Need advice from Capricorn menMy

My bf (not official at all) is a Capricorn (sun, mercury and venus signs are all capricorn) and a taurus in moon sign. So I need a capricorn men's advice. Because for me being a Gemini who relies on words and not action are so different from him and I just want some advice.
Also everytime I read Capricorn men's advice they seem so correct.
Once I read from a post by a Capricorn man who said you must understand that Capricorn men do not want to admit that they need a woman and Capricorn men tend to think that too much love destroys them. That really explains the way he acts.
He is a very Capricorn guy so I hope I get that Capricorn advice!

Here is what happened in our relationship. We met about a year and a half ago on a dating site. I felt attracted to him that I did not hesitate anything on our second date. He asked me to go to his house and I went and asked he asked me to go to a married couple's party next weekend and he kissed me. I felt attracted to him I led him to the bed but I wasn't thinking of doing it. He asked me aren't we moving too fast but I said no. When he was really going for it I said I did not want it but he sort of forced. Well at that time I was sort of seeing another guy who I did not want as a bf. So I was cheating on both of them for 3 weeks but quickly ended with the other guy to be with the Capricorn. I knew that Capricorn knew. He could sense a lie from miles away. After that we quickly hung out like a normal couple. Met him 4 times a week and hung out every weekend except when he was in business trips. He introduced me to his closest friends and ppl from work. And other of his friends that came from out of town. But at the same time he would sometimes get angry and say that we are not a couple and say that he is not interested in longterm relationship and apologize but I would tell him that I still liked him and he would treat me more like a real couple after that.

Once when we came back in the morning from bar hopping with friends and I was totally sleeping in bed he had done it without protection. I woke up suprised when I found out that he did not use protection. I told him that there might be a possibility that I might become ... Then we talked and I said that I would go and get the 72 hour pills. However I did not because I had serious 1 on 1 meetings at my job concerning that I might get fired. That night when he asked me if I went to the hospital and I replied no ... to be continued

He became hysterically angry at me. He totally blaimed the situation to me and said that he will not see me if I did was or was not pregnant. We fought on line for about a month. I found out that I was not pregnant and then he did not believe it for a second but any how we stopped contact for months and then one day about 3 months after that his friend came to my 2nd work place where I worked in a store. He came as a customer to ask that he wanted to change the color of the product that he bought. He came 3 times. The next day coincidently I saw my Capricorn man at a restaurant and I could not say hi to him because I was scarred.(His past words put me into low confiedence). But after when I went back home I told him that I saw him online. He said why I did not say hi to him. I said that I felt awkward. And he asked me was it because I was pregnant or not (probabbly as a joke). I told him that I was not pregnant and asked him if he sent his close friend to my work place to check if I was pregnant or not. He replied no. But he said that I made him paranoid all long thinking that I might be pregnant. So I replied jokingly that it was my plan so he would be careful with his future lovers (it was irony). That conversation ended and no contact from neither of us for another 3 months.
Then, one day suddenly started to talk to me online. I asked him if he has a gf and he he replied that he just ended a non serious relationship. He asked me if I had a bf and I said no. He said that he is going to leave the country in about 4 months and asked me if I wanted to see him. (I knew he was going to leave the country as he told me from the beginning of our realtionship)
He often goes to international trips but this time it would be for good.
While we were distant I hung out with guys but never had a relationship. Just friends but I did not think about him because I thought that he had no intention to contact me again. I replied I'll think about it . And after few weeks when I was finally not busy with work I met him. He asked me out to meet him in a bar and we chatted. He was really sweet like our first date. Joking and made me laugh.
.. to be continued

At that night I sort of heard him mumble that he still feels the same way to me. I text him the next day asking last year he said that it was only for sex (he said this before we parted when we were fighting) so what does feel the same way mean? And last year we always hung out at his house or go to bars but not really went outside or else where on trips.
I know he is super busy because he needs to prepare to go back to school and international trips but he would really kick me out the next morning. He said that it was not for sex but gradually he would really treat me like it was just for sex. Sometimes in bed he would say things like "I wish I could make you happy " I also being pretty busy and serious working as I send money to my mom sometimes I leave abruptly to go to work the next morning. Then I once saw tears in his eyes. So I was thinking that maybe he really does love me.

One day he asked me to go and look for an extra tooth brush for me in his mirror cabnet. There I found many other woman's cosmetic stuff. I never look into his private stuff. And I had to see them because he sent me to look at it. As he is super organized I am sure he wanted me to see it on purpose. Then I was angry and he said I was not the only woman that he is seeing. Then when he tried to have sex he forced and he seemed really satisfied and then he said "it only takes 3 little words". my mind was like "what?? I love you or what?" but I just held still and he suddenly said "ok thats it. " He did something wierd in bed for the first time too. He got an object of a dog and put it on the bed and told me to say "hi doggy".. wtf?!
So in the morning he was going to kick me out as usual I finally cried and told him that I was not an object. and for the first time he said I cant let you go like this and held me but it was not tender and then he said "im scarred of relationships. my father used to cheat on my mother all the time. maybe im becomming like that". But he just contacted me 2 months ago after 7 months and I could not really believe that he was cheating on me. .. to be continued

It was not what I wanted to hear. My point to him is that he could not treat me or any woman like an object for any reason. And I started to talk and talk how abusive it is. But I dont think he wanted to hear it. But I was kind of acting and I could not hide laughing .. but I was serious at the time too.
Then I was not able to see him for some time and then the next time I saw him he passed me a kitchen towel and there was a woman's hair. and I told him that I could not sleep with him. Then he said that I could go and then there was a call from a woman.
A couple of days after that I said that I am stressed and I am going to ask a friend to strangle me. I like to be strangled but he does not like to do it. So even if he offered to do it I didnt let him do it. I thought if he is cheating why should I not. So I went to this friend who has an open relationship with his wife and asked him to do it because he likes s and m. But I had all my clothes on and just asked to choke me with a rope for a second. I think its rediculous too but its one of those crazy things ppl do to forget other pains in life. I dont really do it. Its just an idea I came up at that time.
The next time I met my Capricorn he was ordering things for me to do like go buy some things for him. asked me if I like giving massages. ( He never asked me to do things before) Then for the first time he asked me about my ex boyfriend... to be continued

So then I thought he was jealous and again I thought maybe he really does love me. But that night we had the most boring sex. And then the next time I asked to meet he said we dont talk and sex is even boring so what was the point. I started to get pushy and then he started to say that we should start to think about not seeing each other and that he is already moving on. Then another time he said that if I want we could see each other in a nutural bar and no sex as a "bye bye" drink before he departs to go to another country.
I told him sure at first then told him then later told him that "I was not a prostitute nor a bar hostess and I wanted to marry him and talked to my mom and all of my friends that there is this guy I wanted to marry. And you dont have to waiste time to meet someone who was only for sex. And its stupid for me to meet someone who I love but he has no interest in me besides sex". He then asked me to meet him but I said no but right before he left I said that I wanted to say bye face to face but he left with no reply.

After that I mailed him and told him in details how he is so self centered and how its so wrong to treat woman like that. And that I always knew he was like that and that I hated business minded people and because of men like him I was self destructive in my youth but some of my male friends are so different and modern and understand woman and supportive. At the same time I asked him to say that I was not worth it so that I could forget him and move on. Again he did not reply to any of my thoughts about respecting me but he said that he was seeing another girl 2 months before he left and that he was happy and free with her and that she was the sweetest girl he met in a long time. But even her he wont see again so I have no choice at all. And he told me to just remember the good things. And that there is no future for us.
I told him that next time he contacts me I will not comeback and its over and that he is not the right guy for me.
And no contact from him nor me for a month now.

And here is my question to Capricorn men (Hopefully around 28-33) he is 30. First of all do you think that he had any love toward me? (I kept on thinking so when I saw tears in his eyes when I left abruptly, and when he called me secretly with no phone number display when he knew I was out with friends very very late.) But he always wanted me to meet at night (but this could be because he is busy)
to be continued

Another question is do you think he found this other girl and he liked her as he says? (He was pretty busy preparing for school and international trips and leaving his work and to prepare to leave the country. This is all a fact because I saw the facts and evidence)
So I don't think he had time to see other girls. But there was hair in his room and bed room. But he has relatives and friends at his house often.
Did he do that on purpose or am I trying to avoid to see the sad fact?

If he has not replied on my last mail saying to him that I will not come back, what does it mean?

On my own I have written in my calendar that he does not reply by this month which is 3 days left then I will start finding other guys.

Is there anyway to really make him clear(if he loves me)? Although I kind of think he does not quite love me seriously as a life time partner as Capricorns decide very slowly?
Or do you think he did not love me at all?

I don't want to waiste time and I love this guy if he loves me but if he does not I think he is just a total jerk.

Thanks for reading all of this.
I will be waiting for your advice and answers!!

Thanks for your reply but are you a leo? ?i??rom your suedo 5lion5).. because leos and capricorns are different when expressing thoughts although they are both dominant. So thats why I need a capricorn's advice. I maybe very wrong but capricorns say stuff that they don't mean. I wouldnt call it rape. I think it would be clearly rape if he was not a guy I was seeing and knew and had sex before moreover when you liked him. So thats why I use the word force.
But more and more I feel I really need to find a new guy.

I don't mean to be harsh, but it doesn't always take a Capricorn to tell you about a Capricorn. The guy completely ditched you when he thought you were pregnant. Do you really want to be with that? He's willing to do all the things to create a child, but God forbid he be locked into some form of relationship with you for the rest of his life because you end up pregnant. Any guy that can run from you at a time like that is simply not worth your time. He could've expressed his feelings about not wanting a child in a much better way, not by abandoning you. I can't even comment on all the other red flags you've posted.

He sends you to his bathroom so you can see other women's stuff— My Cap tries his HARDEST to make me feel like I'm the only woman in the world. He won't even bring up the subject of seeing or talking to other people, although I'm sure we both do it. We're not exclusive. So for him to do that to you should show you what position you have in his life...

Care more about yourself hun. You may not see it because you're so wrapped up in what you WANT to become of the two of you, but this guy has some serious changing to do if you want a man who's worthy of YOU. I can't express this enough. Women, hold your heads up. You are beautiful, amazing, and magnificent. Don't let any guy 'force' you to do anything. (And it is VERY possible to be raped by someone who you've been intimate with before. If you say no, and he still does it, THAT'S RAPE. My friend was raped by her husband before they divorced. So it IS rape if you don't want it and he 'forces' you.) Think highly of yourself and you will force him to do the same. Until then, you'll just be another toothbrush in his bathroom cabinet...

he knew he was leaving the country...i think he is holding onto his past so much and he's scared of the future. what that has to do with the horrible way he treats you, i don't know.

Dear Black Hair Gemini

I am a leo. I am going out with a Capricorn and they are very difficult creatures to understand. I am 20 and he is 44. There is a huge age gap between us but we work together. I have discovered and read up alot about the star signs, all of them, and Capricorns I have noticed, throughout their lives do not like to discuss things. Hw will never tell you that he loves you until he feels it with all his soul. It depends on how much experiemce he has had with women but Capricorns feel things sometimes more than we do, with much more passion and soul. If he si just inetersted in sex it is because he is not fulfilled mentally. He needs to feel that he is being mentally stimulated as well as sexually. Capricorns are very picky too. They keep a little black book of all your faults. They like to be in control of the relationship and they do not like a woman who talks too much and asks too many questiosn. They are very old fashioned which can be a good thing and they see people's flaws more than thrie good points. How was your first meeting. Where did you meet?

My relationship with this Capricorn has been similar to yours in some ways, but I was the one leaving the country. That is besides the point, but what I am trying to say is that Capricorns need to feel fulfilled mentally and sexually. Do you talk about other guys to him? They do not like to be made to feel small and they don't like competition. Basically if he trusts you enough, he will bare his soul to you and tell you things he would never tell another human being, but remember that Capricorns are not easy goats to love. They twist things and are confusing, but (and this is also a male thing) remember that they are different from us. Men do not like to be pushed into answering questions. They do not like to feel trapped. Let him go and if he loves you, if you are enough for him, he will return, come hell or hih water. Do not wait too long though...your soul mate could be just around the corner. But remember the lessons you learnt from this man, Capricorns are special and they teach you to appreciate things that you might never have if you had not met them. But never let a man treat you badly...even if you love him, or think you do. Don't waste your time if he will not settle and answer you straight and don't let him play games with your head...

I hope you are ok and that you find someone who deserves you and will not play games with you. Kindness is the key...

My bf (not official at all) is a Capricorn

*Stops and rereads*

Umm, so you are having sex with this guy and he isn't your official boyfriend ... why? If he's a capricorn, you may have wanted to wait until he was your official boyfriend before the sex. I'm a female cap, but I know how we are 😉