How to let a Cappy Ladies lead the conversation?

Mood: Confused
Listening: Eminem - Stan (Explicit ver.)

Literally, i mean, wither having an actual conversation or just in facebook. This doesnt happen only to 1 girl, more like 90% of all the cappy ladies i knew(even the cappy on my prev. thread). Regardless to the situation, i still continued. I often start by making them smile. Then ask a few things, but they usually end up shortening up the conversation. like so:

{story. Location: School}
Me: hey! sup?
Her: *stares at me blankly*
Me: dude, what's you problem? You look like you woke up and the toilet was clogged or something?
Her: *giggles*
Me: so what you doing after class?
Her: *exhausting tone* nothing. Go home?
Me: Its still early! want to grab something? my treat.(I rarely treat. In this case, she felt needs one)
Her: Its okey...
Me: Seriously?
Her: yeah.
Me: okey.
Me: *I sits beside her, cautiously*
Her: *Dead Silent. Stares at blank space near door*
Me: *Stares at what shes staring, another buddy comes along and calls me out*
Me: Hey, I dont want you to look down k?
she: *nods, and smiles*
{The End}

That's what i usually I got from Cappy Ladies. Its kinda sad in my side really, or is it they just really dont like me? 😢
I just want to know them better. TBH... i like to with Pieces ladies because they're fun to be with. And i usually think about my cappy ladie friends cuz they're missing the fun 😢

Help me guys, how can i make some cappy ladies and friends start or even extend what they are talking if they dont open up much! They only come to me when they want something or need help. 😢

Just keep making small talk, joke around, etc. We are reserved and can be shy in the beginning until we feel you out and get to know you.

Posted by VitasXisto
Sounds to me like she doesn't like you. You need to cut through the bullshit, grow a pair, man up and get aggressive on her. oh let me guess? You don't want to jeopordize your friendship with her?

Holy fuck, I've been doing the opposite thing all the time. Jeopordize my friendship with her? She barely talks to me!?

Posted by VitasXisto
Only reason your friends with her to begin with, is because you want to fuck her/possibly date her. Is she so beautiful that it made your balls drop?

Fuck her? No.
Date her? possibly in the future.
Beautiful? your kidding right?
I just want to know her more. I just got a little bit concerned, thats all.

Posted by VitasXisto
Capricorn women respects and admires assertiveness in a man, they respect the masculine energy because their ruling planet is saturn which is a masculine planet.

Never thought about this. I just usually face to people, happy, kind, soft cotton candy like, holding back the true self in a thin line called: Sanity. But after reading your post, i feel like releasing my full fury and I'm willing to tackle anything in my way.

Posted by VitasXisto
Best approach is aggressive approach, if she rejects you not a big deal move on to the next target.

There's always the Pisces lady i'm always attracted to.

Posted by VitasXisto
Stop wasting time on childish bullshit and get to the point with her, obviously capricorns "mature" fast.

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*Listening: Downing Pool - Bodies*

I WILL!
one problem though... i'm having a hard time choosing how am i gona present to her:
1. Bully
2. Cocky
3. Jerk
or should i never use anything of these 3?

I Need advise in this department... I;m confused.


THANKS A LOT MAN! IT REALLY HELPED A LOT! i still need a little more explanation on how should i present myself to her. =/

Posted by TG
Sounds like you care enough to take time to try to make her laugh, and that's always attractive to a cap. I say keep doing what you??re doing. You doing great!

And fwiw, assertivness is a huge turn off.. *shrugs*
I want a submissive man. I give him money and cook for him, and he listens to me and makes me laugh. (oh... in a perfect world...lol)

Now I'm Confused @_@

Wither being a douche or my loving, concerned, type of character....

i think i can be both. But its gona take a hella time

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Thats the key, applying the right dose of BOTH at the right moments, knowing when to be hard and when to be soft, thats the key bullhead and it takes quite some time to master that, but dont panic..you'll get there 🙂

Its not that hard. Specially to a person like me that adjusting to certain situations and applying the right emotion or use of words, is gona be a breeze. But still i;m not perfect and maybe my Cappy Lady friends are the ones that can put me to the test 🙂

Posted by TG
Ok, I??ll be serious now. Tbh, I was just fooling around on this thread. I'm a lesbian

?_?_?_?

Posted by TG
but if I do decide to be with a man, I want an alphamale with lots of money and a huge house. Good luck! 🙂

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I'm working my way there. I have planned my future well, specially money, the only hindrance is to finish college.

Posted by VitasXisto
Epic wall of interesting and helful information.

I think this answers my last question. Man, i appreciate the time you spent on this and giving the last spect of detail that i should possibly look out for as so called "Red Flags". But, most of your advise i've already heard from other people. But in this case were in a specific topic to discuss and you did pin pointed some of the things that i have minor problems to, Specially what character i should portray. Copping up with it will be quite a breeze. I think i will probably settle with a relationship with a Cappy Lady when i'm done with college and have a stable job with a big home and the bills are payed weeks before due date.

I cant expand my reason more enough but rather Thank you for spending you time on helping me, its very helpful 🙂

aggressive and pushy turns me off

Posted by jules69
aggressive and pushy turns me off

Dont worry, I know, and I care. I adapt every easily. *hug's jules69*

What Jules said!

As for me, I want someone who can lead the conversation. I tend to stay in my own head and need someone to draw me out. In general, I listen much more so than talk.

I like someone that can lead the conversation. What I liked about a younger Taurus friend of mine was that he wasn't afraid to be himself and say whatever it was that was on his mind. Usually his thoughts were similar to mine, but he would say what I was afraid to, or put his own twist to it, which would make him hilarious. Capricorn women love to laugh and usually a Taurus being himself is enough to break down our walls. It still takes time, with some of us Cap ladies, but never be afraid to be any and everything you want around a Cap. My Taurus friend actually got me to go to a concert with him, and I hardly leave the house, so it pays to be aggressive with us.

^^insistent maybe the better word than aggressive!

Posted by CappyyLuv30
I prefer assertive over aggressive. No pushing or forcing just serious, slow and steady.

Yep. Aggressive was definitely the wrong word to use. I agree with assertive.

WOW, didnt expect this to reach 5 pages and 70 posts @_@

But seeing as it is that this thread reached an new record(for me), i might conclude that "breaking down Cappy Ladies Walls" is a slightly big issue. No problem, I'll be patient for her to open up and if that time will take so long then i hope that i will enjoy the ride. 🙂

Word of the day!:
Insistent - should have been the word "aggressive", but i'm aware of others feeling and i know if they like it or not. if not, then i change.

Persistent - never retreat, never surrender, only rest when i'm dead!

Assertive - (based on what i understand) Must have a valid argument and carefully construct without having to say anything offensive, with regards on how the other person feeling wither she take is as a compliment or a criticism. (and hope she doesn't take it as an insult)


Question for Cappy Ladies out there:
I;m having a hard time deciphering on how you show either with High walls(Hard to get) or Disgust. Since most of the time, your on silent mode, its hard to predict with only quick observation and words all alone. Its kinda stressful think of her saying in her mind "when will this creep leave me all alone"... 😢
or

Should i be bold and ask them if am i disturbing them or something? i dont want to be a nuisance 😢