Is it true that caps....

Is it true that caps have like a cold, unsensitive, personality? Are they crude with their jokes, and have like a sick sense of humor? Above all this, can they still love while being this way to people or the person they are with? Do they tell you things like "you look aweful" while handing you a rose? Just wondering.

^Haha^ Nice!!

Thanks, M! Got it.

Caps will be blunt when we feel the need to be *shrugs* it's nothing against you, it's our nature. Unlike some other signs (e.g., Virgo) we don't necessarily see it is as a bad thing that needs to necessarily be corrected/changed, we see it for what it is. And, it's ok! It's all ok!! We will love you for you as a person. Hence, we will tell you that look awful and hand you a rose.

We love beyond the superficial, that's my point!!!

My personal experience with Capricorn men I have been involved with is that they would find fault with a woman's appearance IF that woman couldn't hear them. Someone on the television or crossing the street as they were driving.

I never once experienced them saying anything negative about my own appearance - but I think that was more because they had chosen to be with me and so putting me down would reflect badly on their superior choosing abilities and so they didn't go there.


Superior choosing abilities made me laugh as I was typing it!

As a cap woman, yes we can come across as cold/insensitive (until you get to know us) - we're cool, calm & collected on the outside - we don't get overly emotional (at least - not on the outside), so people mistake that for us being cold - believe me though, we feel things very deeply inside - and we're always handy in times of crises as we keep a level head while everyone else is reacting to whatever has happened (eg: car crash I was involved in - not a major one, but there were 4 others in the car with me, 2 girls screaming/crying hysterically - I helped calm them down and checked that everyone was ok before I even thought about what had happened).

Hmmm on occassion I can be crude with my humour (never crass or off-key - it's just a warped sense of humour). Agree totally with QuietStOrm - I love to be playful/childish with my partner (my ex-hubby, a pisces, and I use to have a lot of fun just being silly with each other, use to wrestle each other too, we'd joke it was part of our mating game lol - but he knew how to bring out my inner child lol) - we love people who can make us laugh and help us see the lighter side of life!

Also agree with lildol - we love our partner for "who" they are - we don't want to change them - we've accepted them flaws and all (just as we realise we have our own, and want to be accepted for who "we" are as well).

Lol - I might jokingly say something like that to a friend or partner - but they'd know there was no mallice intended, just me being me (re the comment & handing them a rose)

@the cold and insensitive part.

Something must be true about it because I keep running into guys that try to get reactions out of me, and it spiraled out of control before to the point where I've had to cut one completely out of my life. A few months ago this same guy wrote me a message about how he still thinks of me and misses me and it won't go away. He was only a friend!

My taurus friend is starting to do the same weird stuff that my other guy friend did and I don't want to ever cut the taurus out but I will if I have to.

Its like I'm not getting something, and completely unaware of some type of emotion they are trying to express or something, which is scary as I'd like to think I'm sensitive enough to know when something is going on, as I guess I do, I just don't know what it is or what these guys want. I always knew I would be a horrible girlfriend, which is why I don't date much, but goodness. I can't seem to even maintain friendships either. *sigh*

Just venting

Posted by paranormalbadgirl
Is it true that caps have like a cold, unsensitive, personality? Are they crude with their jokes, and have like a sick sense of humor? Above all this, can they still love while being this way to people or the person they are with? Do they tell you things like "you look aweful" while handing you a rose? Just wondering.

you just described my sister to a T. HA. fuckin love her

Posted by Chance11
we can be insensitive and cold when someone either tries to play us and we see right through it, underestimates us, or tries to project their issues on us..especially if it's a behavior that consistently reoccurs.

Sooo true - have just had to do this today with an ex - he gave me no other choice. I have always been able to part as friends with exes (regardless who did the breaking up). He has see-sawed back and forth so many times, tried maing me feel guilty, manipulating me etc - that I've just cut him off cold now.

Also had to do this with a fellow cap man who had some weird obsession with me - would never take no for an answer, he was stalkerish - I'd never led him on, told him straight that we'd only ever be friends - then he'd try to throw it back at me. Tried to manipulated and lie to mutual friends about me, (but they were aware of the situation, so I'd hear back from them what was going on). This was probably one of the hardest situations I've ever had to deal with, and in the end had to bring out the blunt, cold, insensitive cap in me (which I hate doing) in order for him to get the hint! Totally draining experience :-/

Absolutely! I honestly hate bringing that side of my nature out - it's hidden and only used as a last resort!

I hate controlling natures (I know we're meant to be a "controlling" sign - but it's only us and our environment we control - never anyone else - as you said, we mind our own business!) but the ex (and the stalker friend) both showed their controlling sides and manipulative behaviours one too many times... it hurt like buggery cutting them both off cold like that, but they asked for it... wish I didn't have to resort to it, but such is life I guess.

*SIGH*

Well, I guess this is the beginning of the end for my Taurus friend and I. I saw on facebook that he just added this Cancer girl, who I was threatened by, to his friend-list so I believe he's indirectly letting me know that he's moving on.

Although we were only friends, he asked me a few weeks ago if I really liked him and I admitted that I did, and he admitted the same. It was just that I couldn't move past our age difference and I told him that. Since he is interested in more than a friendship, I'm sure he will feel there's no need to entertain me anymore, especially not if there's an interest from this girl, who I really feel he's more compatible with. Even if he does try to come back around(we got into it the other day), I honestly think it's time to let him go.

It's bittersweet. This is the second/third time he's done something to try to make me jealous, and I'll admit the first time was very stressful, as I have very complex feelings about him or "us", but I understand he's young and wants a relationship, plus he's a really affectionate guy and I'm not giving him what he needs by being so close yet so far away. I think moving on is best for him, although it sucks for me.

But for real, No more male friends EVER!!! This is really it. The Capricorn is my ride and die, and although we went through the same thing, we grew too close to ever part. Wish the Taurus and I could have done the same. *sheds tear, pours liquor, and sighs again*

just venting, again

Posted by lnana04
*SIGH*

Well, I guess this is the beginning of the end for my Taurus friend and I. I saw on facebook that he just added this Cancer girl, who I was threatened by, to his friend-list so I believe he's indirectly letting me know that he's moving on.

Although we were only friends, he asked me a few weeks ago if I really liked him and I admitted that I did, and he admitted the same. It was just that I couldn't move past our age difference and I told him that. Since he is interested in more than a friendship, I'm sure he will feel there's no need to entertain me anymore, especially not if there's an interest from this girl, who I really feel he's more compatible with. Even if he does try to come back around(we got into it the other day), I honestly think it's time to let him go.

It's bittersweet. This is the second/third time he's done something to try to make me jealous, and I'll admit the first time was very stressful, as I have very complex feelings about him or "us", but I understand he's young and wants a relationship, plus he's a really affectionate guy and I'm not giving him what he needs by being so close yet so far away. I think moving on is best for him, although it sucks for me.

But for real, No more male friends EVER!!! This is really it. The Capricorn is my ride and die, and although we went through the same thing, we grew too close to ever part. Wish the Taurus and I could have done the same. *sheds tear, pours liquor, and sighs again*

just venting, again

Bummer!! I really had my fingers crossed that he'd have the patience to stick around till you opened up completely to him and the idea of you and him together.. Taurus don't invest in someone emotionally just for the sake of it. So when you say 'No'. No is no.. We also are one of the ones that play less games, So I'm sure he took what you said at face value..

I'm sorry to hear that you never got past the age technicality.. I think really it was just there as a fall safe, Or excuse to hold him at arms length while you still weighted whether or not he was a safe investment..

You say you think the cancer is his better match.. Wouldn't that be his call?? To me, if I remember right, cancer has been around almost as long as you have. Showing interest in the Taurus just as long as well. Yet from what I know all the energy of a single man was directed solely at you, and not u

- Yet from what I know all the energy of a single man was directed solely at you, and not until you said no was he just now beginning to entertain her to the point of adding her.. Seems to me he had made his choice who was the better fit for him, seems to me the cancer is very much a 'runner up' or his second choice.. Sure I understand self preservation mechanisms drive a thought like that though..

Holding him at arms length, did that serve to test how much he wanted to be with you, how hard he'd fight for you, how well he'd stick by your side.. At some point I think we all test to varying degrees the ones we start emotionally investing in to know that our investments aren't a waste.. And because of our self preservation mechanisms.. The down side to testing is its almost always a stacked deck.. And most often we go into it thinking, oh he/she is going to react this way.. My dad use to always say.. "Test someone enough, and they'll almost always at some point fail" I think that's along the lines of the "Go to the game thinking you'll lose, and you'll most likely get what you expect" saying..


In the end I sorry to hear that things have reached this point. One, because I totally dig you cap ladies, And think more of us taur guys should experience that bad ass cap/taur bond and mind reading that I have.. haha.. But more over because despite your hesitations. I got that feeling that you both really felt at home with the other..


Chin up though... I'd bust you a fatty hug lol.... Ohh, and pour my Irish ass one too.. 😉

Hey TaurGuy!

Yeah, it seems the Cancer girl, of ALL girls, is back in the picture. He always acted a bit weird around her, weird in an intense way, like there was a lot of sexual attraction there. Of course he was around me more, because I was his comfort zone, but I feel that if he had the courage and she gave him the green light I would have definitely been the runner up. There were times he would leave work without even telling me bye, in such a hurry to walk out with her, I feel. That's wasn't a good feeling. I think the only thing that made him fall back from inching closer to her was the fact that she had a child.

Despite that though, I always knew he liked me, and I've ALWAYS let him know that he was just too young. Two weeks ago when he finally asked if I really liked him I said yeah, but that I probably would never get past our age difference. I went a bit more into detail, and he goes "Oh, so its you that have a problem with my age and dating someone younger?" I was like YEAH! I've been telling you this the whole time! It was like it just registered to him, which I thought was extremely weird and its obviously been part of the confusion.

And I wouldn't say that I was testing him, it's just a lot of mixed feelings. I don't want my first real relationship to be with someone 7 1/2 yrs younger than I am, plus deep down, there is no real trust as he always seems to have a plan B. More than testing it would simply be me wanting my cake and eating it too. I want him around and I'm a bit possessive of him, yet I can't get past a certain point within, so it's most definitely keeping him at arms length. It all sounds confusing because my feelings are confusing, which is more reason to let it go. It's not fair to him nor myself. I would love to continue our friendship, but I don't think he's at a point where he can have someone else without wanting to flaunt it, or make me hurt in the process, so we both gotta move on.

I agree though that every Cappie should experience a Taurus and vice versa. Ya know I told you before, this was my third time being around a Taurus and I've fallen a little for all of them in some way. If we could just get past a certain point things would be close to perfection. I'm sure me and this Taurus will talk again, I'm just mad right now, but I'm not sure if things will be the same.

I was hanging with my new cap the other night and he got really drunk. He told me certain things while drunk that were sentimental, emotional,etc. When he was sober, he said he didnt remember what he said to me. This probably goes for everyone who gets drunk, but do you think that being drunk he let his guard down? Said what he truly felt? Because when he was sober he was logical.