Maybe it's like the Oedipus complex...

Today, I was explaining the elements and the signs that fall under each one to my friend and realized that while I'm an Air sign, I was raised by an Earth sign who pretty much instilled in me a lot of Earthly qualities. I'm not as idealistic as Geminis are described to be, and sometimes I can even be a pessimist. I don't take many risks, and I'm always calculating things and weighing all the outcomes before I act. I like to plan, and I hate to go out with no idea of where I'm going or what's going to happen. I love schedules and I MUST always be on time. (But I do have a spontaneous streak every once in a while.) While I dream like a Gemini, I dream realistically and I work hard, like my Ma.

Then I realized that my Cap was raised by an Air sign. He's told me before that I do some things like his mother, she's an Aquarius, and I'm curious to know if anyone thinks we're GREATLY affected by the sign of the person who most influenced our personalities as we grew up (i.e. the person(s) that raised us). The Cap embraces a lot of my Air sign qualities, including my talkative nature, and I feel like he should hate it lol. I never understood why I didn't turn him off a longgg time ago since Caps are supposed to be repulsed by Gemini's indecisiveness and impulsive behavior.

I know the idea that we search for qualities in our partners that we are familiar with in our parent (usually of the opposite sex). However, I was raised by my mother... But I admire her personality so much and I just realized today how similar she and my Cap are. They're both stubborn, practical, realistic, stable, rarely show emotion... I'm usually the one feeling their excitement for them... It's amazing. I always thought the Oedipus Complex thing was the most disgusting thing I'd heard of, but now I think I understand it.

Any thoughts?

GEMu,

I've thought about that too but again I think it depends on aspects of your chart. I think mutable signs are likely to give off more vibes of their backgrounds, environment, etc, while cardinal and fixed signs will probably be more true to their nature according to the charts i.e. not easy to tell them what to do - I questioned my parents and family values from day one - silently of course...so chances are I'm probably doing everything differently from they tried to teach.

I know right, Virgo scatterbrainness leads to slobbiness ! 😛 that's for you shaks !

But a lot of Aries have been said to be clean freaks - freak show !

Yeah, the only Air sign in my chart is my Sun sign, the rest are mostly Fire, followed by Earth, followed by Water. My sister is a Leo and she didn't pick up much of my mom's tendencies the way I did, but then again I was like my mom's second skin being the youngest with an 8 year gap between me and my sis. I have pretty much picked up my mom's decision process, and now whenever I tell her what I think I should do she fully agrees, unlike when I was younger and she would completely oppose and give me a new plan lol.

I just thought it was interesting how the Cap and I are interested in each other when I'm supposed to annoy the hell out of him and he's supposed to bore me. Of course, the other aspects of our charts mean a lot but I really feel like our parents have some affect on this. Where I've adapted some of my mom's traits (because adaptability is one of my things lol) he's just accepted his mother's Air sign traits. So I don't freak him out as much... I think. 😛

adapted to*** (and also inherited... typing too fast lol)