maybe, just maybe with a capricorn guy... :((

hi everyone! 🙂
i am new to this forum and i have read countless of —limited?? and —repeated?? information on how to deal with a capricorn guy. i would appreciate if someone can help me decipher this guy i am so head over heels in love with in secret and also would love a thought or two from a cappy himself.

to start off with this very complicated story, he is my boss??s son and he came back from another country last year to assist in running the company. i have been told by the house servants how he was before: silent, moody, doesn't care of anything around him but nice if you approach him or if he talks to them however they noticed since i joined the company- he started to go to the office, is conscious of his outfit(asks the maid if he looks OK), puts on perfume, smiles a lot, he has this way of looking at me, talks to them and to the other staffs in the office and he always mentions me at home over family dinner or discussions. i can narrate a lot of —new?? characteristics he has manifest over the early months ive known him as per the observations of people around him but that would be a long list. since at first i wasn't really even slightly interested at him coz i do find him annoying and i really hated how he ignores me and keeps shut the whole day in his office (which is just facing across me) then suddenly asks me random work stuff like some guy commanding a military scrutinizing every inch of my work, i brushed off all the teasing going around and the thought that , maybe, just maybe, fancies me or likes me.

then he left for a business trip which lasted for a month. during his absence plus the ongoing tease-assumptions from co-workers and house servants, i found it strange that i started to miss him and realized all the hate I have been channeling across is actually a defensive mode for me not to fall for him.

a year went by with us getting to know each other but strictly in an office atmosphere. he would look at me in a very loving way(i really love how he looks at me, like there is something he wants to say but can't), no one has ever done that and i really fell hard for him with his protective and caring side that shows up in a blue moon. he would recall some things ive said few months ago, he would tease me, he would protect me from our boss (his mom) or bullying of co-workers but then if there are new staffs joining the company he makes sure he tells them my embarrassing moments and would laugh and many more.

it was rocky road at some point coz i grew tired of the switching of moods and the on-off cold shoulder treatment but somehow, he finds a way to pull me back. weve had several drunken moments (work related) and people can see we are like glued to each other all lovey dovey but the next day, as if nothing happened. i have been reading horoscopes and articles on how to deal with these men just to keep my sanity alive and trust me, it was really tough coz i grew up from a very conservative family and i don't really flirt(cappys actually like girls who do the first move as they are shy), i wait for the guy to come up to me. i also know he has a girlfriend who is in the other side of the world running a company of her own whom he calls almost every day but still, i cling to the hope that maybe, just maybe, he??ll choose me? after all, distance makes the heart grow fonder, right?

just lately, with our tipsy happy high moments as we bumped into each other during a concert, we ended up making love. It was the best ever and surprisingly, emotions came pouring down. he told me how perfect i was, how badly he wanted me, that he is in love with me but he is confused and it is complicated, that he wished id never leave his life ever coz i make him happy and everytime i am around I make him feel good inside, that i am his kryptonite and catalyst that is why he never losses temper in the office and that my work is incomparable and that the company needs me. he begged and made me promise to stay with him forever which i responded with —i don't know, you have a girlfriend and you said you can't promise me anything. i have liked you since last year and i don't want to get stucked with someone who has a girlfriend??. he kept on saying it is really complicated(probably because of our nationalities, he is Indian with strict family orientation), that he is actually dating another girl aside from his girlfriend but they are all distant relationships and asked if i can stay for a while in his life if i can't promise forever. he said he will definitely find me in case the next day or month i decide to leave since we made love. he is scared i might change after all of this.

the week after went well, he showed how caring he is to me, again office environment. he would call and check were i am, if i ate already, wait for me to finish work and leave before he leaves and etc. we had an activity and I got —OK-drunk?? and started to rant at him for not even commenting on how i looked, for the on and off cold shoulder treatment for past year, how i gave myself and to him and all he can say is that he can't promise me anything, told him ive been secretly liking him since god knows when and told him i am not expecting anything and (with tears in my eyes) asked him to just let me go if he has no plans on me coz i am tired of this all. i told him i will leave the company soon coz i am done with this shit. he said he liked me and that i am a perfect and fantastic girl but everything is just complicated and that we should talk about this some other time coz he is struggling with family problems as of the moment and that if i really wanted to leave, he will not force me to stay. he actually walked out on me and all i can say is —but i love you??_ —

what the hell is happening? does he want another dose of love making session or has he realized my worth— i really don't know??_can somebody help and give some advice??_as a libra, i always get what i want and always makes my way with boys and this situation i am in right now is friggin challenging and frustrating to the point where i would just ask myself why am i stuck with this fugly guy when there's a lot out there who likes me? i give up!!!!i really want to move on??_i am out looking for a new job so i can stay away as possible from him and with his behavior lately, I AM IN A TOTAL LOST??_please help!

Where to start? He's not interested in a serious relationship, especially if he has a few other women waiting around. He just wants a different woman in different countries. What a great plan that is, for him! I think you should step back from the situation and regain composure on your life and feelings. He is merely trying to cause insecurities within you regarding him. A smoke show sort of thing. You are so busy wondering what he's thinking and going to do with you that you are forgetting the most important thing. Do you really want to be with this person who treats you like that? When someone cares about you, they make damn sure there is no doubt in your mind.

I would have given your story a hopeful advice until i saw "strict indian family orientation" ... Even if the guy loves you more than his girlfriend in reality that indian guy highly regards his family and his family's opinion...if youre looking for just fun and temporary relationship then yes you have a chance... But if youre loooking for a happily evere after getting married kinda of thing sorry to dissappoint you this early but the girlfriend wins this one... You see in india marriage is more of like a business thing if its arranged. The parents chooses a group of girls do background checks and then the guy chooses one from this group and then when he choosew that girl the parents of the boy would ask the girls parents if they can allow the meet up and if the girl likes to get to know the boy... Fuck im kinda tired of explaining now... Just google india ,arranged marriage and will my indian lover ever marry me hahaha.... Astrology is not the one thats gonna answer you problem...reality will.

Besides if he really wanted you he could have made love to you without the alcohol and having multiple girls is not only red flag its a big " wake the fuck up girl!!!".

Save yourself from the heartache...to know the what if's in this situation is not worth it... Youre a libra hun im sure you have some guys in line to make you forget him. Run baby run 🙂

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Where to start? He's not interested in a serious relationship, especially if he has a few other women waiting around. He just wants a different woman in different countries. What a great plan that is, for him! I think you should step back from the situation and regain composure on your life and feelings. He is merely trying to cause insecurities within you regarding him. A smoke show sort of thing. You are so busy wondering what he's thinking and going to do with you that you are forgetting the most important thing. Do you really want to be with this person who treats you like that? When someone cares about you, they make damn sure there is no doubt in your mind.

thanks...that's what i keep on telling myself,if he does care for me, he wouldn't have said "it's complicated" and leave a shadow of doubt...

i will do my best this time to just move on and forget it...difficult but i must...it's just exhausting...

Posted by libra08
I would have given your story a hopeful advice until i saw "strict indian family orientation" ... Even if the guy loves you more than his girlfriend in reality that indian guy highly regards his family and his family's opinion...if youre looking for just fun and temporary relationship then yes you have a chance... But if youre loooking for a happily evere after getting married kinda of thing sorry to dissappoint you this early but the girlfriend wins this one... You see in india marriage is more of like a business thing if its arranged. The parents chooses a group of girls do background checks and then the guy chooses one from this group and then when he choosew that girl the parents of the boy would ask the girls parents if they can allow the meet up and if the girl likes to get to know the boy... Fuck im kinda tired of explaining now... Just google india ,arranged marriage and will my indian lover ever marry me hahaha.... Astrology is not the one thats gonna answer you problem...reality will.

Besides if he really wanted you he could have made love to you without the alcohol and having multiple girls is not only red flag its a big " wake the fuck up girl!!!".

Save yourself from the heartache...to know the what if's in this situation is not worth it... Youre a libra hun im sure you have some guys in line to make you forget him. Run baby run 🙂

actually both of us were intoxicated but wev'e already discussed about this before we even went and do it...it took us almost an hour to decide coz we weighed the pro's and con's...i didn't know he had another gf in india until we grab some breakfast....

thanks babe, there are actually a lot out there, might as well cater to them so i can forget and move on but first move is to look for a new job *winks* and stay far away as possible...

Posted by Goddessproxy
Libra + Cap = kaboom

this made me laugh!! 🙂

but some do work out...

Posted by notJTG1984

Posted by Goddessproxy
Libra + Cap = kaboom

Not true, I was in a very nice relationship with a Libra woman and I work well with my Libra colleagues.

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uhuh...that's because we libra try our best to work out with everybody else...we love to please everyone...

but hey, ive had caps+libra friends who are just fine and in love...

i guess i just fell for the shittiest among the lot 😢