how's things going greeneyegemini?

I've been following your post since this weekend (just found this site) I notice GEG hasn't posted since 9/16/05 when she and her cap man got back together. Just want to find out how things are going?

Hey GEG~ I say you're right and go with your intuition bc. it seems to me that he's very likely uncertain/fearful of the situation and circumstances surrounding it all- like what you said. I'm mean at the age of 21-22, becoming involved seriously into 2 young children's lives as well as yours is alot to commit to. I think he just stated it poorly when he said "didn't have the same feelings"- that was an easier, quicker way for him to deal with the situation, rather than try to verbalize what he's really going through. These guys, or men in general, are really poor communicators when it comes to feeling/emotions- I'm figuring this out more and more.

GEG, thanks for coming back and the update. I am sorry to hear that you are seeing your cappy anymore right now. You sound like you are ok with the breakup and have a positive attitude about your future. That's very good.

CapGirl gave some good comments too. Her comment that "while men in general, are really poor communicators when it comes to feeling/emotions..."

I agree 100% . I will add that while they may be poor communicators VERBALLY, they DO COMMUNICATE themselves well through their actions. Take a good look at his ACTIONS towards you. In my experience, GEG and CapGirl, that is a sure sign of how he feels about me.

Rachl2005, this is Cappie off the other site by the way...

GEG~ I'm 5 weeks into a disappearing act by my Cap., and I'm about done. I've gone from: (1) content (w/ giving space and time), to (2) understanding/patient, to (3) anticipating and expectant (of a call), to (4) hurt and confused, and am now at (5) pissed and annoyed. I can't see how I will be able to get away from the pissed and annoyed stage if he were to call or what the justification could ever be for agreeing and allowing myself to go back to "content" when I'll more than likely be put right back through phases 2-5 all over again. I'm looking to get to 😈 gone and never coming back, moved on! before he ever calls.

Sorry... bad day 😢

GEG~ I've mentioned it on here before... it's bridgettwalther.com/forum and then go to the Capricorn board. No offense to anyone here, but it's LOADS better as far as women commiserating over the Cap. male asanine behavior! You could occupy your whole weekend reading through these amazing threads-

He has pulled away... at least 3 times in a year. It's hard to say really bc. at least twice, I have told him off and said 'see ya' ~ and then other periods of no-contact, I wasn't even pursuing him and trying to draw him out. I just left him alone. Who the hell knows... I mean, one time, he called me after basically 2 months of not talking and I was out of town when he called and told him I'd call him when I got back. But then I didn't want to put myself out there for rejection so I just emailed him a short email to call me if he wanted to do drinks sometime. Nothing for 3 weeks that followed; then I texted him, ran into him, and text him again and then he starts responding. Bleh! I'm in a bad mood about these jerks right now, and could care less what it takes... I'm not chasing that scoundrel!!! He can sit in his hole of dirt. hehe

Yes you will get thru it GEG...I have faith in you. You sound like u know what needs to be done. I agree with you, just step back and try and move on. Whatever happens, it's whats meant to be. You will be fine. I know it's hard. It's so hard when u feel so much for them, and they just shut u out. These Cap men can move on from us even if they have the strongest feelings for us. They would walk away from love rather than going thru the process of telling us they love us. I don't see why these men are like that with their emotions, but they just are.

I wish you luck, and know we are here for you! I'm glad u have no urge of dating anyone. I didn't either after I first broke up with my cap. But then when I heard he was dating another (or going out w/a friend) then I was thinking it was truly over (well with a little hope in my head that it wasnt), but I went out with a guy, and I really enjoyed myself. It wasn't the same tho. You know it's not the same when ur with another guy, but all you can think about is ur cap.

GEG~ I'm sorry to learn of this bump in the road. I don't understand his anger...makes me think that he's mad at himself for being confused and conflicted? Sounds like you were being understanding, and that made him even angrier? He is SO young. I know everyone matures at a different speed, but Caps are late-bloomers in general. I didn't get married until I was 30. At 21, I wasn't even thinking of finding a spouse. Even at 24-25, I had no thoughts or worries of marriage, but I was also in law school. He must know or realize that you're at a different stage in life and want different things perhaps? I think he has feelings, strong feelings, but he's at a different place in life and this is what is causing him conflict. Is that the first you'd seen him in awhile (Dec. 23rd)?

GEG,

He will miss you. He will call you. Perhaps he said nothing to your cousin b/c he considers it his private business what goes on between you and him...

Pathfinder is right, he will miss u and he will call u. I never thought mine would, but he did. Remember, we are dealing with weird creatures here! But keep ur head up! Caps don't like to talk about things, especially when it comes to their personal lives, so that could be why he didn't say anything to ur cousin.

GEG,

Until he tells YOU that (he wants you "completely out of his life"), don't believe your cousin. Keep your relationship with him out of your conversations with her.

GEG,

girl I know u want to know...but we never know until it happens. I was at one point where u r and I know it's hard always wondering when/if you will hear from them again. Mine unexpectedly called me and he had told me it was time to move on with my life. I was crushed, needless to say. But I knew in my heart that he would be back. But when he came back, I was better. I was ready to face him and not let him back in easily. See they are just scared, scared when they feel something for someone that they'd rather be not scared by turning away then facing it.They regret leaving and come back once they aren't scared anymore. It's just a process they go thru. I'm learning more about these guys day by day.

U can vent to us all you want. As I've said I know what ur going thru. And pathfinder is right, keep ur relationship between u and him, not ur cousin. And don't go asking ur cousin and trying to get the scoop from her. it will only make matters worse, believe me.