In need of advice with a Capricorn woman please

So here is the story...in brief:

I kissed a Capricorn girl two weekened ago and it was magic. I think she couldn't correspond at the time because her friend liked me and was on her way to meet us both. I am pretty sure about this now after putting some pieces together.

She herself stopped me while kissing her and said "I can't do this" and then asked if her friend was coming soon. I was clueless up to that time so I just thought she was just shutting me down, but I can tell now after remembering that night that she felt the connection as much as I did and she was just trying to be a good friend.

It wasn't anyone's fault, because I had not clue that her friend liked me either, since her friends had always talked about other people with me.

Her friend complained about about it the very next day, because the cappy girl probably in an act of loyalty told her what had happened. I felt bad because up until then I thought I did something to make the cappy girl feel uncomfortable...but I think she was just trying to be a good friend.

Anyway, because her friend complained about it publicly and since I hadn't heard from this cappy girls in 2 days (she knew how to reach me) I rushed into defining a relationship with this other girl I was talking to.

The cappy girl finally reconnected around the same time I had just defined my new relationship.

I wish she could know why I did it, where I was coming from, and how that moment had an impact on me.

I sent her a message to see if she wanted to hang out (this is after she knew I was now in a relatioship) and she said she would get back to me...then one random night I went out with my buddies and sent her a message again while being a bit buzzed and apologized the next day briefly. My messages have always been briefly to her, but I have made the attempt to communicate. She hasn't yet and I wonder if at this point everything is lost and if I should keep on waiting...or if I should send her a message to let her know how I feel.

I just started this relationship with this other girl few days ago. Even if the cappy lady and I couldn't be together right now (she also just ended a LTR) I just wish she could know the truth about that time.

Should I stay silent and wait or should I say something at this point? I just don't want her to leave off my life without knowing the truth so that we can at least remain friends.

dono about others, but i am Never interested in men who are in relationships or interested in someone else. It's not my scene! you are going about this in all the wrong way.

thanks zj2000 and morningmist29.

basically, i felt at the time that i did the wrong thing by kissing her, not on my end, but because she had to stop me. now i know that it was probably because her friend was on our way to meet us. i should have said something then, but i took it for what it was, so i feel a bit embarrased and we waited for her friend, but the whole time i could tell that she felt the way i did, now i just realize that.

once we all left, i was hoping that she would contact me the next day or the day after (she knew how to), but instead the very next day i hear her friend complain publicly about how crazy it was that i did that (obviously she was hurt, but i didn't know that she even liked me up to that point). so it pushed me back. i thought i was the guy in the movies you know, even though up to that point we were ALL single. i just think its the drama of the friendship they have that came in between and they are not even super close friend, its just that the girl needs friends at this point because she is coming out of a 2 year relationship and had just moved here.

so logically i added all these facts: she just ended a LTR, she told her friend about the kiss right away (why? i dont know), her friend complained and was mad about which probably held the girl back, the girl never contacted me in 2 days even though she knew how to = maybe i should just forget it about it, get over it, and move on with my life.

two days after i meet a friend who has done nothing but be good to me since i moved to this city as well. we had started going on few dates, but very simple dates, not kisses or anything, just enjoying each others' company. that night she brings up her feelings to the table and tells me that she doesn't like dating multiple people and that we should talk about where this was heading because she didn't want to mess up the relationship.

part me of me wanted to say nooo, wait, i met someone recently and i felt this thing, but the other part of me was thinking "you are silly, here is an awesome girl who is putting all her cards in the table, is beautiful and good, and the other girl hasn' even made an attempt to reach you in 2 days and clearly will defend her friendship with that other girl that likes you more than her own feelings anyways, what are you doing?!"

so same as in shaka's question i guess, but in the opposite direction.

so i said let's do this. i know it sounds crazy, but i honestly thought the chemistry i felt for the cappy girl had all these blocks that didnt seem to bother her. i guess i am used to girls being more proactive when they feel the connection i do, even if its simply by sending a message, but since she didn't i summed up all the facts and went with the choice that seemed more logical.

cappy girl then decide to become my friend in my page the day after or so. she probably saw what had happened just recently. she said nothing.

i sent her a short, but nice message, just apologizing about my behavior over the weekend.

she said nothing for few days, then i sent her another message being more direct about it and saying that if we could be friends, id be open for meeting up briefly sometime. she said nothing.

then eventually replied saying she had some friends in town and that she will write back soon. in the message she told me not to worry about the weekend and that my first message was sweet.

she didnt' write anything after that and the weekend arrived, her friend was probably gone by then.

to make things more complicated, i get out with my buddies that weekend and send her a random message, nothing bad, but i shouldn't have done that. i apologize the next day about it and said i hope her day is well. of course, she says nothing (as typical) until now.

she has no idea of my thoughts or does she? should i ever tell her anything at all? i am not planning to have anything on the side or anything like that, but i guess i want her to understand what happend that night, to at least know, in case things would ever change in the future or simply perhaps to just remain in touch as friends. but am i just hoping for too much? even though i sent her two messages to apologize for things, i never explained what really happened and what went throug my mind.

would that help in any way? i just want to stay connected.

Yeah I agree about clearing the air, that's what I've been wanting to do, but so far she's been just cordial and a bit distant. Cappy girls are so hard to read, they dont allow themselves to just think of themselves sometimes it seems.

I would totally see her right now or anytime, the problem is, I dont have her number. I gave her mine in a message, so everything had been over our pages this far. I never asked hers that night, because at the beginning I was just getting to know her and towards the end, her friend was always around so I didnt want any drama.

Also, I am not usually the "in-your-face" kinda person. So, I just didnt want to pressure her into anything further unless I would hear from her.

I like her. I wish we could be more than friends, but realistically speaking, she seems very guarded, and on top of that I just started this new defined situation, I just wish we could at least be friends, not that it is all that I ever want, but it would at least allow me to see her once in a while.

I just wonder if cappy woman are friends with someone they like who is in a relationship though.

Tha's why I was wondering if I should send her a messages explaining at least the main parts to know that at least she knows I felt that too and that even though circumstances are different now, I do hope that we get the chance to hang out again.

At this point I could confess some things and take a risk to lose her more OR I can play it cool and just never tell her and work on becoming her friend you know? The real reasons are just so stay in her life and let her stay in mine even if we would see each other months from now or one more time long time from now. I know this sounds kinda lame, but when I feel connections like this, I dont mind waiting or just being a friend at the very least, just because I do care to know how that person is doing.

thansk tooserious, cappyluv, and shaks. i agree with what was said. i never dated a cappricorn girl so im just getting to know them better. it sucks because this is not the first time i feel a connection with a cappy girl...its like a ping pong game. if i were more aggresive or direct with my feelings i had better skills at following through probably it would be easier.

the problem i have found with the cappy girls i met, such as this one, is timing. they always seem to appear slowly once i am about to do something else...as if they were this hidden surprise that just pops in and i dont know what to do with that. this one cappy though, i really liked her, she wasnt just sweet but she has a little edgy side in her that i dig, she keeps it inside, but i know its there. too bad she was so worried for her friend. i think she should have just responded freely to her emotions too, then it would have given me reassurance right then, as opposed once i gathered all the facts.

i dont have second plans or back up plans. i dont like that. this is more like a case of an unpredictable attraction. i rescued her from a bunch of guys and i myself got away from a bunch of crazy girls. i went to her and got her out of the place, we held hands perfectly, and we had felt this connection throughtout the night. it was as if we were a couple for those few minutes and we were okay with that and happy.

i took a chance to kiss her outside because i felt like it was what should follow, just to let her know what was going on. and again we were all single at this point.

she stopped me at some point and kept on asking about her friend. "that" along with her silence for 2 days, plus my friend wanting to define things, and just other concerns i had made me, logically, take a chance with the girl i am seeing now. i thought cappy girl forgot about me the very next day and maybe she did, idk. all this happened just few weeks ago.

maybe is worthless to say something at this point. i just wish she could know one day that the feeling was real, not a whatever thing, and that if we would have a chance again things could be different, but maybe it is pointless. i agree with talking in person. she just hasnt done anything to reach me back besides responding to my message once. she has my number. i know the fact that i am in a relationship, as of few days now might intimidate her a bit, but there is no way for me to see her or talk to her if she doesn't respond.

What is your sign?

Cappies usually tend to move slow. I actually understand the actions of both of you, however, I think it may be tough to explain why you did what you did to her. More than anything, Cappies sometimes want to feel that a guy will go to great lengths to have and keep her, and that she won't be so easily replaceable. I wish you could have come on here before moving on.

If a cappy feels attracted to someone, she will never forget that. Never ever. But if she finds out that you are a dishonest jerk who goes after every smiling chick, she will see you and your memory as only waste of time.