lol
88 - I think Cancer women are prone to be very emotional which is diff to being over emotional.
I mean I'm not gona turn into stalker mode and go chase him.
I will however unleash the inner vixen n send seductive suggestions which Capi will respond to whn he is free.
He knows that's the only thing that helps him relax whn he tells me how busy things are- it's just our code in a way.
However if he pushes the line and it's been more then a few days like over 4 etc I'll go into the withdrawing phase and tell myself that it's his loss and start to resent him.
I know it's not the right way but I have way too little patience..
I don't know any Pisces ladies so can't comment 😢
Anyways he got in touch and asked how I was.. I'm recovering but have to get bck to wrk in the morning..
Posted by 88NPPISCES
ah if this helps any. the cap texted me this morning asking how I was. I didnt text him all weekend either. You know maybe he wanted to relax without being on the phone, who knows. But he has been texing back & forth and he just now said. "you know, I really enjoy being around you". He is such a sweet guy.
Im an impatient woman who likes to get it done you know.. lol
Im not just a pisces but a hot headed one with tons of Aries so my impatience goes over the roof at times. I thought he wasnt gonna talk to me again, you know these dumb thoughts I get at times cloud my good judgement. But he still there saying he enjoys being around me.. 🙂
Relax lady and you have yourself a really nice day, you can ask me anytime how this cap/pisces story is going. after all we are both water signs and I can relate to cancers. I have many cancers in my life and I love them all, there is not one of them I don't get along with. 🙂
88- aww ur capi is sweet to txt u back that 🙂 least it was in the morning and not towards the end of his working day.. Lol like mine.
Yup ur most prob. right about him wanting to relax without the phone plus I guess cos he knew I was ill he couldn't do that with me.
Will try to relax more just hard with the Druid emotions running overtime in my head.
Thank u ur soo sweet and kind - will read up on ur capi/pisces updates 🙂
Maybe ur capi knows ur distancing yourself and is roping u back in but really capi's are lovely when they do get in touch.
Thanks heaps!
Stupid = druid
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