How long does it take for caps

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Candeh15
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to really settle into something.

I was talking to a girl the other day about some issues with the guy she was seeing (who is a cap). They've been seeing each other for about 6 months long distance (about two hours). She asked me was it so hard to have someone love her as much as she loves him, referring to her cap and how he doesn't really seem to show that he loves her. Knowing what I know from caps, I told her that some guys can take a longer time to finally open up; she told me that her cap said he has a harder time expressing his feelings. The girl also told me she has been a little more clingy with him because she doesn't like the distant between them now, while her cap said he has some personal issues to work on himself. While I explained to her that she should focus more on herself and that the clinginess would eventually push her cap away, I wondered how long does it take for caps to really break out the I love you or anything like that. IMO, six months is still kind of early for "I love you" in some relationships, but from what I get, the cap and this girl aren't technically boyfriend or girlfriend. She really seemed upset by the lack of emotion and told me she wished she could go back to when they first met, when the cap seemed more emotionally available.
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pretty much what SC said, but it my case it took a year and a half. also i was the one who said it first, in the most nonchalant manner which surprised him and had a huge grin crawling over his face. i already knew at that point that he loved me, he said it back and since then has been more expressive about how he feels. Just as what was mentioned above, these men are really about their actions, it's their preferred form of communication. they will go out of their way to make sure that you have what you need. they enjoy being able to provide for you so that you're happy because it makes them happy. as long as you're not one sided about it, they need that bit of nurturing and reassurance themselves.

in regards to your friend, she just sounds that she just feels insecure about the distance, which is why she's searching for that "i love you" to make her feel better. 6 months is definitely not long enough to really get to know someone and to fall in love. even if he does feel this way, she's not going to be hearing it for a while.
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They will show interest and a whole lot of effort at 1ST... After they feel secure about your feeling towards them, they have a tendency to back off a little. This is where women start to make mistakes that are crucial when dealing with a Capricorn men. Cappy are very caution and analytical. This is just a natural defense mechanism when they feel things are moving too fast. They like to create space especially if they feel you are getting in to close. Women should not panic and the best thing to do is give them their space. This will let him know you have a life outside of his and you??re not dependent. A lot of women fail this test and the Capricorn male began to control the pace of the relationship. He may not ever tell you his feelings 4 a long time because he doesn't want to become vulnerable. They don't trust very well so they make it hard for women to get close. Don't look for verbal emotions just pay attention to their actions.
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My cap is the same way, he is not the verbal type in expressing how he feels about me but I know that he cares for me by the things he does for me. He usually can tell when I'm overwhelmed and he offers to help me. One thing I noticed about him is that he is very observant. He will say, your car need washing so he would detail/wash the car, cook for me,cut the grass, bringing me things I need for the house and to me at this time in my life right now I need a MAN like that. Sometimes its the small things that mean so much to me.
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Im not a Cap but I am Cancer with Capricorn or Aquarius rising, depends on the website. I been in a long distance relationships and close distance relationship with Caps.

My ex Cap was clingy when we were 2gether, if I wanted to go on a walk by myself or something by myself he would get upset. Caps are ardent when in love though. Once that akwardness of unsureness is gone and they want you as a their girlfriend potential wife....their ultra protective and always present in your life, no disappearing acts. Plus their not a hanging with the boys type a guy either, especially when they are more mature. They do it sometimes, thats neccessary for male bonding stuff but its not like a continuos rampant thing. They come right home back to you.

I dunno depends on the person but its great to be loved by a Cap guy especially when you guys understand certain things about each other and he truly loves you, my ex Cap loved me, that much I know, I was young & didnt see it. He does rather than say it, talk is really cheap, it what he does for you. Once I told him I wanted a DVD player just randomly, next day I had one. Caps show you they love you, rather than saying it. Her being long distance with him is cool, but physicality is important....and if they never met then might as well toss the idea of a long distance relationship out the window.

Trust me, Caps will do their best to be with you if they really loved you.

The close distance relationship was cool, he was handsome as all, hazel eyes, graduated from Morehouse, played baseball for Morehouse, very Southern from Bama, I was doing my little Rhianna hair style then, long bangs....before joined army. That relationship just kind of fizzled, he didn't want nothing serious and I just got out of horrid relationship with another hazel eye lying Sag DJ (but he was HOT, best sex ever so far)and met him randomly one day right in front of my ex Sag, I was young, lol, so I just flirted with Cap to make Sag jealous......so he was rebound guy and he kept on saying he didnt want anything serious but he became serious but I was aloof and rebounding. We had lots of fun together, young Atlanta college kids. Sooo much fun, lol. But I didnt get serious with him I think thats why we just got distant and it just ended but it was okay, bc he was on a different journey than I was on....so it ended amicable.

Caps fall in love too, and you will know it by what they do. I always attract Caps.....I can think of