I think I lost my capi??

I know I have posted before.. And this will be my last post on the subject but I have one last question.
My capi had been distant the whole time she was away on holidays interstate. I knew something was up but I tried to give her space as she was busy with family and friends.
When she returned home she was still quite distant. I didn't mention catching up straight away bc I knew she would be tired from all that travelling. Anyway 5 days ago I casually mentioned (via txt) how her trip was and then said that I bet she wants to move back to where her family is. She said no but that she does want to move interstate. That she was going to do it.
I spoke of my admiration for her following her dreams, etc. I knew she wasn't happy living here. However I wasn't expecting to break up.
When she said she needed to follow her dreams, that the only thing keeping her here was me.. Basically that wasn't enough. I admit I was upset but not overly surprised. She's ambitious and her family comes first. But I was starting to fall for her. I told her I needed time to digest this info. That we should meet up in person to talk. She said there was nothing left to talk about. She made up her mind. I asked her if this means we are breaking up. She says she doesn't want to but she is going to move and she knows how I feel about long distance.
I asked her why she wants to be with me? She said bc she likes me.
I said, well as nice as that is, like is not enough for me to decide to move interstate.. Etc.
She then tells me she doesn't want me to move or expects it. That it's too soon for that so early in our relationship, and she knows I'm not financially ready. That basically her moving would result in breaking up.
This was several days ago and I've given her space since then bc she got upset at me when I mentioned how upset I was, I believe she thought I was accusing her of not having feelings although I said no such thing.
So yesterday she randomly messages me thanking me for giving her space as she was upset about the way I spoke to her even though she wasn't sure whether it was valid. I asked again when she was leaving and that we should catch up and she only responded that it was before the end of the year.. Didn't mention the catching up.
I'm just sort of baffled by how this all went down via text and that she won't see me. Either she actually doesn't like me and her moving was an excuse to break up or.. Well I don't know. Maybe I'm blinded by love.. But this

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Sorry to hear this😢

Have you both said the Love word,..and how long have you been together?

Posted by champranger
Outta sight, outta mind. She likes you, she doesn't see a future between you two, and that's why she doesn't want to see you. 😢

You are probably right but that is quite possibly the rudest thing I've ever been involved in and I'm certainly no angel.

Posted by SunMoonStars
Sorry to hear this😢

Have you both said the Love word,..and how long have you been together?

No.. It's only been 4 months. Dating for 3. I said I was falling for her after she said she was leaving. I wasn't expecting her to stay however I did think we would actually meet up and have a proper face to face convo instead of this texting business. I think that's what annoys me most. I find it easier to move on that way.
Funny thing is, I actually have always planned to move to the same state she's going.. Just had no immediate plans. But now even if I tell her she's going to think I'm only doing it for her so I haven't bothered.

Posted by Jamjam

Posted by SunMoonStars
Sorry to hear this😢

Have you both said the Love word,..and how long have you been together?

No.. It's only been 4 months. Dating for 3. I said I was falling for her after she said she was leaving. I wasn't expecting her to stay however I did think we would actually meet up and have a proper face to face convo instead of this texting business. I think that's what annoys me most. I find it easier to move on that way.
Funny thing is, I actually have always planned to move to the same state she's going.. Just had no immediate plans. But now even if I tell her she's going to think I'm only doing it for her so I haven't bothered.

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She probably thinks you saying you were falling for her is more a manipulation tactic to get her to stay.

And yes, she will think you followed her if you move to that state now and she'll get that "icky" feeling.

She keeps it to texting to put (and keep) distance between you on purpose. Makes it easier when she leaves.

Well she can think what she likes I suppose. I'm going to do what's best for me. Thank you though. I've actually never met such an inconsiderate person. Breaking up via text.. Refusing to see someone.. It's actually downright rude and disrespectful. People talk of wanting to be respected.
She has talked of this.. How the hell is that being respectful I will never understand.
My moving has nothing to do with her. Quite frankly, I hope I do not see her around when I do move however its what I've wanted to do.

Jamjam, good for you for moving on!
I know how cold and harsh Caps can seem sometimes, find yourself a sweeter sign 🙂