Lonliness

Is it just me or are we Caps just natural born loners—

I mean, my whole life, I've always been something of a loner, but maybe it's just me. Anyone else out there feel the same?

I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I'm just saying that maybe that feeling of lonliness is just something I should get accustomed to for the rest of my life.

Dear 63,

I do not think that anyone is a "born loner"...I think you can "choose" to be one if you so desire just as you can choose to particpate in life if you desire. Are you waiting for people to come to you? Instead, if this is the case, reach out to others, give away your love without expecting anything in return. You will feel so good just doing nice things for others. You will no longer feel lonely.

Hope this helps...remember, your life is created by you and only you and your choices.

Have fun giving away the unique parts of YOU! 🙂

no no no....

don't misunderstand. alot of people view being a loner as a negative thing. i've never had a problem with it, just something i've gotten used to over the years. I'm just wondering if this is a common trait amongst us Capricorns. I'm wondering if we are content to be by ourselves most of the time. Because, I know I am. But then again, maybe this is just me.

As a Cap, I can definitely relate. I am more content to be alone but I'm not lonely as I have a few good friends that i can reach out to (and vice versa). Throughout my youth, I was (in some ways I still am) shy and reserved: a part of my characteristic nature.
Yes there are times I do wish I had the ability to be as social as other people seem to be, comfortably. I've tried doing that at social events but I've felt uneasy-it just isn't me. At those times I've felt as if I was trying hard to be something I'm not.
So.. these days, I just do what feels natural to me. C'est la vie!

cap in saturn here. the older i get the more i want to be with somebody to share life with. i don't want someone to be always dogging my every move, but i do like having someone around. i am not alone but i am lonely! should be the other way around, but this is not so!

I strongly related to this topic. Although I have had a few friends throughout my life, I am doing best when alone. Even family member know I need my space, a lot of the time. When I am done I may relate to other at my own 'pace'. True I feel shy a lot of the times, but having one other friend is all I need to 'open up', and if that friend turns me down, I tend to withdraw into my inner sancuary. It is not bad at all. I feel more in control of myself and my environment this way. Sometimes I wonder what people socialize about...! All the answers are inside oneself. However, very few times, I wish I had another close 'soul' to share some lower moments, or 'shoulder' to cry on, without being judged.

Oh, and I wouldn't call this trait Loneliness though, but rather ....Aloneness. See the difference?

I have always enjoyed being alone, getting on with things and depending on no-one but myself. I would never have described myself as lonely well not until recently. I met and fell in love with a scorpio a year ago (we are not together) and since have felt a great void in my life. I still enjoy doing certain tasks on my own, still enjoy my own space type of thing but since that relationship have never felt whole again. Yes now I do get lonely and long for someone speical to share things with (even things which I enjoy doing myself I am willing to share with someone special). So what am saying is yes cap do like to close the door and do things by themselves but I think once touched deeply it shows how lonely we might have been over the years and there aint no going back to wanting to be alone!

i was not lonly as a kid, but now that i am older i think i prefer to be alone,
i still like to have lots of friends, at the moment i don't, i miss them.

145, I don't know how old you are but your message touched my heart to the core. Like you I have had my 'lonelier' moments after breakups and they were many , I tell you , but since I have gone off relationships completely for quite some time now, due to age, other responsibilities, and mind shift, and other stuff, I find my own 'aloneness' a blessing.

Thank you all for responding and sharing your stories with me. It's nice to know that there's other people that can relate.
I especially like the "aloneness" comment. That really does define the situation better because I've always felt funny saying that I was lonely.
"Lonely" has such a sad connotation attached to it, like it gives one the impression of being depressed or in a sad state due to lack of social stimulation and contact. I always used it more as a simple adjective, lonely: the state of being alone or by one's self all of the time.
I'm actually very content socially, though, lord knows I'm not the "butterfly". I just thought I might share some of this with you all in hopes that maybe there was someone else out there that knew what I was talking about.

It does seem to be a common trait, Cappies all seem to need their 'alone time', to retreat into their own world. But the ones that seem to be the happiest are those that find the right balance, where they are extremely social and fun when they are out, but have a private place to go to. I have always felt uncomfortable in 'party' situations as I can only really let myself go when around people I am very comfortable with. I was always fine with this and content with my own company, until I had a relationship. Then when it ended I felt a huge void - even though I didn't want to be joined at the hip, I miss the intimacy and the sharing. Now I know what I am missing I want it again, I am sick of being alone even though it does seem to be a life theme. I have a lot of friends that love me but I want someone special. I have high standards though, I can't settle for a mundane relationship with someone who doesn't inspire me, I would rather just fantasise.

I am an Aries sun with a Cappy moon. I feel the same way. My alone time is so very important to me. I need my freedom to be me and to just get up and go and do. I love the sharing and intimacy of relationships, all kinds. I know that I am by no means ready to be with ONE person yet but do enjoy the variety of friends that I share life with. My time will come and I know that I will know when it will be time to "settle" down (whatever that means). For now however, everyday is a big surprise! By reading these posts, I see a lot of cappy traits in me...ohhh fire and earth! I am feeling the earth move......

Feel this!

I'm a Saturn (time) in Cappy so I can definitely relate. Hey I hear Cappys will be in great form in all areas of life after Sept.? Can anyone verify this?

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Yes, in if you believe this, how about you and I meeting in Las Vegas. Maybe we can get lucky there too! I think I even read I should bet on certain numbers. I never gamble when it comes to my personal life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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were did you read that cappies will be happier after sept. I think I could do with some form of hope no matter how little. Personnaly I have started to think on the positive side - been afraid to make that final jump and leave the bad in the past behind but well after 1 year and 4 months of take told crap and still trying to play fair I have had enough. Applied for a new job, have sold house and am out looking for a new one (but going to get one this time no holding back) and have decided I want to be happy and am not going to let people bring me down anymore. I want to live and I want a life!

Yeah 145!!!!! You are so right...it is YOUR life and YOU can make of it what YOU desire,...go ahead, you have all the tools you need to create the picture of your life...after all, who else can do a better job than yourself? You are the only one that knows what you need and what makes you happy....I'm with you!

Gotta go and create a great day today...see ya! 🙂

Hey #145 it sounds like by the time you're done it'll be way after Sept. and it definitely sounds like you're on YOUR WAY TO HAPPINESS!

Planetary influences state that after Sept. (the Fall months) Cappies and all earth signs will be breathing easier! Don't let fear hold you back. Remember that fear and faith in yourself CAN NOT co-exist. And it takes faith in ourselves to make ourselves happy! Sounds like you've found your "map"!

Follow your heart 145. Pretty much what #24 said. Life is only as hard as we make it or want it to be. Life is actually quite simple...THINK POSITIVE, HAVE FAITH, FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND LIVE IT! This to me just has to be the secret?! Remember we alone create our reality. So it's going to be what ever WE WANT IT TO BE. Therefore we have no one to blame but ourselves for the outcomes of our lives, whatever it may be.

Go out there and enjoy the world 145! Make it be want YOU want it to be! Oh and WHAT YOU DESERVE 2!!!!

145 here
Thanks guys for your support its nice to know that people care. About a year ago I missed the boat type of thing. Sat back and let the best opportunity of my life pass me by. I regret it now and have done this last year, did try and go back there but it was to late. The only comfort out of it all is to know that when the call comes again I will be prepared to jump, no holding back this time.

To Original Poster - sorry didnt mean to take away from you post.