How to bring a Capricorn back

I've been married to a Capricorn for 22 years. After running around with women and bad investments I asked him to separate for a while. That, I loved him but I needed a break from the relation. He didn't want to do it but, he agreed. Two months after he went back to his first wife and of course she took him back. Now he wants to get divorce to marry her and I'm loosing my mind. I loved him and don't know how to let go.I know that he loves me, but he feels obligated to her because his oldest daughter won't forgive him if he leaves her again. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.

You won't go out of your mind. I felt this way about someone a few years ago and guess what? I have my mind. The reason you feel like you are losing yourself is that you let your 'self' go in the relationship and did not hang on to your own 'identity'. What you need to do now is find some friends and family around you who will give you some support.

Bad capricorn bad capricorn get a new one we are not all like that. whate a min that sounds a lot like me were we ever married?

I know you feel that you still love your Mr. Cappy and sometimes no matter what a person does to someone and how bad they are to us, we just can't stop loving them (or think we can't!)......you are loving "very" unconditionally and he knows this and knows how to push your buttons....but I say to you....now it's time to put "conditions" on your love for this guy and your love of yourself. Sit down with a blank page and draw a line down the middle.....Good points on one side and bad points on other...be brutally honest with yourself....write down every last littlest "bad" thing he ever did to you and the times he broke your heart and made you cry...also be fair and write down all the littlest good things he has done for you and the times he made you happy and laugh....at the end of this exercise.....like it or not....I think your eyes will be opened and you will realize in your heart just what you have got to do.....sometimes we are "addicted" to a person rather than actually loving them - they are our drug - we get high or go low on them ......withdrawal from this person is really literally like withdrawal sysmptoms from a drug - so hard to do, so hard to go through but once done the world becomes beautiful and bright again and the person you were addicted to will never look or feel the same to you again - EVER!

Exceptionally well said, Alana 🙂 You have such a wonderful way with words!

Now, question of the day, They (society) seems to have "groups" for all types of addictions ie: drugs, sex, alcohol, stuttering, smoking?, is there one for being addicted to people? Where do we go? What shall we call it? We have all cases on the rung of the ladder but forgot about the peoples...I gotta go and find OZ!

could someone please explain true "love" to me then...because i really think it is a bit everything it's not supposed to be...desire, forgiveness, addiction, fun, rage, work, pleasure, dependency, passion, repulsion, openess, secrets, not giving up, etc, etc, etc.. unconditionally...
ya know "addicted to love" "love is the drug"
ok. so i think it is all those things, but there is an invisable line to the amount of those things that one should take to make a complete love. correct? who has determined what that line should be? I'm sorry for quoting songs but, i guess "you know you've gone too far, when the bullet hits the bone." and then, alas...it's too late.
but alana, i did like your response.
thanks.

Oh Pato, Pato, Pato......."true love" - you are asking the unfathomable there!!! For just as there are billions of people out there in the world, there are as many definitions of true love - as they see it or from their perspective.
I think what you say yourself is so true - it's a mixture of - "desire, forgiveness, addiction, fun, rage, work, pleasure, dependency, passion, repulsion, openess, secrets, not giving up, etc, etc, etc.. unconditionally..."
I remember a line from a soap opera that's shown over here in England and Ireland and it rang true for me at least!....in it there's a young man talking about his love for his lover to a wise old man.....the old man just listens as he talks and then the younger guy asks him..."Yes, but how do you really know when it's true love?"...The older guy says.....I've been a sailor for many years and had different girls in every port but I knew I was truly in love when that one certain girl would fall asleep in my arms and I knew I wanted her and only her there, no-one else!, asleep in my arms then and for every night in my life for the rest of my life....

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only a fool would want one back, go it alone.