Like my brother's good cap friend

Hi I'm new to this and I'm a gemini. I've just moved back to my home town and a away from my four year relationship with a Libra. I still care for my Libra, but not in the same way. I was partying with my brother and his friends when I first got back and there was this capricorn that seemed to be by my side all night. He was very sweet and we were all very drunk of course. Well low and behold we ended up messing around with eachother. We would talk a lot when he was over, but never by phone. The hard part is that we have both expressed the fact that we really like eachother and we have so much in common. He even went as far as to say that he had the feeling that we were the same type of person sometimes, like we thought alike and all of that. He told me he could see a relationship with me, but that he didn't want one right now (he just got out of a serious relationship as well where she dumped him for his best friend, fyi). Then the last couple of times we've partied together he has kept telling me that he likes me a lot and respects me a lot, which is fine, but why say that? Every time we start to get physical now he stops himself; don't understand that either. Now my brother knows that we like eachother, but he hasn't said anything to the cap about it, but everyone knows. It's only when we're drunk that we can truely show something, whatever that something may be. His brother told me that if I liked him I had to pursue him. I don't think that's fair. And I've pretty much been the one to text him and make the first move with communication. For the most part he always answers back and we've had one phone conversation that lasted two hours about life and all of that. I guess I just need to know where this capricorn is wanting to go with this. Now he and my brother are planning to move in together. What's going to happen?

I know. I read a lot of your messages on here and it's so familiar. I spoke with one of my other friends and he thinks a huge part of it is my brother. If he starts something with me full on then what if something bad happens and my brother is in the middle. That sort of thing. I kind of can see where he's coming from on that. I'm just not the most patient person in the world. haha. 🙂 As we all know of geminis. Another friend of mine said that when he said "I really respect you" that was a cop out. It's probably best not to get advice from the pessimists in my life though, huh? Oh by the way...I do know that he is a capricorn with an aries moon and an aquarius venus. I haven't found out his rising sign. He thinks his time was 4:00 am, which would make him a Scorpio rising I believe and that's scary. haha. Scorpios are so secretive. I am a Gemini with Cancer rising, cancer moon, and gemini venus. But I don't feel quite as moody as some people place cancers.

Oh I almost forgot...he was dating a girl for two months in between us being physical. He was only seeing her and he told me that he just recently decided to be friends with her because they have nothing in common and she doesn't ever laugh with him. (we laugh all of the time together) There is a "friend" he calls her as well and he only mentioned her once that she talks a lot and goes from subject to subject, but is very nice. So I don't really know how many other girls he's got, but my brother was up front with me and told me that everything he said was true. Capricorns...are so adorably infuriating. I do have a bit of a jealous and competitive streak when it comes to other girls. I try not to show it though...it just festers. We've only slept together three times. The second time he was so passionate it kind of scared me a bit because I didn't know if he was like that with everyone. The third time he was very careful and stand-offish about it, but only worried about pleasing me. Now nothing at all. I wish it hadn't started off so casual.

haha...then you know exactly how I feel. 😉 It's like I'm all stormy on the inside. I'm so uncomfortable still when we're around my brother. Actually we're both like that around eachother. Actually it might be pissing him off and he may not understand it. Because I crab up. When any other friends walk through the door I say HI!, but when he comes in it's like we give eachother the secret wave hello with wierd smiles. Isn't that wierd? I don't know how to lighten it up. He was straying from the group to be near me the other night and every time that he did that they would say, "Hey come here" and he'd leave. I don't know what that's all about. It's like he wanted to be near me, but he wasn't really talking.

funny thing about me is that I don't get too clingy unless the guy is challenging me or if I start to get more serious with him. I really had to control that in my last relationship. I usually don't fall very easy either because I'm afraid of losing myself and getting hurt. I have a feeling that he is really scared of me as well. I don't know how to talk to him about it because he hasn't answered my texts from yesterday and usually he's really good about that. But then again..here I go analyzing again. I know he was partying last night and he probably had to go to work today. So I can't be too mad. But was he with another girl last night? hmmm...can't be mad about that either..because we have no label. hahaha

LOL. Yeah I get very stormy in the head when I see him talking to other girls. It's amazing how I keep my composure. The Taurus part is good for Caps though. You're lucky you have that. I went out with my Scorpio guy friend last night and he told me that he honestly thinks it's really my brother that's in the way. He also said that the reason that we're both acting wierd around eachother is probably because of the situation and maybe because I talk to everyone and not just him he's taking it as me being a flirt and not being serious about liking him. I don't know caps that well as far as that goes. I thought they didn't get jealous.