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So after many months my Capricorn friend has started asking me if "I like him"(which I do)....he has asked me on more then one occasion but I am afraid to answer it because I am very skeptical of revealing what I feel to someone first. I"m not sure if he wants to know in order to atroke his ego or if he may feel the same too (which I hope he does).My question is if a capricorn man is inquiring if I feel more, is it because he GENUNINELY wants to know? I know that everyone is different but I am asking from an astrological point of view. We;ve been seeing each othe but this last visit he asked me that question again and now he starting to offer to fo things for me...this is after many MONTHS. So I am just wondering where it is coming from.

sorry about the typos

I like him alot...and I "FEEL" that he likes me too. But I am not sure. I would just feel more secure if he would open up first. He is staring o ask me if certain things that he has done in the past "bothered"me, and if they did, he was sorry. I think the fact that its outta no where is causing me to raise an eybrow. Like whats really going on. I've been so hurt in the past that I just cannot be the first to express.

Posted by softy
I like him alot...and I "FEEL" that he likes me too. But I am not sure. I would just feel more secure if he would open up first. He is staring o ask me if certain things that he has done in the past "bothered"me, and if they did, he was sorry. I think the fact that its outta no where is causing me to raise an eybrow. Like whats really going on. I've been so hurt in the past that I just cannot be the first to express.

Then change the reason for expression.

It appears from what you said (being hurt in past from expressing) .. that the reason why you express your feelings to another is for their approval of you, so that they will reiterate to you how they feel about you with an expectation of them sharing the sentiments.

That's a set up you do to yourself ..... for, in that scenerio, the only reason you share your feelings is so this other person can make you feel good about yourself, by feeling the same as you ... and if they don't feel the same, then you feel bad about yourself.

That's absurd, really.


So, change the reason for the verbal expression. don't have any expectations of what is going to be expressed back to you because you aren't saying them for a response.

Say them without an expectation .... say them because they are yours, whether another person agrees or not. You will find that it doesn't matter what he says back .. what will matter is that your emotionally strong enough to own your own feelings for yourself, with confidence whether another person approves or not.

Then you will find that that ^^^^ is the very quality you ever really needed to feel secure in the first place, and that the lack of it is what caused the insecurity. You think it's another person causing the insecurity, but, it's not .. the culprit is in thinking it's up to another person to decide upon whether how you feel about them is acceptable enough for them, so you can feel good about yourself.




You don't need another person to accept your feelings, softy .... you only have to feel that they are acceptable to you.

Thank you P-Angel. I have ruined relationships in the past with the guard I put up due to my own insecurities. I need to be true to myself and my feelings without being afraid.

I don't think he is really a capricorn we never ask anyone if they like us. Its a sign of weakness

nope not to make u feed his ego. he really wanted to know. my cap asked this before when i went quiet a few times, for just a few days, and even asked if i was seeing someone else. he's a straightforward, no-nonsense man. if he wants to know something.. he will ask. if he has something in mind.. he will tell.

but umm whats his chart like..

well well little man got a lot to say today to bad I cant stay and play but I am off to the pub. what is that what is that glimmer thing you have going for your self there some kind of suit material? as far as emotions go don't have many. weakness shure but I know what they are and work around them.

Applemint....how do I find out his chart

I think this is it Applemint

Sun Capricorn 4.03
Moon Pisces 4.01
Mercury Capricorn 22.47
Venus Aquarius 18.51
Mars Sagittarius 25.18
Jupiter Taurus 21.54 R
Saturn Leo 16.10 R
Uranus Scorpio 10.37
Neptune Sagittarius 14.26
Pluto Libra 14.04
Lilith Taurus 16.48
Asc node Scorpio 1.24

^^^LOL...why is it wow?

Ima Cancer....Well...My friends say I send mixed signals...like as when someone has it in their mind that I may like them MORE...i do something to that makes them question AGAIN whether I really do, which in th end leaves them unsure. My venus is in Gemini.

venus in aqua just run now...

IMHO softy your feelings are very valid, you are expecting the natural order of things which plays in your favor, when women open up too soon it typically ends bad were someone is feeling manipulated and hurt.

I too would be as you are, don't be baited into revealing your feelings first especially sense venus in aqua men are usually huge commitment phobes UNLESS your completely secure with whatever the outcome, continue to hold back until he reveal his true intentions. The last thing you need is to feel insecure over a man, typically what happens in the end is not good, men withdraw and run, if has some strong emotions over you he may be looking for an exit, men usually don't fall into a womans arms after she confesses her true feelings, let him express his feelings first, it will work out in your favor.

Usually men that secure won't ask this kind of question, they just go with how they feel, if he's asking you then he's on the fence about his own feelings inside, you bearing your heart will only create more conflict.

Posted by softy
Ima Cancer....Well...My friends say I send mixed signals...like as when someone has it in their mind that I may like them MORE...i do something to that makes them question AGAIN whether I really do, which in th end leaves them unsure. My venus is in Gemini.

Men (real men)love challenges, you aren't making them leave, they are showing you they were going to leave anyway, those were not men that were real about you, they were man-boys that was looking for easy...so don't beat yourself up over the mixed messages, if he wanted you they would take on your mixed messages as a challenge, keep the mixed messages, you will get rid of assclown man-boys much sooner than later. It's not your responsibility to reveal all of your inner world, if he is really into you, intrigued by you, he should want to stick around long enough to figure it out. Venus in Gemini people tend to be wishy washy...

Let him express himself first and then and only then you express yourself...be clear

Thanks Tiki.

Thanks ARcher>>>

So its difficult for a Cap to ask if you like them?

Maybe....but the word "like" isnt really a strong word. Thats why I asked.

Im consider myself extremeley scary when it comes to love and relationships..so it would definitely be difficult for ME. but i consider myself abnormal in that area. but "like" seems pretty safe. How do you "FEEL" seems like it would difficult.

I'm not offended at all. You are right. I do give him plenty of affection and he seems to love it. I do think he knows I like him. Maybe he just wants to hear me say it I guess. We cant assume anything i suppose. I always felt like he liked me too...but i still was uncertain at times...and didn't know what extent.

You guys are really helping me and giving me courage (:

Awwwww, this is sooooo sweet 😄! YAY! 😄 I like happy, sweet stuff 🙂

Actually, if a capricorn wants to know if you like them, then yes they really want to know. Most caps that I know don't care if people like them. True, we worry about are image but thats to benefit us on the money front really. Some only care about what their families think of them and thats it.


The rest of the chart is very important here. You see, I have a venus in Aqua as well 😉 I have a very 'you either like me or don't' way about myself. However, the difference between me and your capricorn is that he has a pisces moon and I have an Aqua moon.


Pisces moon are more in touch with what people are feeling verses a Aqua moon. The Aqua mooners are so busy trying to find out how things tick, we often miss out on what people are feeling until its bought to our attention. Thank god for my Aqua-Pisces Mars, that gives me the emotional depth I need lol. Your cap has a Mars in Saggie -- which indicates that he like the popular vote 😉

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