My Cap man experience ctd

Sorty couldn't finish the previous post. Well after reading the text, 3 days later, he deleted me from the Skype contact list bug st UND same time put his angry face in skype.
I waited for almost 20 days before I sent him another text apologizing for my new year text but no reply. Then I sent him another one saying how the Skype thing hurt me and humbly requested him not to hurt me anymore. However the very same night, he removed me from Facebook contacts. After they I texted him that he doesn't have to go thru the pain of doing all this to say he hates me and they I get the message and just wished him GL. It's been more than 20 days now. Never texted him.
I still haven't got over the chemistry we shared no matter I try hard to forget it. I keep praying to God everyday so that he comes back soon. Can anyone advice whether this is possible. What wrong did I do here? He himself stopped talking and did all this deleting stuff. But the amazing part is, he reads all my texts within 10 minutes till the last one. Don't know what's going on in his mind. He moved from an amazing person to a cold blooded one just in free days when he realized he was getting very close to me. I really fell in love with him from the wonderful time we had together. Someone Kimdly guide me what can I do next to get him back.Thanks.

Wow...I don't know why he would suddenly cut off contact like that... but to be honest, he sounds like a douche!

Maybe he has a girlfriend now, or you did something...but even if you did, that seems very immature and extreme. He should at least say something, it's the silence that's really annoying, some of us can't read minds! 🙂

I never did anything . He initially stopped studying with me saying that he needed time by himself. At that time , I only used to call him everyday to remind to him to study facts. On new years eve, I only sent a message to wish him and said that he can continue his drama of avoidance which is not part oft nature and that I don't care. Dont know why he has to cut md from Skype after that and add in his photo after deleting me. Is there something he is telling me. As far as I know him, he was a wonderful person . Not sure what he is thinking. Any idea? Kindly help

Posted by champranger
Sounds like you contacted him too much when he wants to be left alone ...

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Are we wrong Vimadit?

No. Might be. I tried my level best to not text him. Infact gave a gap of about 15-20 days to send text messages except for the last one. Altogether I only sent 3 texts in a gap of 3 months after he stopped talking to him. Now it's been almost a month after my last text.
Is there any chance , he will feel and respond back. Kindly advice

I have an e-mail sitting in my inbox since december 28th that I have been meaning to get back to.
Maybe in 2 weeks or so. Maybe whenever I really feel like it.

He will come back if he wants to. But probably as soon as you start living for yourself he will be back.
Give it time and move on.

Thanks Tigercap. This is what I have been trying to do . Just focussing on my career and leaving rest to destiny.
I saw an amazing chemistry during the time I spent with him. Everyday I pray very hard for him to come back. I try not to reflect back and think abt the moments we had together so that I can move on in a positive mode in my life. Still sometimes it really hurts to see he did that to me after all the support and affection I gave to him. Wouldn't his conscience prick after hurting an innocent soul? Sometimes I feel he did all this in the anger re the
mail I sent him on new year's eve saying he can continue his drama of avoidance and that I don't care and also that I never texted to wish him for his bday the foll week after that. So when I apologized and texted him after that saying that it hurt when he deleted me from Skype, he did the same from Facebook as he was still mad with me and wanted me to realize it. I have a feeling that deep inside his conscience is still prickIng him re what he did and he has not for sure forgotten me. Is my thinking right? Kindly guide me .

I'm wondering if he thought yall were just friends and didn't have the same feelings you did. Then when you kept contacting, he figured it was easiest to just avoid you. Then you wouldn't get the hint, so he just blocked you on everything.

Not trying to be mean, just saying that could have been his thought process. When I was very young, I don't like admitting it, but this was how I was. Yes, it was cowardly, but I was a coward in those days.

I don't think he's mad at you, but maybe irritated that you kept coming after him. —

Once we were sharing our favorite music online, he asked me whether my music talent is just hobby or ambition. Well I told him that I Would try to pursue it as am ambition after my profesdional career is established. For that he replied that he will make sure that i do so. Also, there were so msny times, he mentioned jokingly that he will never come to the city I live in as he knows that when he meets me he will be completely trapped forever. This was just a joke.
There are so many times he has told me that I have the tact of gearing him towards me by my punning jokes and encouragement.
Once he asked me whether my sister knows abt him. When I asked him back, he replied that he usually doesen't talk abt friends to his sis. But in the last few days of our conversation, he told me that he didn't pick up the phone when I called him twice. In the evening, he called me back and told me that he was abt me to his sis in the morning after he woke up . He then asked me to talk to his sis. She said that he kept on talking abt how intelligent and talented I was and she asked me abt what happened to my previous relationship.I opened out everything to her frankly as a girl girl talk. In the end, I realized that he was right there listening to everything. he has also mentioned several times that he has very few girls as friends and told me abt all of them. He mentioned that he dudnt know why he became so close to me and that all my talents drew him very close to me. Whenever I told him that I enjoyed the music sessions and that I developed affection towards him, he used to send me a winking or smiling face icon back over Skype which I guess means, I acknowledge.
Well these are a few instances which
made me feel, he also shared feelings for me. Moreover, if someone has to remove u form Skype , why should he add his photo over Skype while doing so. There were many times, I have asked him to video chat over Skype . He used to refuse sometimes saying that he looks sleepy and I would laugh looking at his face. Is this why he added his photo in the end.
Isn't all this show he is interested . Kindly advice.

Hi
Can someone guide me whether my intuitions are right.don't u think that he also shared the same feelings as me. I understand that silence and patience might be the only solution ony issue. Is thee anything else I can do to pacify him and get him to my side? Kindly advice.

Posted by Vimadit
Hi
Can someone guide me whether my intuitions are right.don't u think that he also shared the same feelings as me. I understand that silence and patience might be the only solution ony issue. Is thee anything else I can do to pacify him and get him to my side? Kindly advice.

oh jeez Vim my A.D.D kicks in when reading this lol But honestly, have you straight up asked him how he feels? I tend to lean to the old fashioned side of if a guy wants you he will pursue you no matter how strong you "thought" the connection was. But I am sure he was hot and sexy as us caps always are 😛

However, it will probably drive you crazy wondering how he feels and all the putting on and taking off of skype. I would suggest you ask straight up how he feels and based on his reaction or what he says, i would then proceed from there. Ask him for a straight answer so it won't drive you cray cray 🙂 😕

Hmm...what did you say to his sister about your past relationships?

Well she asked me what went wrong in my marriage that it almost in a break up now. Well I told her that things went wrong right from beginning and I realized that I have been living with a guy who has a lot of temper tantrums and unstable in decisions. Typically Gemini. I told her that I am just living in that house till I get a job and then push on my life from there. It has been like that for 3 years. Well she totally understood me as she has a similar situation but doesen't have the guts or family support like me to come out of it. He also mentioned that to me once. She. told me that my positive energy was a very big moral boost up for her and said she has to thank God to show someone like me.she also gave me her email add and asked me to send a test mail to keep in touch.
After talking to her, I called him that evening. When he didn't pick up the phone, I just texted him saying that he should stay behind his sis as a moral boost up. He replied back texting me her tel no asking me to keep in touch. The next day morning, when he called me up, I requested him to just pick up phone calls. I mentioned to him that I am a strong taurean and pl don't make a bull angry . U know for that context, he reied back laughing that if I ever attack him, he has the right to eat me up. Don't know what was the meaning of it?
However, I contacted his sis one week later to see how she is. But she never picked up the phone, texted or replied to my text mail . I thought probably he told his sis not to.
My query is that if he felt that I mentioned something wrong to his sis, the next day he will not respond like the way he did. Kindly guide me.

Since you're divorced, I'm assuming you guys are adults and not teenagers. So, I feel comfortable proceeding with this answer:

He had to get is sister to ask you about yourself and your past relationships? Really—!!!!!
That is HIS job, not hers. He's not a man, he's a child. Dump his wimpy ass.

No we both are in late 20's. Well he first asked me everything abt his himself while he was looking at my horoscope. He mentioned that my horoscope says that the relationship wouldn't last. After that when he asked his sis to talk to me, I assumed that he probably thought I would be more open to her and tell her everything abt me more than I have to him. Couldnt that have been the case? Most of whatever I told his sister, he already knew. He made sure to even find out abt all the crushes I had. Do u still think he is a child?

It just feels weird to me, him asking you to talk to his sister - and him listening in no doubt! Throws up a red flag that he's not a manly man; a weak man.

*shrugs*

It's hard to say...possible that he didn't like you telling him what to do about picking up his calls?

Him saying you remind him of his sister, and that you taught him tolerance are interesting comments... anyone want to weight in?

I am also equally puzzled by all the comments I mentioned. There are some good points I found in him. For example, re job issues, he said he would never ask or accept help from anyone. He wants to be a self made person. Also he is very focused and ambitious. Although he shows a cold exterior , I have seen how soft and caring he is inside.
While we were studying, he used to remind me the time if I had to go for a job and will call me immediately after I come back to see i am back.